Rebecca

I've lost 2.5 stone in the last few years but in the last 7 months (since getting the contraceptive implant) I've put back on 7lbs. I'm not too concerned as I usually gain over the winter and lose over the summer and all my UK size 10 clothes still fit perfectly, but I'm scared that if I don't take drastic mesaures now to start getting the weight off again I might just carry on gaining? All of my boyfriend's ex's have been stick thin so I don't want to repel him by gradually putting on weight.

I know women do too, but it seems to be so predominant in males. I don't understand the idea that it is ok for men to look at naked women performing those acts when they are supposed to be in love with someone else. I understand that everyone enjoys sexual relief both in and out of relationships but it seems that society holds the attitude that women are wrong for being upset when their partners watch porn, but I know that the vast majority of my male friends would be crushed if they found out that their girlfriends were pleasuring themselves to other men. Why is it more ok for men than for women, and why don't men see it as cheating - if there is no emotions attached is it really any different to having a one night stand with someone just because you find them attractive?

My boyfriend's favourite band are playing at a festival in the summer which I can't go to because I have an exam the next day. The thought of him going without me terrifies me, as when we're together we are blissfully happy but as soon as we are apart I start to think I'm not good enough and that he'll meet someone better any moment. I desperately want him to go and it was my idea in the first place, as I know how much this band means to him. But I know that the months between now and then I will be stressing over the possibility of him meeting someone else there (we do not share musical taste at all and every girl there will) and having one night stands or maybe more. I know that he is completely dedicated to me and our relationship but he has cheated on other people in the past, and I've had a series of horrible and abusive relationships which make me feel paranoid and unworthy even now. Is there anything I can do to relax while he's away so I can focus on my exam instead of worrying about what he's doing?

My boyfriend was talking with a friend (I was present) about how they can never 'get it up' when they're drunk, except for one person according to my boyfriend. Apparently she's the hottest person in the world second only to Megan Fox and the only person he managed to maintain an erection with after he'd been drinking. The first time we had sex he was drunk and couldn't stay erect, so this hurt me a lot even though I know that I am the first and only girl to make him ejaculate. I asked her name and he refused to tell me for a good half an hour, only upsetting me more, and when he did tell me he warned me that I wouldn't know anyone who knew her and that she isn't on facebook (what kind of hot person doesn't have facebook?) he has been known to lie before and I'm tempted to think she doesn't exist at all, but if this is the case why would he lie when he knew it would make me feel so inadequate?

I have to wear a skirt (so tights as well) as a uniform for my work, but since I have a week off now where I will be able to wear trousers that won't disturb the tattoo should I go today or soon to get it? I aimed to get it done before the summer as well, since I'm going away on holidays and to festivals where I don't want to have to worry about an intense care routine for it. I got my last tattoo over 2 years ago so I'm slightly foggy on the details about healing and how much wearing tights will affect it :/

I've recently stepped up my exercise regime to at least an hour every day, so obviously I have noticed that I am sweating more than usual and my hair gets greasy very quickly (looks like it needs washing every day rather than every 2/3 days). Is it ok to wash my hair every day - is it just a myth that it will become dried out and frizzy? Or is there any other method I can use to keep my hair clean looking in between washes?

The employer said they would call today to let me know if I had been successful, but I don't know if this will be during work hours or after, does anyone know what the standard procedure is and whether I should give up hope? :(

I've had my microdermal for maybe 11 months, and had no issues until now - it settled perfectly and I've never tried to change the top. However I did notice last week that it seemed swollen and even with my wrist bent, it was still completely flush with the skin, it used to be raised slightly. The swelling has now worsened and the skin around it is red. It isn't hot or painful, just a bit sore. How should I treat it to stop this getting any worse? I would try saline soaks but the position of the microdermal makes this almost impossible :(

Last night I text my ex after having a bit too much to drink. We had been seeing each other (for the second time) until last week, when he started to ignore me completely. This is the first time he replied to my texts (or calls, messages, anything) in a week. the conversation went like this:

me: Trust t

(i think this means 'i still trust you', but I can't be sure - the last time he spoke to me he was acting off but told me to trust him)

him: what?

me: I don't know. Happy you replied

him: ...Okay. Ofc, i was expecting to be dragged to fireworks in the cold today but no one contacted me so I'm in -------. What are you up to then?

