Meg

Please help me wake up! I've been in an off-again/on-again relationship with a man who makes me fee undesirable, unloved, unwanted and horrible -- yet even knowing all of this, I have a hard time ending it.

I'm financially secure w/o him & don't need him for anything except the things he IS NOT giving me; support, encouragement, sex, intimacy, friendship and honesty. So why can't I sever my heart strings and move on? Has anyone gone through this vicious circle of destruction -- and lived to tell the tale? All advice taken.

He tells me that he loves me but I feel used instead. I'm miserable and he won't leave my home. I work 16 hrs a day just to stay away from him and dread going to my own house...because he's there. He's a liar, alcoholic, user, selfish, penniless and controlling. What can I do to sever this gangranous limb and finally move on & be happy? I'm miserable, confused and want out without ever looking back. What can I do? What have you done? to break free for good?

He gave me the password to his e-mail(s) where I found that mail was being forwarded to him from a gay personal profile and craigslist ad. Both sounded just like him, 1 even his picture. He swears it's not him, that he didn't do it (he's done it in the past), but too many coincidences to make me believe him. Would you believe him? Or have any of you out there, put personal info into the computer and gotten "made up profiles" which included your info...at a personals site? I'm deeply hurt, devestated really. He won't have sex with me but I find solicitations for gay sex & j/o & phone #'s telling me he's just wanting the kind of sex that I as a woman, can't give him. Please help?! I feel like I'm losing my mind and going crazy, haven't stopped crying for 3 days...no where else to turn, do I believe again in what he says or go with my gut and believe in the posts,#'s and profiles out on the web????? Anything would be helpful to me at this point. Thank you for taking your time to read this

My b/f and I have gone out (off and on) for the past 4 years but our sex drives are completely different. I am the horny one, wanting intimacy, sex, kissing, touching, cuddling etc. all the time. He has a take it or leave it attitude. At times, he is super horny but his moods are all over the place in regards to our sex life.

What can I do? squelch my sex drive? find a hobby that takes my mind off of being with him? masturbate more?(my arm is sore as it is). I will not cheat on him btw. so that is not an option.

Any recomendations from the men and women out there in cyberspace? I am always horny but my b/f's desire fluctuates sporadically and it's driving me crazy!

If you are in love with your partner, why not show them all the time? Should I just tune out and turn off? HELP!

Is it legal for her to claim unemployment? She got her full yearly salary of 24K and was fired for theft. We are in California.

Should I report her for unemployment fraud? If so, how do you go about doing it in the state of CA.?

What if the same person upon getting fired got the balance of their salary upon termination? (they got $10,000 in salary up until May, then got fired and got the additional $14,000 in one lump sum payment).

Are they still able to collect unemployment <legally> if they got all of their salary for the year?