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I didn't post this question in the "Dating" section because I'm hoping I'll get answers from more mature, experienced adults in this section.

I've been widowed for 11 years and have an 17y year old child. I have a stable job that pays well, and I consider myself very responsible. I met a guy that I like. We've gone out once, and both of us seemed to enjoy the evening. We're supposed to have our second date on Valentine's Day (dinner and a movie). I tend to be rather cautious and not let myself get in too deep before I've gotten to know someone well enough. That being said, I realize I don't REALLY know this guy, but I like him and think I'd like to know him better. My question might seem silly, but I fully admit to not understanding the "etiquette" of dating. Especially at my age.

My question: Our first date ended with a hug. Is it appropriate, or expected, that we kiss at the end of our second date (if things go well)? If we do kiss should it just be lips, or is a tongue expectable without making me seem to forward/easy?

Just want to hear other's opinions.

I'm in my mid 40s, and have been widowed for 10 years. I have one child, 17 years old, but raised 4 step children who are now grown and living on their own. I'm educated, work full time, am a full time parent, and have and handle all the responsibilities that go along with it. Although I get hit on quite a bit, I've only dated two men since my husband died. Both were longer relationships..

I recently met a new guy. He seemed very nice, and we seemed to get along pretty well. He's been a longtime employee at a large local business, has sole custody of his two boys (15 & 19), volunteers, and seems very responsibly.

We've only gone out once. We met last week at lunch and spent a very enjoyable couple of hours talking. Since then, he has called me EVERYDAY. Sometimes, more than once. He keeps telling me how much he likes me and pouring on the compliments. He's invited me on a 3 week vacation with his son, and he wanted me to have lunch with him and his mother today. Maybe it's just me, but it seems a little much for someone he's only gone out with once.

I felt like I liked his personality, but the physical attraction, on my part, was very low. When friends ask me what he looks like, I'm tempted to say, "A plumped up George Costanza with curly hair and a mustache." Looks aren't as important to me as how well we'd get along. I did think there might be some potential, so I was willing to date for a while, and see how things went.

So... we're supposed to have our second date today. Dinner... after his lunch with mom. He called my house at noon. My 17 year old daughter, who he'd never spoken to, answered the phone and told him I was in the shower. His response was to moan "Mmmmm." While saying goodbye he referred to her as "Honey". My daughter was completely creeped out by him. I also had an occasion to hear this moan. It happened when he asked me what my daughter was like. Among other things, I said I though she was built a lot like me... and he made that "Mmmmm" sound. I was instantly disgusted, but thought maybe I was being too critical, stuck in my ways, etc. I let one slide, but I didn't let this one. I called him back and told him that I felt he was inappropriate, and that I wouldn't be meeting him today, or any other time.

Later, I found he'd emailed me to apologize. He admits he was inappropriate, but says he didn't realize it would be taken so severely. He says he really likes me and thinks we'd have potential as a couple.

I don't consider myself as having a lot of dating experience.

Is it me, or is it him?