Kaissie

Hello!

No scams please.

I live in South Dakota and need to find a way to supplement my income.

I have tried Tupperware 10 years ago and that was a disaster.

Pampered Chef went pretty well and I would consider it again. Family illness was main reason for stopping. Needed the health insurance.

Avon, was ok, but the rep in the area who signed me up was really an "interesting" person. Not saying anything bad, I promise. Just didn't click with me. I wish her much success.

I am really hard working and love people. A low start up would be appreciated too.

Thanks so much!

I work for a company in sales. When I first started it was Customer service and paid hourly. I was told then that we are very passive in sales and not pushy, that it was a process that only the customer can dictate. Then they started having me do aggressive sales, which is fine, but no raise in pay, no benefits. The handbook had stated after 90 days I would get a review and a raise, it took them a lot longer to finally get my review and I was told in lieu of a raise, I would get a bonus for doing such a great job. That was November.

My boss came to me in December and stated that money was released and I should see the bonus the beginning of January.

I still have not received this bonus.

I became ill a couple weeks ago and had to miss work for 2 days. I had doctors notes, but they refused to take them. I asked then about the bonus because I had a lot of lab fees to pay. Things got really ugly. Not to my face, but behind my back.

So, my boss scheduled my first "one on one" with me. (we were supposed to be doing this since I started a year ago and this is the first one, yesterday) Before the meeting, he came to my desk and told me that the meeting is not a bad thing or a ***** session and was concerned I would be on the offensive and there would be a fight. I looked at him and said, I was not even thinking that was going to happen and that I was glad to be having a one on one. Then I asked why he was stating this. He did not give me an answer, basically said that he just didn't want things to get all blown up.

During the meeting, he pointed out all the good things I have done in about 4 minutes (in the review it was like 25 minutes of good things) then he proceeded to find TWO things I was 30 minutes late on (during my illness as well) and go off on them. Then told me that it was disrespectful that I doodled a bit when in meetings. That creates disrespect for me in the team (a WHOLE other story there, this place is one dysfunctional family, 4 sales people in 4 years and one stayed 2 years part time)

Then he told me that there will be no raises this year and to not ask about the bonus again because it will not be there and if I asked again there will be disciplinary action.

I was dumbfounded. I couldn't say anything. I tried a couple times and he was shooting me down. He said I looked upset and wanted me to talk, but I felt like I couldn't say anything. I went from doing a great job and not getting commission for big ticket sales to this.

Any by the way, the bonus would have been minimal.

I really need advice here. During my late review in November, this sorta happened as well. I didn't instigate other than asking for something that was stated when they hired me.

What should I do here? I have great skills. I don't need a lot of pats on the back, but this feels so wrong.

Thank you for any help.

There is this person I do not like at all. This person and her mother have made several threats physically and career wise to me. And they are known druggies. (The daughter is the one who introduced my other friend to meth.)

The mother accused me of talking bad about them and the weird thing is, I had not said anything about them at the time. But when I denied the accusation, I was met with threats of violence and they would find a way for me to lose my job.

Now, I want to talk bad about them. And the sad thing is, I did. They have said things about me. Someone they said something bad to came to me and asked.

Stupidly, I let out a whole bunch of bad feelings right then. Basically doing what they do. I felt awful. But there is also a part of me that is still very angry.

Also, I found out that the other friend that gave into the drugs encouraged this bad talk in ways I don't even want to go into cause it breaks my heart. Literally. He put me in more danger just to get drugs.

Now my question. I don't want to talk bad about them, because I would be in danger. But I still am so angry that I do want to talk bad. How do I get over this in a constructive way that does not cause an ulcer?

Second question. I am afraid they are going to find out that I actually did talk about them to the person who asked. How can I protect myself?

My best friend has a lot of emotional and mental problems. He used drugs to help him deal with them.

One more thing. I love him. More than I really should. We had a heckish year, had our fall outs, but we stood by each other.

He will be getting out of treatment soon that he volunteered to go to.

He has stated that he has found God and credits me for showing him my faith. He states that he is in love with me and wants to be with me.

Should I let him move in with me?

I want to believe this transformation, but I am really scared.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

My earlier questions regarded a friend with a drug problem.

Well, my friend did come back to me after 3 weeks and stopped doing the drugs.

What we discovered is that my friend is schizophrenic. He was using the drugs sub consciously to help maintain his sanity. He almost totally lost it.

While he is wonderful and loving and the most amazing person I have ever known, he no longer lives in reality.

He is away now and I miss him so much. I wish I could help him.

I feel so guilty about not understanding why he did the drugs and pushing him so much before leaving. I did not understand his cries for help.

I did not understand that he kept me around those dangerous situations because he needed the security.

I don't know what to do now. I don't know how to help him. He is refusing all medication and I feel like it is my fault.

If anyone is out there who has been in this situation either mine or his, I would greatly appreciate some advise on how I can help or what to expect or what I should do.

I am so scared. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you.

Hello!

I need to sign up for private health insurance and I am getting confused with all the sales people and plans!

I live in South Dakota.

Anyone have Private Health Insurance that can give me some advice?

I am concerned about the division of this country.

People have lost friends and family while attacking each other on political or religious views.

Do you believe everyone who does not think like you is an idiot?

Do you believe different points of view can challenge us to look at all sides and make us better people?

I want to believe there is room for everyone in this country. But it is the people who need to do this. Not the government. We need to think and act for ourselves.

What do you think?

After a very scary evening, I finally left my drug abusing best friend. Today, he insisted that I keep everything that happened to myself. I told him that while I love him, our lives are too different now and I cannot follow the path he is taking. I told him that I want to remember him as the amazing person he is as himself. That while I cannot be with him, when he truely and honestly needs my help, I will keep my promise to be there for him. To this he balked and said he doesn't need anyone.

Now, my heart is broken. I miss him. But there is no way to go back now. And I really don't want to. So now what? I don't know what to do. My life has been consumed by this person. I know there are clubs and stuff out there. But what do I do with this hurt now? I cry a lot. I really loved him. I know this is for the best. But, what now?

The person I call my best friend has a problem with excessive behavior. Drugs, alcohol, gambling, spending, food, you name it. And for the past 6 months, I feel like he has been hanging out with me mainly for what he can get from me. He says mean things along with the disclaimer, "Just Kidding!" I feel worthless when I am with him. He also ditches me when meth buddies call more than once.

When I get to the point of leaving, he does a 180 and starts talking about treatment, how much he loves me and how I am the best friend anyone can have. Although he is gay, he goes around telling people how he wants to have a baby with me. This tears me up inside every time because it is not right for either of us.

I admit that I played the game as well and sickeningly enjoyed the attention during the "good time" Now, I don't want it anymore. It hurts and its wrong. I love him, I don't want to abandon him. I am afraid that he will not call, I am afraid he will call. Do I let go? And how?