anon202

I have known this girl for 10 years now.

We met in high school and both liked each other but the timing was never right for us to be together. She was going out with my friend and I was seeing other girls but the whole time we were close friends and always had unspoken feelings for each other.

After high school I left for college and graduated with a bachelors in 2 1/2 years. The past 5 years I've moved 3 times across the country broadening my career. During this time this girl and I have kept in touch periodically, where she usually calls me on days like my birthday and those random calls late night out of no where. This happens maybe 2-3 times a year, where she calls me, we play catch up and she always asks if I am seeing someone.

Now I have had numerous relationships with other girls during this time period, all that never worked out and so has she.

I know how I feel about this girl, I have for a long time now, but she has never given me the chance to tell her how I feel, so I try to get over it, but like clockwork, she'll randomly call me and all those feelings come rushing back to me and it drives me nuts. Everytime I try asking her out to see her, either dinner, coffee, lunch, whatever (when I am in town), she gives me the whole "I'll call you back" routine and then never does.

So I am assuming she is trying to avoid confrontation with me either cause shes afraid, confused, or just doesnt feel the same way about me, as I do for her.

I need a girls advice, all the girls I know cant give me the honest advice I am looking for.

Why does this girl keep calling me? Even though we haven't seen or been close friends for 5 years now.

Why does she avoid me every time I try seeing her?

How can I indirectly find out for sure how she feels? So I can either pursue this more seriously (move back to my hometown find a job there) or just give this up and focus on my own self success.

I know its hard giving advice to someone when you have no idea about the details with this girl. But I said all I could without having to write 10 pages. Thanks in advance

I knew this girl in high school we liked each other but the time was never right for us to be together, so we remained friends all throughout high school. When I left to college we still would keep occasional contact with each other but for the past 5 years (after high school) she still has always remained in my mind, despite the fact we don't see each other and rarely talk. I've tried to move on, I have been in other relationships that haven't worked out so has she, every now and then she calls me maybe 2 - 3 times a year. We play catch up on things but whenever I ask to see her in person when I am in town, she always, for lack of a better way of putting it, blows me off. I need some girl advice...why does she keep calling me? asking me if I am seeing anyone, how my career is going, etc, etc then whenever I try to get closer to her she seems so distant. I really like this girl, I always have and probably always will, I just need a good way of knowing if she feels the same way.