friendsseason9

for reference, just chek my previous questions pls

i have been faithful to my wife all along and now i found after 9 yrs of marriage that she is cheating on me, and its second time. I dont want to behave like a typical husband and throw her out (i do have feel like). I want her to understand that in life infatuations are gonna be there, but love wouldnt with them... how do i convince her? or, second thought.. maybe she found someone better than me, should i just let go? I guess the second thought maybe right, but then we have a kid ...3-yr-old, whos gonna answer his questions? what am i going to tell him about his mom?

strong urge for sex, but not getting it from my beloved wife... at the same time i love my wife and my family, is it harmful to have safe sex with someone else just to statisfy my needs?