Jessica

she's depressed so i want to get her a pet, but we're not allowed cats or dogs in our apartment. what would be a good pet to get her that's okay on it's own for hours at a time since we both have school and work?? no fish please, and nothing that will stink up our whole apartment

Okay so I work for a popular restaurant and I love my job. For the first time in my 6 years of being a server I actually have a management team that knows what they're doing and treats everyone fairly. Recently one of our cooks got fired (for damn good reasons) and wrote a letter to corporate about how terrible our managers are. This guy was crazy. He said the most absurd things about them just because he was mad that he got fired. So I'm writing a letter to corporate about how much I love my job. I'm doing it just because I know how quick people are to complain to corporate when they have a bad experience, and no one takes the time to talk about how pleased they are with the company. I'm not gonna talk about the disgruntled employee or anything, I'm just going to say nice things about our management team and how they really have an influence on me and my co-workers. So my questions are:

Is this a good idea? I can't think of any negatives.

How should I address them? like Dear ____ ? There's no one specific person so I don't know how.

How should I end it? Sincerely, and then my name? or Sincerely, a satisfied employee? Ideas?

Any other tips please add!! :D

this is embarrassing but i'm in college and no one ever taught me how to cook. I eat fast food all the time and I'm tired of it. I'm trying to learn how to cook, but since everyone's kind of expected to know how to make chicken breast, there really is not step by step on how to do it on the internet. Be specific, tell me every ingredient you need, what you cook it in. I know, I'm an idiot. Don't judge.

is he for sure the president for another 4 years or could this change?

My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago and completely moved on instantly. He was banging other girls, never talked to me, basically just forgot all about me. I was and still am completely heart broken. I've been so lost and confused with out him. He's the love of my life and I have been devastated with out him. We can't really avoid each other because we have all the same mutual friends, but I've been doing my best to act mature when we are put in the same room and pretend it doesn't bother me. But the other night my friend had her birthday party and we were both there and both drunk, and everybody went to bed and left just he and I downstairs. We just watched TV and acted just casual, but me being drunk and in love with him I asked if it would be okay if I kissed him. He hesitated, and I said "it doesn't have to mean anything" and he said "i don't want it to" and i said "it doesn't" and he said "you sure?" and I said "i promise" and I kissed him and things were just intense immediately, we started having sex and then he suggested we go to his place a block down, and finished having sex and then i stayed there. We haven't spoken since. First of all, I know I'm an idiot or doing it. But I couldn't help myself. It was amazing to be with him again. I felt like I was on top of the world in that moment. It felt like he loved me again, even though I knew he didn't. I just don't know what any of it means. I'm so confused and I can't sort out my feelings. Why did he stay when everyone went to bed except me, he only lived a block away and could have left at any time? Did this mean anything? I mean the fact that we haven't talked makes me think that it didn't mean a damn thing. Maybe I'm lying to myself but this wasn't just a hook up. It felt like when we just started dating and we were passionately and hopelessly in love with each other. I don't know I'm so confused. I know what I did was stupid, but honestly... I would do it again just because of how good it felt to be with him again.

So I'm a girl, and last night I got reallllly drunk and went back to my friends house to go to bed and we hooked up. Like full blown lesbian hook up. Like butt *** naked hardcore hook up with vibrators and everything. Never in my life did I think I'd be able to hook up with another girl but I actually loved it and it was really fun. Now that I'm sober I don't think I could do it again, but I really liked it last night. Thinking back to it I was really into it. Does this mean anything? I mean I'm pretty sure I'm not a lesbian... what does it mean? Or is it possible to enjoy something like that and be straight?

im really excited i got a new ipod touch 8gb with iso5 and i don't know any apps so someone throw some out there for me and tell me how cool they are!

Okay so I have a first generation iPod and it won't let me download apps. When I select an app it says "this app requires iOS 3.0" and my iTunes says I can upgrade for $4.95. I'm scared it's not gonna work, or it's gonna charge me like once a month. I don't wanna jail break it cause it's too confusing. Does anyone know if paying the $4.95 will work?

