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My boyfriend doesn't understand marriage and I have always wanted to get married. Before we started dating, i asked him if he'd ever want to get married to someone and he said "Yes." apparently this was all to appease me. He said if you believe in marriage you will "need to make a more convincing argument about what marriage is."

He also wants to invest in real estate and said if we don't live together all the time he doesn't really care.

He never goes down on me or satisfies me, he used to all the time, but now he barely kisses me, or touches me. I feel emotionally, physically neglected.

Needless to say I have become bitter and get angry at him a lot because I try to address these issues and they never get addressed. (I actually attempt to communicate and don't assume he should read my mind.) Me getting angry at him and being short doesn't make him want to be intimate with me obviously, and all I want is for him to understand that I love him and that I'm hurt by his actions. Even when I try to tell him this he just deflects.. I am realizing he really just doesn't care.

My bf doesn't understand or want to get married but I do. He knows it's important to me, but still is like "well if it's important to you, you should make a convincing argument."

The F***?

He also wants to invest in real estate and doesn't really care if we live together or not. He said he would like us to work out long term, but doesn't have a lot of faith cause relationships barely last. I can't remember the last time he went down on me, like two years. He used too all the time, now he is so withdrawn.

All this to say I am frustrated and angry a lot of the time with him. I try to talk about these things and put in a lot of effort and I get an attitude and apathy in return. I am feeling deprived emotionally, physically and we aren't connecting.

I want to keep having hope that things will work out, but am so underappreciated.

My bf and I have been together for 2+ years. He recently claims that he isn't sleeping with me to respect my faith in Christ and what I believe.

I find this hard to believe cause he has blatantly disregarded it before, called me stupid for being a Christian and doesn't believe in marriage.

So, that means that we'd never have sex again because he doesn't want to get married. He also has cheated on past gf's and I've found messages of him talking to other women. He has a high sex drive and never has had any moral standards before. Now all the sudden he's saying he hasn't been sleeping with me cause he wants to respect my faith. If it's true, Great! that's very kind, but I don't buy it. I tried talking to him about it and he got all sarcastic that the reason why he won't sleep with me is cause it's a sin.

I have moments of intense depression where I get so fed up and bored with life that I want to end things. I don t know what the point of being alive is when there is never-ending pain and misery.

I can t trust anyone, everyone in my life disappoints me and lets me down at some point. The second I trust someone they screw me over. I don t really care much for any person and I hate myself. I don t even know why I am bothering to ask for advice when everything is meaningless in the end.

It’s a clearly defined monogamous relationship. My bf knows that isn’t okay with me, we’ve clearly defined our relationship and he continues to betray my trust. After the first time it happened I was upset, but expressed that if he wants to see multiple people and have that freedom- that he should pursue that and do what he wants and stop dragging me along.

He insisted that it wouldn’t happen again and that he wanted to be with just me and he started therapy for it. But here we are six months later in the same place as before and i don't think I'll ever be able to trust him cause he doesn't respect me and hasn't changed.

I'm torn cause I do love him and we've been together for three years, however; I don't want to be foolish and expect that it won't happen again. Also, I am only 27, and have a lot going for me apart from him. I am not financially dependent, don't have any kids, we are not legally tied together in any way.

I am so hurt because he clearly wasn't thinking about me when he was talking to whatever her name was.

I am angry and scared of being alone if I leave, but don't really see any other way...

Any advice is welcome.

Thank you

The other day my bf and I were watching a youtube video on his phone and a message from facebook messenger popper up. I didn't get to read the whole thing but it said "Maybe we coud.........."

He instantly closed it and moved to the other side of the bed. I said who was that chick messaging you and he said "mutual friend." and..."we work out together at the gym sometimes"..."you work out at the gym? "No, we don't."

I asked to read the messages. (six months ago I found messages of him talking to several girls on facebook.) I decided to give him another chance, so that being said it would make sense for him to show me the messages.)

He said no. It's my private business. I grabbed his phone out of his hands to see the truth. He tackled me and we wrestled on the bed to get it back. He says nothing's going on, but why hide it? I said what was the message about and he said it was "bad." I said like sexual stuff and he said "I didn't say that."

He also doesn't support my faith in Jesus, calls me dumb for being a Christian and talks about how abortion is the best thing- he hates kids. He also has told me how he wants to sleep with other women but doesn't cause he's in relationship with me.