sweeeeeeeeet sood

I feel that the destiny plays a major role in our lives and what is destined will surely happen. So why don't people understand that one can sort out any problems with love and what does anyone get out of arguing and fighting trivial matters? Can't we sort out these issues with love rather than nagging and quarelling? What does one get at the end of it except for tensions and depression.

In short we both fell in love on net and want to marry...both are sincere in our love with each other and committed...but girls parents want her to be married in same caste and with a person settled in America..... though she has managed to convince her parents that she requires sometime to think abt marriage. She doesn't want to annoy her parents also by getting into court marriage also...so can anyone give a solution as to how we can overcome this situaion and get married? The girl is a south Indian and I'm from north..so language and cultural differences are what her parents don't like.