BiggestBoss

There is this girl that I am talking to right now. We have gone on two dates so far, and spoken on the phone quite a bit. There are a few things she has done that really annoy me. She tends to try, and see if I am talking to other girls. I just kind of joke that off, but I have come out and said that I am to just her. Then she tried to get my phone, but I found that kind of weird (I just told her no, because I was upset and didn't want to say anything further. This was in fear that I might end up saying something bad). The reason I found it weird, is due to the fact we are not to that point yet, and she shouldn't be asking to go through my phone. My family says that I am not into her and should tell her. Not to mention she keeps asking me to drive my car (which for me I have let another girl I liked drive my car, but this was after months of knowing her and gone out for a little while). I will admit that the first girl I ever really liked, I was head over heels for her. I don't necessarily feel the same way for this young lady. I just don't know what to do, because internally I was annoyed with the fact she wanted to see my phone (which I know she would have tried to go through it, and also to drive my car). For me let me get to that point with you where I would just offer that. I would like an external opinion, because it will help me better gauge everything. Thanks in advance.

Recently I’ve had a few girls get upset with me asking this question.  In my head I’m just being curious, not trying to be rude.  Yet the girls would get upset and I match me on this Dating app I use.  Yet to me it’s just a question and if they were to ask a guy they would think it’s alright to ask (not to mention they would say we are crazy if we acted did the same thing they did).  So I’m trying to understand what the real deal is why ladies take it like a personal attack?

There is this girl that I like and she told me it wouldn’t work years ago when we started dating (we weren't official, but went out a few times). We reconnected namely she decided to say hi to me and we started talking again. I decided to go out and see what’s going in with her. She told me she wasn’t ready for a relationship, and that she liked another guy (who it never worked out with). I just glossed over it, but it doesn’t make sense and the more I think about it, it’s like what’s her endgame. Are you hitting me up because you can’t find someone better or is it that I’m doing better. I’ve always liked her and took this day I do which is why I even thought of it. I should mention she is about the same age as me and so hasn’t found a solid career. Yeah I was a late bloomer, but it just goes to why me, why now? I need advice about this whole situation. I’m supposed to see her again soon, but I feel like an idiot because now I’m playing second fiddle, when she didn’t want me before.

This is just frustrating for me that I always get nervous around women I like, and have a hard time talking to them. In addition, when I do get dates I always think about them a lot, what am I going to say now that I have this chance, how not to blow it, that I am boring and ask very mundane questions. I always think this is a "do-or-die," situation, where if it doesn't work I won't see this opportunity again, because of the reasons previously stated. This happens even when I think about even approaching a girl.

 I would think that a girl would look at me like I am weirdo, because I don't know what to say. The most embarrassing thing about this is that I have been on several dates in my life, and the fact that I am 34 years old, and it's still occurring. I have a date tomorrow and my stomach is in knots. I just don't know what to do, or how to use these feelings for my benefit, because I feel like they will never go away. I am looking for advice on how to get used to change things around.

This is just frustrating for me that I always get nervous around women I like, and have a hard time talking to them. In addition, when I do get dates I always think about them a lot, what am I going to say now that I have this chance, how not to blow it, that I am boring and ask very mundane questions. I always think this is a "do-or-die," situation, where if it doesn't work I won't see this opportunity again, because of the reasons previously stated. This happens even when I think about even approaching a girl.

 I would think that a girl would look at me like I am weirdo, because I don't know what to say. The most embarrassing thing about this is that I have been on several dates in my life, and the fact that I am 34 years old, and it's still occurring. I have a date tomorrow and my stomach is in knots. I just don't know what to do, or how to use these feelings for my benefit, because I feel like they will never go away. I am looking for advice on how to get used to change things around.

A lot of times when I am telling people about my troubles/fears of approaching random women. They tell me it's not that hard just go up to them, say hello or compliment them and so forth (my other thing is what to say after that). For me I always feel that, that will not work and I need something that is very charming and unique to say. I am just wondering if it is really that easy?

It seems like no matter how hard I try to get a girlfriend (future wife), I always fail. Then I see all these other guys around, and they look like they don't have problems. They seem to go from one relationship to another. I know these guys aren't better than myself, but just don't know what the heck they're doing to develop and maintain these relationships. I am getting older and want to have a family and kids (I am scared that my family name will end with me. It's just a fear of mine). I just don't know what the heck I am doing so wrong, or what is wrong with me why women don't want anything to do with me. Maybe someone can give me some advice on how to actually do better with the opposite sex.