(traditionally we go to the fireworks together with another friend)

me: I thought you wanted me to leave you alone and ----- didn't come out anyway. I'm drunk in bed. I hope you're happy Because that Matters

him: I didn't say that. I dont even know how to be happy anymore but im trying to be

me: Good. I know you didn't say it but you didn't say much and that suggested it. Fireworkd remind Me so much of you. Maybe it will be ok

him: I don't know anything anymore. All I do know is that im signing up when im done with college, im carrying on with my family tradition to serve my country. I've thought long and hard about it and my mind is made up, it's going to be my ultimate test. I need you to be able to live without me - you never know.

me: I can barely sleep, I can barely live, I wish so much that you wanted to hear what I have to say

him: So tell me, make me listen, be assertive.

me: I love you

him: I love you too, I really do, you must know that by now. It just isn't the only factor in my thought train.

We haven't spoken since. I think if I say anything he'll ignore me again. I don't know what to do because even though we've both been in different relationships we've always stayed close, and I'm more than a bit lost without him.

I've had my one tattoo for two years now. It's just a block black spider and quite small, but it hasn't faded at all (probably due the fact that being on my ribs, it has never seen the sun and I don't swim so it hasn't really been in water/chemicals for an extended amount of time) but I was wondering how long I can expect it to last before I start to see fading / discolouration / ink spreading?

I am hoping to get a tattoo of an owl on my wrist/inner forearm which will obviously see more sun and spend more time in water... as well as being more detailed (feathers etc) how long would that be expected to stay at a decent quality?

Thanks :)

I want to get a tattoo of a owl with outstretched wings on my arm. Would it be better to get it on my inner wrist or inner elbow? Obviously it is easier to hide for work etc on my wrist(covered with bangles etc) but it would be larger and therefore more detailed further up on my arm. What would you recommend? :/

I've been seeing this lad, lets call him 'A', for two months now. We were together two years ago then remained very close friends ever since, but got back together at the end of August. He's been wonderful and supported me when I've needed him (and I reciprocated) but the last week or so he's been really distant. I went on holiday with my brother and communication between us diminished to the extent that he was rejecting my calls and ignoring me online when he was clearly talking to other people. We met in a group of mutual friends on Saturday night, and I was somewhat intoxicated which lead to me trying to hug him, hold his hand etc, all of which he rejected and moved away from me, until two of our friends (who are in a relationship, lets call them 'M' and 'F') left. Then he got very emotional and clingy, telling me that there was something wrong but he couldn't tell me what, before going home early. When I got home myself, he was back to not picking up his phone and ignoring messsages (I was worried - but he was talking normally to other people on facebook). I spoke to a friend of mine, 'B', who is a friend of F. B said that M and F had broken up in the week while I was away, and F had used A against M.

I have since spoken to A who denies ever having anything to do with F. This is also possible, as B has never liked A and has gone to extremes in the past to break our relationship. Last night he sent me a facebook message saying he loved me and wouldn't do anything which would hurt me. In reply I offered him the commitment of actually being in a relationship that he has been trying to get from me since we started 'seeing' eachother. He ignored me and was talking explicitly to F publicly while I was waiting for an answer.

Any ideas? :/

I want to dye my hair a ginger colour but can't find any dyes online - preferably semi-permanent but not as short term as stargazer, manic panic etc. Will I have to bleach my hair? It's currently a mid brown colour. Thanks!

Background info? What changed in Italy as a result? What were some of the Napoleonic wars?

ANY information would be great, I can find nothing online. Thanks

My boyfriend and I have been through a lot together in our 18 month relationship, I lost my virginity to him and I miscarried earlier this year, but we also fight often and he can be incredibly violent. While we were on holiday together I woke up to him on top of me in a situation I can only call rape. Besides all of this he is a perfect boyfriend, he tends to my every need and can pretty much read my mind. He's always promising he wants to be with me forever, and has given up porn because of our relationship and even stopped talking to all girls because he says there's no point since he'd never want anyone but me. However we had a huge argument last week immediately before he went on holiday, and we've barely spoken since.

