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AND what, if anything, would you have done differently up to this point in your life that would have obviously affected where you are now? The importance of this question is to help me and any others that are interested with where THEY are in life now and wondering if they should have or should in the future, do something about their life. It would help me understand where I am now, what I may think and feel about my life now and what I may think of how I've spent my life in the future.

I'd be leaving family and a few friends for a better paying job (sales rep) and nicer weather (very much dislike the long winters here.

Basically I'm considering relocating and have heard about many people that end up coming back to their family and friends. For those who've relocated and never looked back, tell me about that. For those that have relocated and decided to return home, explain why...and are you happy you relocated in the first place? For those who haven't relocated, but thought about doing so for nicer weather or some other reason, do you wish you would have now, or are you happy with where you are at?

Thanks!

I've relocated about 4 times now and it never gets easier. I can make friends, and can have enough things to keep me busy, but still I feel alone and unfulfilled. The loneliness leaves me depressed relatively often. How does a person get over those feelings? The times I feel like this is when I'm not doing something...but I don't want to just keep myself busy and never try to find a solid fix for it. Is what I'm feeling normal? Who out there has gone through this and found the light at the end of the tunnel. It has me considering relocating back to home...but I don't think I like the idea of being away from home and exploring new things just because of these feelings. So basically,

1) I feel lonely often, even being busy weekends with friends and have some things to do after work sometimes

2) I have desires to move somewhere warmer, but am not excited about relocating again and losing the friends I already have here (been here 2.5 yrs)

3) Moving home has no jobs for me...

I have a B.S. and M.S. in horiculture...originally was going to teach in a university, but no jobs and I'm not into doing research. So after my B.S. in WI, I moved to IN for my M.S. at Purdue. Then moved to Greater Chicagoland for a couple years at a horticulture company doing systems admin & product management. I got laid off and my social life sucked so I moved up to Minneapolis which is 2 hours from family and I had a friend or 2 up here. Well now I'm here, 2 years in customer service (no horticulture jobs here except ones that have you working crazy hours in spring/summer which takes up a chunk of the best part of the year here). I feel lost and lonely. Not dating anyone, jobs does not make me feel successful (have been applying all over the metro area), and I really am not enjoying the cold even though I've grown up here. I want to be near family, helps w/ the loneliness... but warmth is good and so is horticulture...could move south, or move to WI for hort job. Thoughts?

I always figured I'd probably live somewhere around where my family lives...but the live in Wisconsin and I very much dislike the winters. I'm a single guy right now, but I figured living in the area now I would find someone to settle down with. However, I think often about *trying* living in south FL or TX... Only thing is that I want my family around and don't really want to tell them that I'm choosing weather over them. Even if I could do that, I'm not sure I want to...feels like a bit of a dilemma to me. Thoughts?