ryandote

My wife and I have been a little distant lately between different jobs, opposite schedules, financial disagreements, etc. We're not quite all the way back to roommates, yet, but it feels like it's been heading there for the last 6 months. In short, I prefer being by myself to being with her.

I recently found out that her extremely tall, dark and handsome boss has been making passes at her. (I'm pretty good looking myself, but I don't have the "newness" any more that this guy has. I was okay with them even being close friends.... until I found out it was a little more. I was leaving regularly on trips to interview for medical school, and I guess we were extra apart, etc. She would hold hands alone in his office and he would tell her how happy he could make her. He could leave his wife, and she deserved so much more, etc. Eventually he kissed her. She had to admit to me that even though it wasnt' her who initiated the kiss, she didn't stop either. She decided just afterwards it was wrong, and went home sick for the rest of the day, then took a few personal days until she could get reassigned.

Now she tells me she's really sorry and want's to stay together, but a small tiny part of me seems like it has been waiting for this opportunity: for a legitimate reason to quit. On the other hand, I genuinely love her and wish the best for her, but when I look at the rest of my life I enjoy seeing her there.... but it's pretty easy to picture my life without her, too... any thoughts ?