My boyfriend broke up with me, he's with someone else now and completely over me. I have lost most of my friends. I wake up in the morning and my heart sinks to the bottom of my stomach. I can't accept a life without him. I have been trying so hard, but I feel so alone all the time. I have a constant lump in the back of my throat like I'm constantly on the verge of tears but never cry. No one cares about me, and I'm not saying that to be dramatic, it's completely true. Everyone knows I'm struggling so bad with this, and no one has ever asked me if I'm okay. I get it they have their own lives, but I feel like I have no one. Last night I couldn't stop crying, and the only thought going through my head was... "I could end all of this pain right now" and thought sincerely about hanging myself. I feel nothing but pain and anguish. My anxiety is through the roof. I feel like my entire life is in shambles. I can't talk to a counselor because I don't have the money. I don't want to give up on my life, but I have lost all hope. I have been trying and trying to move forward. I feel like I'm in a black hole and I'm trying to take baby steps out of the hole and every time I take a few steps he comes and pushes me back down and I have to start all over again. I don't know what to do, I'm going crazy. I don't want to think about death, but it sounds so great right now and I can't shake the thought from my brain. How do I overcome this? Time is not helping. I'm so alone and lost and scared. I'm sorry if I'm whining way too much, I just have so much pain and anger bottled up I don't know what to do with it anymore.

My boyfriend broke up with me and my life has literally felt like a black hole ever since. Especially because he instantly starting banging this girl who tried numerous times to break us up. We have all the same friends, so it's hard to avoid him, but she goes to a different college so I never had to see her until she came up for our homecoming weekend. It was supposed to be so much fun and I had the worst weekend of my life. I spent most of my weekend crying. He would bring her to every party I was at, KNOWING I was there, and KNOWING how much I'm struggling. He knows I'm depressed, he knows I hate her, and he knows I can't stand to see them together. And when I did see them, he looked at me like I was a monster and he had to protect her from me. I wasn't going to physically fight or anything, but I had/still have so much rage, I honestly think it would have made me feel better. It was so hard to try and have fun knowing that they were together, and knowing he was going to take her home and have sex with her and just that he forgot all about me. Is it a dick move that he would show up with her? Or am I out of line? I just feel like since the break up was so recent he would have more respect for me than that. But I guess not. And I don't know if it's acceptable to be THIS angry. Like so angry I feel like I could kill her. I hate her so much and I'm so hurt. I tried to let it go but it ruined my entire weekend and I can't get them out of my head.

I am going to plan the best bachelorette party for my friend Kelli! But I have nooo idea where to start. I'm thinking a party bus and renting a suite for about 10 girls. But do I do a theme? I was thinking we could all wear black dresses, but Kelli can wear a white one. Or is that a stupid thing to do? Do we just pre-game in the hotel, exchange gifts, play games, and then have the bus pick us up? Do I ask everyone to split the cost evenly? What are some good CREATIVE and not tacky themes, ideas, games we can do/play? The internet really isn't much help surprisingly. I want this to be really fun and special for my girl!

It sounds like it was because the $10,000 reward money, and the $75,000 they got in settlement from sewing the hospital was all gone and Carlina was mad because it should have been saved for her? But is that right? cause I don't get it, why would they save the money for her if she was missing for 23 years? Why would she choose to have no family rather than the family that has been searching for her for years?

I've been working for Wells Fargo as a teller for 3 months now, and I HATE it. I hate shouting into a crowd of people "WELCOME TO WELLS FARGO!" as soon as they walk in the door. It's silly! We're expected to do it because it makes them feel welcome, but honestly, how welcome do these customers really feel? I mean they gotta know that we're required to say it. That wouldn't make me feel welcome at all. In fact, I think it would just make me feel uncomfortable. I don't mind selling someone a service/product/benefit if it's something they can actually use, but we're expected to offer products to every single customer and I hate it! Putting myself in their shoes, I feel like I would not want to walk into the store because they'd just offer me the same thing over and over again and hassle me to sit down with a banker. We have these things called WOW! surveys where customers get a call about how their experience was, and if we get all perfect 5's we're in the clear but if we get even one 4 we are in so much trouble from our boss and it pisses me off. Because I don't think it has anything to do with our customer service, we're ALWAYS friendly and get the job done. Honestly I think anyone who gives us less than a perfect is just upset with Wells Fargo because they charged them one of their stupid fees, or hassled them to get some unnecessary service, so when they get a call asking about how their experience was, OF COURSE they're going to take their anger out on that survey and give us a bad score. So here's my question: HOW ARE WE SO SUCCESSFUL? We charge everyone fees for stupid reasons and hassle everybody for things that they don't need! We tell them something is free and then charge them for it a couple of months down the road because it "changes". I just don't get how it does so well. It's huge and it's everywhere and so many people bank with Wells Fargo I just don't understand why. I obviously need to leave my job considering I work for a company whose products and services I don't believe in. But please someone tell me, if we're such a horrible bank how the heck are we so successful?

