specialfizz

situation: I have a best friend who's also a boy- "nick". We usually hang out one a fortnight, maybe less. Ever since I've known him, we've always hooked up. We've never had sex, but we've come quite close to it a few times. Initially I felt this was totally wrong- but, frankly, girl got needs and I felt comfortable with him. We get on really well.

I am now interested in his best friend "Paul". Nick doesn't know about my interest in Paul (who is, by the way, absolutely lovely and the most attentive man I've ever met)- but I think he's got vibes. I know Paul hasn't said anything either (we're taking it slowly). Nick had told me that he wasn't interested in a relationship with me, that he was attracted to me, but didn't feel I was "the one" and has always dated other women since I've known him (although has always preferred my company over theirs). Recently, though (within the last 2 weeks!) Nick suddenly has been a lot more affectionate and interested in seeing me. I saw him tuesday, friday, saturday and last night and he wants to see me this weekend too.

I don't have feelings for Nick as anymore than a friend now- he really upset me when I did have feelings for him- but I'm confused by his sudden change in behaviour. Do men change their minds about "the one"? Does he feel threatened by Paul? I've recently lost about 20 pounds- I'm a bit chubby and I'm working on toning up- do you think that could influence his feelings towards me? I just want to know why he wants to see me so much now but didn't before, really. This may seem like a bit of a pathetic teenage problem...but he's so hard to read. One moment he wants to kiss me and the next he's aloof. Am I being played and why does he want to date women he doesn't get on with half as well as me?

Thanks so much for reading this if you have! It means a lot. X

I'm SO confused. I've been trying to find out my body shape for AGES.

My measurements are 42 (bust), 34 1/2 (waist), 42 hips- what does that make me? a rectangle? I've been told hourglass before- but I have a bit of a tummy, and I feel like my curves aren't extreme enough to be an hourglass?

Can you be a merge of two different body shapes? :)

I have this friend, we've been really good friends for about 2 years now, and we met via the internet. We got along from the off, and then 6 months later met up.

I've changed a lot in 2 years (after all, when he and I first started talking, I was only 17) and when we first met I was 1. terrified, because I felt unattractive and 2. a bit of a crap kisser.

annnyway, he then said he didn't feel that way, and although I was upset I accepted it and moved on.

we then rebuilt our friendship, and thanks to a loooottt of other male attention, I was a lot more confident and capable. We met up for a second time as friends, and ended up kissing.

Since then it's been a bit weird- we've met up a couple of times- one time it went a bit too far and we very almost slept together. He says he really enjoys our conversation and likes how comfortable he feels around me because there's nothing he can't say and he feels at home- he also finds me sexually very attractive, and while we used to openly discuss sex, I've recently decided this isn't a good idea (I quite like the idea of playing hard to get, and I felt like I was making myself out to be a bit of a happy meal)

anyway, in conclusion, why doesn't he want me? I mean, like, really want me? surely, if someone ticks the boxes, and they're sexually attractive and amazing to talk to, you'd want to make them your own? What am I doing wrong? should I never speak about other guys? and was making myself sexually unavailable to him a good idea (does the play-hard-to-get thing work?!)

so there's this guy. he's not especially clever, or charming- he's quite good looking, but he smokes like a chimney and drinks like a fish.

although he has stated he likes me ("when i saw you there, yeh, i was like totally in love with you straight away") he's said that he finds the fact he finds me well off, well spoken and well educated a massive turnoff because he likes to be the "better one in a relationship".

On one hand it's really lovely to be fancied because he thinks I'm pretty, on the other hand I know he finds what other people would regard as positive aspects to me a massive turnoff. I can't help but fancy this guy though! Are there any ways people can suggest that can put you off guys you know are wrong for you before you get any more involved emotionally?

I have a guy that I fancy, really really fancy. I decided to be brave, as you do, and send him a message asking him for a coffee with me. It took him 10 days to reply (!) but he said of course, that he doesn't drink it but for me he would make an exception (oh my word I hope he doesn't stumble across this, it's very specific!), I sent him a message just asking for timings and it's been another 4 days since that was sent and no reply.

so, does he just not want to meet up and he's trying to politely find a way of putting me off? It's highly unlikely he's too busy to respond, he's on facebook from time to time, so I don't know, did I make a massive mistake by making a friendly first move?

Okay, here's the deal- I'm 17, and I'm very heavy- 16 stone. whilst this really very unhealthy, and i totally accept that and am on both an eating plan and have my fantastic daily slog at the gym I'm a straight (not especially snug) size 16 in every store I buy clothes at.

I'm pretty sure I'm not kidding myself, my measurements are 43, 35, 43- unless that's bigger than a size 16. My scales aren't broken, that really IS how much I weigh- what on EARTH is going on?!

thing is, i have this guy friend thats been my best friend for a long time now, but i have absolutely no idea if he actually likes me (it would be hilarious if he read this, and id possibly die of embarrassment)

He's so flirty, and he's a pretty flirty person generally otherwise i wouldn't bother asking, but he is constantly telling me how pretty i am and how fantastic i am and how any guy would be so lucky to have me hes ALWAYS being touchy feeling, in fact he doesn't get out of my personal space, and always gets within 2 inches of my face. however, he said id be more attractive if i lost weight (which annoyed me, but meh :P)

I know he's just got a girlfriend who's not like me at all, but he keeps leaving me secret notes saying "i love you"- his number one on myspace is still me, even though i know she's changed hers to him- he phones and emails me every night and wants to see me at every possible chance he can- over all, what do you think, does he like me like "that"?

I'd like to know what qualities make a girl really unattractive? Like too much confidence? flabby belly?...salad stuck between your front teeth...? hehe answer please ^_^