Over the past year I have been working at this hospital per diem. During this time I have literally applied to the hospital system about 6-7 times (with four to five of those times at the same hospital I am currently working). It is for the same position I am currently working, but for full-time. Each time I have applied I have been passed over (this last time my application shows pending, but have yet to hear back from them. It has been a month since I have applied. Not to mention I recently asked my manager about the application status). I have also asked to be trained in different areas, to be more well rounded. That has also been met with excuses why I wouldn't be trained. This whole time I have been also applying to other facilities for a full time opportunity. Just yesterday I received a call saying that I got a full time job, working at another hospital to start next month. Now due to the fact that I feel I won't be able to handle working the full time, and two per diem jobs. Yes I did get 2nd per diem job within the last two months (which has trained me in the areas that my first job refuses to train me). I am willing to give the 2nd job a chance while working with my new job. I just feel bad for resigning from my first job, since they gave me my first big break out of school (I just don't like the fact that aside from hiring me, they don't seem to have faith in me to do more). I need some advice on this, because I feel so conflicted about my decision.

Well there is this girl that I really think is gorgeous, but I just haven't had the courage to approach her. I always make up the excuse that she doesn't want to be approached, because she is wearing her headphones. When she does look in my direction I just attribute it, as her jsut looking through me not necessarily at me, that she probably has a boyfriend, or that she is not interested in me. Mind you this has been going on for over a month now. I just feel like going up to her and saying that I notice her and I think that she is gorgeous, and would mean the world to me if I can get her name, and number (to tell you the truth I don't know really what to say, other than that). I have come to terms that I am not a big talker, and can't really "sell myself," to women. I really don't know what to do, because I don't want to approach her and creep her out (well anymore than I probably already have), and then she might not come back to that gym for sure. What would you folks do in this situation?

Ok so with this young lady things started off great, I felt like I had a lot to ask her and find out about. Most of the time we text, and have only spoken over the phone once. It just feels like the conversation is sputtering/stalling right now. I am reaching for things to get the conversation back on track (ie: What is your favorite color? What nicknames she had while growing up?). I am reaching right now hopefully she will say something to really give me something to keep the conversation going. For those with more experience than myself, how do you keep the conversation going and interesting?

There is this girl I got her number, and decided to call her today. Firstly, I should say that we have texted each other, which I thought went very well. Yet when I decided to call her I just went over the same things we pretty much spoke about when texting. I just have no idea of what to talk about, and having silence really scares me. When I do ask questions I feel like I am interviewing her (which is part of me being boring), then after she answers questions it seems like she stopped talking and that worries me (it's bad enough she lives in another state, and I have trouble talking to her). I would like for this to work out, but I don't know how to become interesting overnight. I need help with this.

How to get out of my comfort zone and approach random women that I find attractive? Then on top of that figuring out what to say? I should say that I tend to be very self-conscious when talking to or thinking about approaching women (like what makes me good enough to step to this girl vs another guy). I need some advice.

I have a hard time trying to speak in Spanish. Two of my biggest problems are: 1.) Thinking in English and trying to translate that into Spanish. 2.) Properly string sentences together aka Spanish grammar. Maybe someone can point me in the right direction. One of the things I do is try to listen to Spanish music and just hear and translate what they're saying.

So I'm currently going through a situation with my friends. Pretty much i know my friends were always talk with each other. So something I was telling that happened with me and this girl I like. It ended up blowing up in my face. I don't want to believe that they said something. We still hangout and my friends say they didn't say anything. One thing happened the last time we hung out, one friend wanted to to talk to one other friend privately. I found that quite strange, because it was after I told him about the before and what happened after.

I should also mention the night we hung out he was talking about what's going with other friends. Even though I knew he does this I still trusted him. I don't know what to think. I always tried to have my friends back, I was going through some stuff and was looking for advice and I got messed up. I just don't know what I did to my friends to go and do this, if it was them. I feel like I'm always the odd man out because they like to drink and all that stuff while I don't. I still hang with them and if they need me I have their back no matter what. Im just stressing about who would go back and do this, and of my friends are really trying to make me look bad. I can't think of anything that I did to them or why they would try to do anything to me. No matter how loyal I am, I'm always the odd one out because I'm different from the rest of my friends. I try to pray about if and let God take care of it. I need advice.

Well after talking to this girl for over three months, despite going out only once technically. The reason I say technically we went out on one date, but would hang out almost everyday since we live close by. Everything started moving fast, which I never really had a problem with. She had said she liked me very much and so forth. It eventually didn’t work out, but a few times I had a bad gut feeling. I felt like she was talking to other guys one of her being my friend. The reason I say that is hat I felt like I should have known better and gone with my gut feeling to begin with. Instead on numerous occasions I told her how I felt and asked if she would like to take things further as being more than just friends. She always seemed to deflect it and wanted me to wait. I just feel like an idiot and the butt of their jokes for trying to talk to her seriously. I also say that I could’ve been like the other guys just have sex and just eventually move on. I decided not to and got attached to her anyway and got played for a fool (which is my fault). Knowing that I have to see with this girl. How can I not feel like a jackass and move on with whatever pride I do have left?