I got a flat tire on a Saturday afternoon at work. So my car was stuck there up until this morning. I called them at 8 am and told them the situation. They do not typically come get cars to service them, but I called them at 8 AM, and they were at my work by 8:15, took my car, and got it back to their shop. They called me back at work and told me my tires were completely shot and that I needed new ones (they were right!). So they came to my work, got my car when they didn't have to, filled my flat tire, plus got me my 2 new tires, and changed my oil, and had my car back by 9:30. To me this is amazing service and I appreciate it so much. They could have made it a huge hassle but they made my life so much easier. I want to do something nice for the guys down there. I don't wanna be weird or creepy though. I thought that maybe I'd buy donuts for them or something but is that appropriate considering they don't even know me and might be sketched out to eat donuts that came from a stranger? Does anyone have any good ideas for me?

P.S. I plan on doing something for the whole place, i'd say about 15 people. Because I have no idea which few guys did the work for me today, and they've always had really good service

I'm only 20, so I don't have to worry about it right now-- but I'm scared. I have weird relationship issues. I pursue a guy, and when he becomes my boyfriend we have an amazing relationship-- and then it's like I get bored. This last guy, after 8 or so months I just stopped thinking he was funny, stopped wanting to cuddle, stopped wanting to have sex, and all of those things. Eventually he got tired of being treated like **** and then broke up with me. As soon as he did, I was so depressed and miserable. Why? I was the one who got tired of the relationship, and now that he's had enough-- I just want him back so bad I would do anything. I'd give anything to cuddle, have sex with him, laugh at his jokes, and just wake up to his face every morning. I wish that I had told him how much I love him everyday, and kissed him good morning. But why didn't I then? This has happened in ALL of my relationships, so I KNEW that if I didn't appreciate him he would leave, but knowing what would happen didn't make me "feel the love" any more-- until he dumped me. The relationship before that, I lost an amazing guy who would've taken care of me forever, because I got bored of the relationship. I loved him so much for so long, and then eventually I would practically cringe every time he touched me because I didn't love him anymore. With that one, I didn't miss him after we were over-- and I honestly think that it's because I was the one to end it, not him. It's like... after awhile when they want me I don't want them, and when they don't want me I want them so bad! But I'm AWARE of this issue and it doesn't change my feelings any. I hope this makes sense. I don't understand WHY I do this, it's like I enjoy being miserable!!! But WHY??? It's such a horrible feeling. And now I can't let go of my ex-boyfriend. I am so sad and just want him back so bad. Even though if he took me back (which he wont) I'm sure I wouldn't want him anymore! What if I never get over this? Will I be a crazy lonely old lady with 27 cats??? someone please help.

It's hard to explain, but I have the weirdest issue with relationships that I don't understand. The only guys I'm ever interested in dating are the ones that are hard to get. The ones that are not into me. And everyone knows that's a sad feeling when you like someone who doesn't like you, but that's the only way I'm interested, and I'm not just interested, I feel like I HAVE to have them. I always seem to get them too, and once I do it's the best feeling in the world and the perfect relationship. But then once the spark burns out 7-10ish months down the road, I get sick of it. Suddenly it's like he just annoys me, and the things I used to think were so funny just aren't funny anymore. I quit wanting to cuddle or be physical at all, and basically I just treat him like ****. And then he leaves me. And when he does, I am miserable and depressed. Then I would give absolutely anything to have him back. There's nothing in the world I'd rather do than cuddle with him, laugh at his jokes, be physical with him, tell him how much I love him. Why is that? Why do I miss him and want him back so bad now that he's over me, when I had no interest in any of those things once the spark of our relationship burned out? Do I enjoy being miserable subconsciously??? I hate the feeling I'm feeling now, but this has happened with so many relationships, that by the time I start losing interest, I am able to tell myself "You're going to lose him if you keep treating him this way, just like all the rest." But it doesn't change the fact that I have no desire to cuddle or be lovable at all. It's like I take them all for granted after awhile, but the really screwed up part is that I'm AWARE of it. I know that I'm screwing up and I know that I'm gonna lose him but I still have a lost interest until suddenly he breaks up with me and is completely over me. Only then can I feel an appreciation for him again. Someone please tell me what's wrong with me. I'm only 20, but if I keep this up I'll never get married or be happy ever. What the hell is wrong with me, and why do I do this to every relationship?

