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I had to tell a guy I had been involved with for almost a year that i didn't want to be friends right now. With his manipulative and controlling behavior, it was better if we separated. But he doesn't take the hint. I posted a new pic of myself on FB and he liked it then proceeded to text me that he "realized I had said we'd see about being friends so he hopes this wasn't overstepping the line." He then sad he "loved the picture and that my hair looks really good. Please let me know if you're not comfortable with me saying this or liking your stuff on fb." What about not being friends right now does he not get? I didn't remove him from my friends list because I was open to maybe being friends when we're in the same area (he's out west, I'm out east) but honestly it's weird. Plus he has no problem with flaunting his relationship on Facebook with the girl he was going on dates with while he was talking to me. But I guess now that his plans changed (as far as staying out west and working out there for 2 years) and he'll be out here in the fall for school, he wants to be friends. I gave him so many chances to do the right thing and he treated my heart like a play thing for months. I'm done. Honestly, what is his deal?

I went out on a date with a guy a few weeks ago and we've been talking ever since. Yesterday he suggested something sexual and I told him that I'm celibate until marriage. He repeatedly asked me to clarify that I wasn't having sex until marriage when he told me that it was admirable but "It's also a dealbreaker for me lol". (Yes he used lol at the end of that statement) I texted back "okay" to which he responded: "I mean I'm not mad or anything. It just means we should be friends." I responded: "I didn't think you were mad. I just said okay" and left it at that. I don't want to be friends. While I acknowledge everyone has their separate sexual activity preferences, the fact that he doesn't want to pursue a potentially good relationship because of that aspect just shows he and I have different priorities. Why should I be friends with him? I guess I get unnerved when people make that suggestion...that we "should" be friends when we're obviously at different points of our lives. At the same time, I guess I'm feeling a little gutted because I kinda liked him.

my sister moved in with me about 7 months ago after things with my dad fell through. now the time has come for my lease to end and i was able to find a place with some friends of mine. i'll be saving $800 a month. i didn't particularly want to live with my sister again so i offered her some places that were available but she didn't like them. it's 7 days before we have to move and she still hasn't found a place. people in my family think i should have found a place with my sister and that it was selfish of me to not do that. i feel like i can't win with the situation because while i understand their opinion, i just didn't want to live with her again. i don't know how to alleviate the situation.

i'm now dealing with the fallout of a year long back and forth relationship with a guy a few states away. our relationship was always rocky. he was never completely honest with me on several occasions and he proved to be disrespectful as well. we tried dating then being friends but i'm seeing that i can't be happy with him being in my life in any way. this evening i was thinking about different things that happened during our friendship/relationship and one thing really bothered me. he messed up on several occasions (not responding to a letter i sent to him for a month, asking for me to tell him about my dating life but not revealing his dating status, etc) and he would apologize everytime. it happened so much that he began saying that talking to me was like walking through a minefield. on one occasion he mentioned that i seem angry all the time. another, he said i get upset over things i should get upset over. now is it just me, or was he being manipulative? i agree, you have to pick and choose your battles. but somethings are just common sense. for example, you don't ask someone you broke up with to reveal the details of their dating life then not do the same. yes, he broke up with me and after we decided to be friends he asked that i tell him if i'm dating someone and he'd do the same. he didn't tell me until the girl he'd been going on dates with posted a pic of them together on facebook. fail.

The tagline is: Where Feminism, Pop Culture and Intersectionality meet. I'm thinking of calling it the Block.

Thoughts?

I went out with a guy this past Wednesday. We both agreed on how awkward it was but even so, he asked me out again. I definitely want to go because he seems like an interesting guy and I told him. We haven't talked since then and I thought about sending him an email (he told me his nickname is Mikey and I found a song called Mikey Rocks so I was gonna send him the song and tell him I hoped he had a good weekend.) Should I not say anything?

i've been involved with a guy who lives in another state for the past year. first we dated then became friends but the road has been rough between us, to say the least. when things are good they're great. when they're bad, it makes me wonder why we talk. after our latest argument we decided to take some unofficial time apart. i guess in some ways i'm playing hard to get so he realizes how much i mean to him but it's getting ridiculous. i miss talking to him. we so alike in a lot of different ways...how we think, the things we like...but he's hurt me so much i don't know what to do. he understands me on so many levels except on an emotional level. what would you do?

I'm deciding between SheRAHRA and SheLAHLA.

i'd like to go by sister honey. what do you think of that name?

this guy i've been talking to says he thinks we're compatible and he doesn't know if he'll ever find anyone as similar to him as i am. he says that i'm beautiful, smart, independent, funny, nice, driven, thoughtful, and spiritual but us being together doesn't feel right and he doesn't know why.

what does that even mean? is that possible?

so i have a male friend who i'm interested in romantically. he feels the same. however he's in another state finishing up with college (he's graduating in april) and i graduated 2 years ago. we decided (more like he did and i'm kinda going along) to not be exclusive because he feels it's too hard being in a long distance relationship. the problem is, so is our "relationship" now. i've gotten to the point that i want to have a serious relationship (if not with him, at least seek out people to date) and idk if he's there. i'm tired of having "maybe" checked next to my name when it comes to dating. the truth is i love this guy. but after this weekend it became apparent that i may be standing in that space alone. it was my birthday weekend and i didn't hear from him at all. at first i was hurt then afraid that something had happened. i texted and called and no response. luckily he got ahold of me and told me he had lost his phone. but that's when it really hit me that my feelings for him go beyond the confines of what we have now and it makes me frustrated and sad. there's a possibility that he might not be coming back here for 2 years (he wants to do teach for america). i do see potential for us but at the same time, while i don't expect perfection, i want someone who's more sure about pursuing a future with me and/or the thought of us. is that too much to ask? what do you think?