P.S. She had told me she really liked me and that I was a great guy. Just don't understand.

When talking to this girl for a while, I realized she never wanted to really move forward with our relationship. She kept saying how she saw how others around her got hurt, so she didn't want to rush into anything. We have talk every so often, but I based on her asking me to be patient with her, and some phone calls we had (it sounded like while talking to me there would be times it sounded like she was kissing somebody, or with some other guy). I feel like she is just stringing me along. This is with the fact that she never wants to say what she is looking to happen between us. I do like her, but just tired of being strung along when I know she doesn't want a relationship. On the other hand I am looking for a relationship. Recently, I haven't really spoken to her, and when she does text me I just keep it brief. My only thing I know she is going to eventually ask me what happened. The reason I way say that is because we live down the road from each other. I just know she is going to tell me what I want to hear, because she knows how much I really like her (especially since I have told her on several occasions how I felt, and where I wanted to happen between us). Just looking for advice, I just hope I am not making a mistake by pulling away from her.

So I got played by this girl, which from the start I had a gut feeling about. I just decided to write it off as me being nervous/anxious. I would always think she might be with another guy. When we were on the phone sometimes, it would seem like she would kissing the other guy. To tell you the truth I do feel a certain way about it, but mostly upset with myself for not going with my gut feeling. The reason is I saw the signs, but disregarded them and didn’t believe in myself. The worst part is now I have to face this girl again and know she got the best of me, when I knew she wasn’t good for me. As I write this, I begin to think hey maybe she played herself out of what could have been a great thing. Even though I still have a little anger, I just feel like I hope she finds whatever’s she is looking for. Even though I still haven’t to see her around, and know she is probably laughing about whole situation. The same time I’m sitting here thinking hey I went into full well knowing what was going to happen, and taught me a lot of stuff. So I didn’t come out totally empty handed. The worst is my ego got stomped on, but hey could have been worse. I could have got what I wished for and would probably be miserable. So for being the butt of her jokes, I dodged a bullet. At the same time while trying to stay positive, it’s hard not to look at the negatives and not get depressed, and that now people may not respect you. So just wondering how others deal with his situation?

Well there is this girl I like, but as time goes on it gets a little less. So we were talking it got real intense very quickly. As time went by we kept hanging around I started to like her a little more. It got to the point where I told her how I felt and tried to see what she wanted. She told me that she didn't know what she wanted, but we still kept talking to each other and chilling. So fast forward a couple months, and a few times of me telling her again how I felt. She had told me and continues to tell me that she likes me and all that jazz. One point she told me to be patient with her, because she doesn't want to get hurt. So I went ahead and said ok (in my head that sounded like a move to string me along. Yet I decided to go along with it, because I like her). She still texts me and calls me, which she does most of the time, which makes me wonder. It makes me wonder why do you put all this effort in a guy you have already decided you don't really want to be with. I should also say there are some days we might not talk, or the texting is real short. In addition, there will be times when I text her she won't respond for hours or even the next day. Some times I wonder if she is with another guy while she is talking to me. Despite still talking to her I have stopped telling her that I like her. I don't really text her that much, unless she texts or calls me.

So my whole family is from Jamaica. My sister, most of my cousins and I were the first generation born in America. I tend to tell people I’m Jamaican because that’s what I connect with. Yet people will say look you’re American. I just don’t feel that way, because a lot of what I do and things I say have a heavy Jamaican influence. In addition, when Latinos are born in the states they’re still considered Latino or wherever their parents are from. One prime example is Ted Cruz who ran for US President, yet was born and raised partially in Canada from what I understand. Yet he is still considered American, even though he was born in Canada to just one American parent. He was allowed to continue to run. Then on top of it the Jamaican constitution still sees you as Jamaican, because if you have one or both parents/grandparents who are Jamaican then you can get your citizenship which I am trying to do. Another thing for example if you’re born in Germany, it doesn’t automatically German based on their law. So some one explain this to me please.

Ok so there this girl that I am trying to talk to, right now I am just trying to get to know her. I did ask her if she wanted to hang out. Every time I talk to her or ask her a question, I am always wondering if I am asking her the same question. The other thing that I am always telling myself it's like "Why am I doing this? Why am I putting myself through this? Am I doing and saying the right things? Does she seem interested? Will this one actually work vs all the ones that I got wrong (when I say all I mean all)? " So I don't know if anybody else goes through this, and how to get over this?

Even when we go to hang out I am nervous, which happens with every date I had. It never seems like it will go away. Despite being told that I am just getting to know the girl there is nothing to lose. I am always going to have in the back of my mind what could have happened between the two of us?