It's hard to explain, but I have the weirdest issue with relationships that I don't understand. The only guys I'm ever interested in dating are the ones that are hard to get. The ones that are not into me. And everyone knows that's a sad feeling when you like someone who doesn't like you, but that's the only way I'm interested, and I'm not just interested, I feel like I HAVE to have them. I always seem to get them too, and once I do it's the best feeling in the world and the perfect relationship. But then once the spark burns out 7-10ish months down the road, I get sick of it. Suddenly it's like he just annoys me, and the things I used to think were so funny just aren't funny anymore. I quit wanting to cuddle or be physical at all, and basically I just treat him like ****. And then he leaves me. And when he does, I am miserable and depressed. Then I would give absolutely anything to have him back. There's nothing in the world I'd rather do than cuddle with him, laugh at his jokes, be physical with him, tell him how much I love him. Why is that? Why do I miss him and want him back so bad now that he's over me, when I had no interest in any of those things once the spark of our relationship burned out? Do I enjoy being miserable subconsciously??? I hate the feeling I'm feeling now, but this has happened with so many relationships, that by the time I start losing interest, I am able to tell myself "You're going to lose him if you keep treating him this way, just like all the rest." But it doesn't change the fact that I have no desire to cuddle or be lovable at all. It's like I take them all for granted after awhile, but the really screwed up part is that I'm AWARE of it. I know that I'm screwing up and I know that I'm gonna lose him but I still have a lost interest until suddenly he breaks up with me and is completely over me. Only then can I feel an appreciation for him again. Someone please tell me what's wrong with me. I'm only 20, but if I keep this up I'll never get married or be happy ever. What the hell is wrong with me, and why do I do this to every relationship?

So after a year of dating my boyfriend broke up with me and slept with another girl. Since the break up I have felt like it was so easy for him, which is confusing for me because it is sooo difficult for me. We talked and I asked him if he did it because he was so over me that it was just a single guy doing single guy things, or if he was doing it to try and get over me. He said he did do it to try and get over me, but he doesn't regret it because it helped and he enjoyed it. I can't explain how much it hurt to hear that. I get it that he's single, so it's his own right to hook up with whoever he wants, but I just figured that because he knew how much I was struggling he would hold off on that out of respect for me. I want him back so bad, but most people tell me I need to just let him go. How do I know if I should let him go, or if I should keep fighting for the relationship? Everyone knows sometimes you have to let someone you love go, but everyone also knows that when it comes to what you love you don't take no for an answer. I'm confused on what to do, but it hurts so bad. I would appreciate if someone could give me some advice on here-- but my guess would be you might need further information-- so if anyone is willing to help me out, please provide me with your e-mail address. I am uncomfortable putting mine on here, but if you put yours I'll delete it ASAP. Just please someone help me so I don't feel so damn lost.

For background info, I'm 20 years old. My boyfriend broke up with me and slept with another girl. I should be okay with it because even though I love him, I know we are not meant to spend our lives together-- but I'm not. We were together a year and I miss him so much. I don't understand how he could sleep with another girl. I get it that he's single and can do what he wants now, and I know I'm being selfish, but I just can't fathom how he could not have more respect for me than that. I used to be the most important person in the world to him-- but in the end he'd rather be with random girls and smoke weed everyday than be with me. I can't explain how much that hurts. I can't understand it and it's killing me not being able to understand. He's completely fine without me. It's like our relationship never meant anything. I am hurting so much and I can't stop thinking about it. Why am I still hurting and how can I move on from this? Everyone says give it time. If I just do my best to accept that I will never understand, will it eventually go away? Somebody please help me. I can't take it anymore.

I met and started dating my boyfriend in college. A girl from our hometown who he used to sleep around with was jealous when we started dating, but it didn't really matter because she went to a different school than us, and he and I were so in love there was no tearing us apart. After about 10 months we started getting rocky, and about 2 weeks ago he broke up with me because of our relationship going so down hill. I have been having such a hard time with it. I miss him so much and all I want to do is fix it and get back together. But he says the damage has been done and there's no going back. He says he hopes we can be friends but he needs to get over me first and I need to get over him. He went back to his hometown last weekend and slept with the girl that tried to tear us apart. I know we're done so it's none of my business. But I can't help but feel so lost about this. I love him so much and I feel like my heart has been ripped out and stepped on. I feel like I was the most important person in his life, and now I'm a piece of **** on the bottom of his shoe. After loving me for a year, my question is HOW could he do this to me?? Was I in the back of his mind?? Does he feel guilty?? or was I that worthless to him that he was able to forget about me that fast and go sleep with this girl that tried to ruin us? He says that he did not think about me when he did it, but that he does not regret it because he's trying to get over me. But I feel like it's so easy for him to get over me-- because if it wasn't he should have thought about me. I'm so lost and confused right now. Can any guys who have done the same thing my ex did please explain to me what was going on in your head when you hooked up after a break up?