Haana R

My fiancee has an ex wife/baby momma that has been a thorn in my side. She has another husband and the two of them just had a baby and the first person she chose to call was her ex. She told me months ago that if she wanted him back she could have him ( something I chose not to share with him) She refuses to allow the children around me because she says that she doesn't want the children to call another woman mother however is makes the children call her new husband dad. I am have second thoughts about our pending marriage because I don't know if I could with her for the rest of my life... Any advice

By fiancée and I have the same fight every month. We fight about his ex wife and the control she tries to have in his life. We fight because she wants to have control over what the children do while they are here with us. She has even gone so far as to send me a certified letter telling she doesn’t want me with 300 feet of her and that she feels I am danger to her and her children.

She wants to have access to their father whenever she wants however he can only have access to the children when she approves.

She has told me that she could have him back whenever she wanted but the kicker is she is married to someone else.

Here is my problem I think that he should tell her that I am the person he has chosen to spend his life with and that her having control or say over that is not apart of their relationship. I want his communication with her to be limited only to the children I don’t want them talking about anything else other than that. Am I wrong?