My ex is also my best friend. I've known him for about two and a half years and we've never fought. He's thoughtful, clever, and sensitive, tall and skinny - the polar opposite of my lazy, brutish, short and stocky boyfriend. He's always been there for me, and I will admit I have been drunk and come onto him in the past when I've been in a rocky patch but he's always respected my relationship completely. Since I finally spilt all of my troubles to him, he's 'opened up' and told me how he feels about me. He said he wishes he could take me away from my boyfriend and be able to love me in every way, instead of just being friends. This went on for a couple of days and we met up with some other friends, where he held my hands and gave me long hugs. It felt like when I first met him and we went out, I'd always catch him looking at me and he made me feel so special with the way he refused to let go of my hand, even when rolling cigarettes and other friends are trying to distract him. Since then he's been more distant, saying he wants to see me in person again before we take this any further. He still texts me regularly but not like he did before. Also I think he might be a bit of a slut, since lots of girls seemed offended by the way he treated me, but I can't forget that it WAS me that he chose to be with, and he had no inhibitions about telling people I don't even know that he loves me.

So if you were in my place, would you choose the steady, reliable, and often miserable relationship that could last forever, or risk everything on a man with a short attention span and a passion for romance?

My boyfriend has gone on holiday after a huge argument between us. We've been experiencing severe problems after recent issues such as a miscarriage, violent rows, and a sexual assault while I slept, mixed with problems with his parents and my depression. Throughout all of this I have confided in my best friend and ex of two years. He has always been very protective of me and never really liked my boyfriend, but since I was devastated by my boyfriend's absence (we've been barely apart since we didn't see eachother last summer due to clashes of personal holidays) my best friend has been there for me. We've spent a lot of time together and he's been very open through texts, with just one as an example: 'I want to love you in every meaning of the word instead of just one'. There have been other sensitive ('I'd do anything for you') and explicit texts as well. On the other hand, my boyfriend has also been texting me grovelling for forgiveness, telling me he'll always love me and he will do anything so that we are never apart again. In the instances I have met up with my friend in the last week, he has been showing some affection towards me, as he stayed sober when we went out with friends because I didn't feel it would be sensible to drink while I am in this mess, and he would hold my hand and have long embraces in public view - but I couldn't help but notice he was flirting with our friend's little sister and he was recieving almost betrayed looks from another female friend of his. My boyfriend is thoroughly dedicated to our relationship and I know would be fully committed to me for the rest of my life if I so chose, but without having any significant contact with him since out biggest argument to date, I can't say I know whether I want to stay with him or not.

Can anyone offer any advice on this situation? I can't eat or sleep properly because it's the only thing on my mind.

I'm planning on going from pay as you go on Orange to a contract on 3, can I keep the same number and how?

I desperately need my hair colour fixed after an at-home disaster, but I can't find a salon which will dye over it without a 48 hour skin test - I'm going away in two days so won't have time to go back! I've never had an allergic reaction to ANYTHING, and I've been dying my hair for years without a problem, is there anything I can do?

I have been dying my hair permanent dark colours for 2 and a half years. It is currently a vague coppery red/brown as I haven't dyed it permanently in a couple of months, just one wash in/out one which I used to cover my roots for prom. I don't like having my hair cut professionally as I am never happy with the results, so I do have a fair few split ends at the moment. My hair is always very smooth and strong though, as I try to take great care of it. It reaches to just below my breasts.

I'd like to use this product: http://www.boots.com/en/Undo-home-hair-colour-mist... to remove colour build up on my hair, followed by a bleach packet or two, then to put on a green/blue semi-permanent colour.

Has anyone used colour b4 on red dyed hair?

Any advice on whether my hair would be suitable for bleaching? It sounds silly but although I have split ends, they don't seem dry or very unhealthy.

Thanks ever so much x