so i have a male friend who i'm interested in romantically. he feels the same. however he's in another state finishing up with college (he's graduating in april) and i graduated 2 years ago. we decided (more like he did and i'm kinda going along) to not be exclusive because he feels it's too hard being in a long distance relationship. the problem is, so is our "relationship" now. i've gotten to the point that i want to have a serious relationship (if not with him, at least seek out people to date) and idk if he's there. i'm tired of having "maybe" checked next to my name when it comes to dating. the truth is i love this guy. but after this weekend it became apparent that i may be standing in that space alone. it was my birthday weekend and i didn't hear from him at all. at first i was hurt then afraid that something had happened. i texted and called and no response. luckily he got ahold of me and told me he had lost his phone. but that's when it really hit me that my feelings for him go beyond the confines of what we have now and it makes me frustrated and sad. there's a possibility that he might not be coming back here for 2 years (he wants to do teach for america). i do see potential for us but at the same time, while i don't expect perfection, i want someone who's more sure about pursuing a future with me and/or the thought of us. is that too much to ask? what do you think?

my ex broke up with me last october. we're trying to be friends but it's complicated. sometimes he'll ask me if i'm dating someone or if it appears that someone is flirting with me on facebook he'll ask about it. i don't understand why he thinks he has a right to comment on who i may or may not be dating when he's the one who didn't want to be with me?

i started having a conversation with a mutual friend of my ex. the guy got flirtatious and it was clear it needed to stop. yesterday i was texting back and forth with my ex when he asked me "so do you and ______ (friend's name) have a thing now? ;)" i asked him: "why? are you jealous? hahaha." he said: "i plead the fifth...please answer the question ma'am." i said: "not with ______ (friend's name)". he said: "wait, what? so you don't have one with him, who do you have one with?" a minute later he followed with: "sorry i was way out of bounds. please ignore me and continue." i didn't know what else to say so i just ended the conversation. the thing is i'm not seeing anyone. i'm talking to someone but that's it. should i have just told him i'm single? why does he care if i'm with someone? he broke up with me and it was his idea to be friends.

why would my ex post the song "let me love you" by ne-yo on my facebook wall and ask me if i liked it? it just seems random.

my ex and i decided to be friends. i want to be more. he...doesn't. but he's been acting weird the past 2 days. first he posts a random picture on my FB wall and when I didn't respond, 20 minutes later he sends me a text apologizing for putting it on there. then a mutual friend started flirting with me and now my ex has been posting up my page...even sending me a link to that song by ne-yo called "let me love you" and asking me if i liked it. he says he doesn't want to be with me but i feel like he's acting like the jealous bf. what do you think? p.s. things started getting weird after we were talking and he mentioned e was trying to figure out what law school he wanted to go to. he named his options and one of them was here where i live (he's in school in another state). i told him congrats and that going to ______ would be incredible. the _______ wasn't the school where i live.

i've been involved with this guy for almost a year now. first romantically then he decided he wanted to be just friends (much to my displeasure). i haven't talked to him in a week and tonight he posts this random political meme on my wall then texts me 20 minutes later apologizing for posting that random thing on my fb wall. we begin to talk and he asks me how life is going for me. i say well and ask him the same. he says he's having trouble trying to choose what law school to go to. he says one of his choices is where i live (i live in boston and he's in colorado now for school). he knows how much i like him so i just said i that it'd be great to go to NYU (one of his options). he didn't seem as enthused to talk to me after that. was he just trying to get a reaction from me? what do you think?

I'm a 23 year old single female who does graphic design. the blog that i have focuses on life in my twenties. i write about fashion, politics, food and design. i live in DC. some ideas i have are:

Why Aren't You Married?

The Strings Are Here Somewhere

Unordinary Citizens (or anything with citizen)

Molly, Unmarried (I'm also LDS and the nickname for some Mormon women are "Molly Mormons")

Jay In Her Twenties (My first name starts with a J)

J. Something

Lula Bee (my great grandmother's name was Lula B)

what do you think?

my ex is trying real hard to be friends but idk if i can...i still like him a lot and he knows it. he broke up with me and was disrespectful to me for the longest time. he constantly apologizes because he keeps messing up. we get along really well except we have a hard time connecting emotionally...the way he reacts to things makes me feel like he's selfish and the way i react to things makes him feel like i close myself off. it's driving me nuts because while i want him in my life because we have so much in common and i feel like i can talk to him about things a lot of people won't understand, i love him because of those things and we can't be together. why do some people try so hard to be friends with an ex? has anyone dealt with a situation where you feel like you've found the male/female version of you but for whatever reason, being together won't work? how did you cope? did you remain friends?

my ex broke up with me over 2 months ago. after much discussion we decided to remain friends. yesterday we were talking and i told him my plans, which are to go to boston to visit a friend. he says, "oh...a male friend?"' i didn't answer and kept talking. later on it came up again when we were arguing and he mentioned me going to visit a guy and i mentioned that my friend is a girl. why did he keep talking about my friend in Boston? who cares if my ex wants to be just friends?