Kelly

He has been separated for well over a year and he and his ex agree on the terms of the divorce. They are both ready for the divorce but remain on good terms. The problem is that she does not have the $ to pay for the divorce (about $1000) and he has some of the $ but is paying child support and other bills which means that it will take a while to come up with the rest of the money.

He and I want to get married later this year. I have the $ to give or lend him to pay for the divorce but I dont know if it would be right for me to lend/give it to him. He is a really great guy and Im not even sure if he would take the money if I offered it because he does not like hand outs. Should I help him out?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months and now live together. He talks about getting married once his divorce is final (very soon) and I just met his kids for the 1st time recently (they will now be staying with us every other wknd). Last week he applied to adopt a dog from the shelter and put it in both of our names and said it will be "our" dog. I already have a dog that he loves. Im thinking that he really does see our relationship as a long-term one since he has involved me in his kids lives now and we are getting a pet together now. Do you agree? I really do want to marry him and I think that after my failed marriage I am just trying to look at all of the signs to make sure that his actions match his words. He tells me he loves me and talks about getting married all of the time.

My boyfriend is going to start having his kids (ages 5 and 2)every other weekend starting this weekend. I met his ex and the kids for the first time last week and we all got along, although it was a bit awkward for me and his ex at times. I played with the kids while she was at my house and she even let me feed their 6 month old baby. The kids seemed to like me and his ex seemed to approve of me. I tried really hard not to step on her toes or act too eager to play with the kids and even insisted that they ask for her permission first whenever they would ask me for food/soda, etc, out of respect to his ex.

I just dont know how to act now that they will be in my house for the entire weekend. My boyfriend wants me to take an active role with them (go everywhere with them, help feed/dress them, etc). I just dont know if that will make them think that Im trying to step in as another "mom". How involved should I be?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months and things are going very well. We are even talking about possibly getting married one day. We met on a dating website and immediately clicked over the phone and then in person. In fact, we have been inseparable since our 1st date and are now living together.

The problem is that we were both a little embarrassed to tell people that we met on-line and made up a story about how we met in a local store. I didnt want my family to think I was crazy for going out with someone that I met on the internet...they just dont get that type of thing. Should we tell everyone the truth, especially if we are getting married? Or, should we just keep the truth to ourselves and stick with our story? Everyone really likes us as a couple and thinks we are great together so I dont think telling the truth would change anyones opinion but I just dont want anyone upset that we lied. What do you think?

My boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married. Ive noticed that whenever we go to the mall or a store lately, he always says he wants to look at mens watches or rings but he always seems to sneak a look at engagement rings. He only asked me to look at them once and he asked the lady questions about styles, etc but that was over a month ago. He doesnt need a mens watch or ring because he bought them already. Is he just hinting for me to look at rings or am I missing the boat?

I met my boyfriends ex wife and 3 kids this weekend at my house for the first time (my BF and I live together). She wanted to meet me and see my house before she allowed them to stay overnight (which was actually my suggestion). Things went very well with the kids and the ex seemed nice but hardly talked to me. Trust me, I know how uncomfortable it was for everyone especially for her....seeing her ex with their kids at the new girlfriends house.

We are going to her house this weekend to pick up the kids and Im just not sure how to act around her. She approved of me enough to let the kids come over and even let me feed their baby but its not like we are ever gonna be close friends. How should I act when I am in her house (and around HER family)? Any advice?

When I started dating my boyfriend months ago, I only knew about his 5 and 2 year old with his ex wife. He didnt tell me about the baby because he was afraid I wouldnt want to date him if he had a baby. He did tell me shortly afterwards once he realized that we had the potential of a long-term relationship. We are, in fact, going to be getting married later this year or next year.

The problem is that I only told my parents about his 2 children and they have no idea about his baby. I told them about him and his 2 kids right after our first date. I never told them about the baby because I wasnt sure how serious the relationship would turn out and also didnt know how to bring it up. They love my boyfriend and think he is great for me. They also ask alot of questions about his kids and really want to meet them one day. His ex has agreed to let us have the kids every other weekend so I know I need to tell my parents about the baby. How do I bring it up without upsetting them?

My boyfriend has 2 kids (ages 2 and 5) with his ex wife but I have never met them. They have been apart for over a year and I didnt even know him when they split up. Now, they are working out their custody and visitation issues and she wants to meet me and visit our house before she will allow the kids to visit, which is very reasonable and was even my suggestion to him at first. How should I act when I meet her and the kids for the first time? Should I sit back and be quiet or try to interact with the kids? I just dont want to mess things up for him and the kids and Im hoping she will approve of me. He and I will be getting married later this year so I really want things to go well.

I am a young 38 and my boyfriend is 25. We get along great, have tons in common and really love each other. He says that our age difference does not bother him at all and, in fact, he is the one who pursued me after already knowing my age. I just worry that he may be fine with it now, but years down the road it may seem weird. I dont look or act my age and I take care of myself. Most people have no idea from looking at us that we have 13 years difference. Should I stop worrying about it?

Yesterday, I wanted to take a nap when I got home and asked my BF to wake me up in 1 hour. Three hours later I woke up on my own and was kinda pissed at him for not waking me up. I later found out that, while I was napping, he washed my car, changed the oil and got dinner for me. I tried to thank him for doing all of those things but it was too late because I was already pissy with him. He seems okay about it now but I feel really bad. What things can I do to make it up to him?

My boyfriend is currently going through his divorce but it will be finished soon and he has been separated for a long time. We have talked about getting married but I dont want to get engaged until after his divorce is final. He is always asking me, "Would you marry me?", "Would you allow me to marry you?", and "Do you still want to marry me?". Of course I will marry him, that's not the question, but I dont want to say "yes, I would marry you" until he is free and clear from his divorce. How should I answer him for now so he doesnt think I wont marry him? Is he asking me these questions because he wants to be sure about my feelings before he pops the question?

My boyfriend wants me to take his last name when we get married. However, I didnt take my ex husband's last name and it made things much easier once we were divorced because I didnt have to change everything back to my original name. I know that all of my friends and family are now used to me having my original name for my whole life but I think I want to take my boyfriends last name because I plan on being with him forever. Should I just take the plunge and take his last name or stick with my original name just in case?

My BF and I have been talking about getting married. We went to a jewelry store together to look at watches and then he started looking at engagement rings and was asking questions about styles, prices, etc. I was right there and told him what style I liked but didnt know if I should jump in and start trying them on or not. We still go into to jewelry stores together and I see him peeking at rings but he never asks me to try them on. Should I just let him pick out the ring or should I tell him that I want to try some on? I kinda think he may want to surprise me one day now that he has a general idea of what I like but I dunno. What do you think?

My boyfriend and I have been discussing marriage. He is 25 and I am 38. We have both been married before but truly feel like we are meant for each other. He is the love of my life. My parents love him and I get along great with his family (my parents hated my ex and can see how wonderful my boyfriend is to me and how respectful he is to them).

He told me that he plans to approach my dad for his blessing before he proposes to me out of respect for my parents. Is this done anymore? I love him for even thinking of doing this but I didnt think this was a common thing anymore. What do you think?

My ex husband and I have been divorced for a few months but still have some legal things to unravel. He calls me from time to time and we talk about how things are going but sometimes the conversation gets ugly and I get upset. My boyfriend knows that I have to talk with my ex sometimes but I dont want to keep bringing up his name in front of him....I think he is uncomfortable with it all. Should I even tell him that I talked to my ex or just keep things open?

I am 38 years old (divorced/no kids) and am dating a 25 year old guy (divorced/2 kids). He is very mature for his age and he has no problem with our 13 year age difference. We want to get married later this year but I worry that the age difference will be an issue years down the road. It just seems weird for the female to be older. Anyone had any experience with this?

I have been dating/living with a guy for over three months who is currently legally separated (for over 1 yr) and is filing for divorce this month, plus he has 2 young children (ages 5 and 2). They were separated long before I came into the picture and were already planning to divorce.

He wants me to meet his kids but I am hesitant because I dont want to further complicate his divorce. His ex doesnt seem to mind if I meet the kids, and even wanted to know if he was bringing me to his daughters pre-school graduation this week, but wants to meet me first. They are trying to work out custody and visitation issues now. Our relationship is very serious and we will probably get married within the year. I really want to meet them and feel like I am missing out on a part of him by not seeing him with them but just think I should wait a bit. How much longer should I wait? Thanks!

I am 37 years old and recently met this guy who is 26. We get along very well and are physically and mentally attracted to each other. He is very mature for his age and I am a little immature (LOL) so we meet in the middle. He wants to start going out with me but I am hesitant because of the age difference. Should I go out with him?

Ive been chatting with this younger guy (he is 26, Im 37) for a while and he wants to meet me for a date. He is in the military and seems very mature. Ive seen pics of him also. Should I go?

My divorce will be filed and final in a matter of weeks. While I am sad that the marriage did not work out (12 years), I am kinda excited about being single, dating and not having to answer to anyone but myself. Is that wrong?