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I've been totally smitten with this guy for the last 8 months. he hangs around where i live and it's amazing how i've never noticed him for the last 7 years i lived in that area. anywho, we got to know eachother in a cafe a couple of months ago when he made a bold remark about something i did . we ended up talking for three hours about literature, philosophy, politics and what not. he's the most interesting and handsome guy i've ever met in my life. he's totally eccentric, which is a quality i love in people. here is the catch, he is older than me (like 18-20 years older). he doesn't look it however. would it be inappropriate for me to want to be with him after only one long conversation and 8 months long of saying nothing but exchanging looks and saying hi.

I am head over hills with this guy. I haven't told him (but I think he kinda knows) how I feel. He's artistic, unconventional and totally dashing. The thing is there's a good chance that he may be way older than me (21 years at most, I'm 21 years old by the way)but he doesn't look it. And everytime we meet, he brings the issue up. So I'm wondering if he's warning me against liking him or if he's just telling me that to get reassured about my feelings about that. I'm new to this whole falling in love thing, so what are the signs that I should look out for to know whether or not I should pursue him

My computer doesn't open any USB devices anymore, what should I do?

I have a severe stage fright problem and I don't know how to deal with it. I am a college student and part of the learning process as you may well know are the class presentations which you have to do infront of a lot of people. I truly don't know what to do. I have managed to avoid some presentations so far but I'm not sure that I can keep on doing this anymore. I experience extreme anxiety even at the thought of having to stand infront of people. I have a hard time controlling my self physically. My mind goes blank and I can't utter a thing. what medications can I take to calm myself in these sort of situations. I'm also seeking some professional help so I think I got that covered. I really want to get better and be like everyone else. It would really help if you share your experience on this, if you have any.

I am really confused. I have a miserable life. I don't have any social ties and barely manage to survive each day in my life because of all the depression, anxiety and stress that I go through. And one would imagine that a person like me would be the last person in the world to be experiencing such things as attraction for the opposite sex and the like. The thing is once in a blue moon I always end up extremely liking a guy and fantasising of all the things that could happen between us which won't. I know I am not lovable but there are just moments when I'm so consumed in emotions I forget my place in society. My last infatuation with a guy ended very badly. The reality of the guy never ever liking me back hit me so hard it took me years to recover from it. And now I feel as if I'm falling back into old habits. I'm starting to like this guy and I don't want to. I don't want to lose focus of the things that I need to be on top of. The last thing I need is a destruction. Please tell me how to just switch my emotions and stop liking this person.

I hate the fact that I even bother myself with what people may think of me. I want to be one of those women who walk around head high without a care in the world of what people may be thinking about them. I am a fairly smart 20 years old person with a lot to offer but my fear of people and my inability to express myself as a result have prevented me from living life to the fullest. I have always been a depressed and introverted person, I just don't know how to get out this cycle of miserableness. What can I do(other than seeing a therapist) to stop this sense of emptiness, shame that I feel and start living.

I have a class presentation coming up and I'm actually considering not doing it because I have a serious stage fright problem. Is there anything I can do (any drug I can take to make it go temporarily). I am looking for more conventional ways of dealing with this on the long term but just for the time being is there anything you can tell me about what I can do to keep at least the visible physical symptoms (shivering, sweating ) under control.

I'm losing it. I'm exhausted. So here is my story. I'm a 20 years old college senior. All the years leading up to this point have been years of shear misery. I've always felt pain, loneliness, anxiety, uncertainty, apprehension even as a child. I was never able to articulate my problems and felt trapped and like there was something wrong with me. I've always felt neglected even by my parents and as a result I'm always trying to impress them to win their love. I've never been romantically involved with anyone nor has anybody ever had such an interest in me. That doesn't bother me so much because I know that a relationship is not an answer to my problem. What bothers me is in the 20 years I've lived on this planet not for once have I ever felt happy or accepted. I don't have any friends in the true sense of the word. I have people I hang out with just so that I wouldn't be alone but none of whom might be called friends. I've tried the reaching out thing but people are too busy with their own lives to bother with a bore like me. People around me know I have a problem but never ask what's going on. I have a social anxiety problem that's so severe I don't think can be described. I have suffered from that for the most part of my childhood and adult life. Despite my problem I go about my life just like any other average normal person. I go to school, perform well and do everything in my power to look like I'm normal. All this just so I can impress my parents. Right now I'm a college senior and have been in the top 5% percent of my class the last couple of years until this last semester. I'm cracking. My social anxiety is reaching an all time high and I have been depressed for much too long. My grades plummeted as a result. Usually I'm very resilient. People put me down all the time and I'm used to rising above all that and moving on with my life. But this time I'm just too weak. I've been hurt, abused, ridiculed for far too long. I've had dreams of being independent and making it in this world somehow but I just don't see that anymore. Ive been feeling this way for a long time now and I can feel my end is drawing nearer everyday. I know I'm going to kill myself eventually if I keep going like this. I can't see a therapist because we don't have those where I live. What can I do to make this stop?

There is this guy I am friends with. But the problem is that I think he's starting to develop an interest in me and I don't want that. He's always inviting me to go around with him. I am not very comfortable being around with him anymore but I have run out of excuses to avoid seeing him. I am not sure if I even want to be friends anymore. I am tired of the watchful eyes of people who get the idea that we are a couple or something. Please give me an advice on how to gracefully make it plain that I don't want to hang around with him.

Is there anyone out there who can help me out learn how to speak German?

I know this is a weird question but is it possible to have camera phobia because I seriously dread having my pictures taken even finding myself in a function or something where cameras are involved. I have attributed this to my shyness and fear of being the centre of attention. Is there anyone out there with similar problems? Just wondering

I tried to load this software on to my laptop (which happens to be an IBM ThinkPad 560x) when it suddenly froze and this message came on the screen which says that I can't go on with the setup since there is no memory space left on the computer. I restarted it in the hope that all would go back to the way it was but it didn't. My laptop displays the same message every time I open it. What can I do to fix this?

Last time I was trying to change my pc's format from windows 98 to XP. So I inserted the windows XP software CD into the driver. As the setup was going underway this message appeared on the screen that there isn't enough memory left in my computer to finish the installation. So I figured if I pressed the ESC button, all would go back to the way it was, but it didn't. The same message is displayed everytime I open the PC and I haven't even been able to get around using it anymore. I know I should have checked the pc's memory size before trying to install the program but what can I do now to get my computer to the way it was.

How is that I always start a friendship with people and I almost always end up being hurt. It starts out great but after a while they just start getting bored of me. I don't bluff, I know when to keep my mouth shut, I know when to leave people alone, I am always there for them in their lowest points but it's like the only way people get to respect you is when you are a total *** and when you have a lot to say and with a bit of evilish qualities. should I just start being on my own or keep on trying. 19 years old and I don't have one good friend. They always manipulate me and once they're done using me and get what they want (most of the time material stuff) they go back to ignoring me. I am the smarter of all the cliques I've ever been in, I never feel that inflated about it or even acknowledge it (actually they are the ones who always keep on reminding me that I am so smart) Could that be the reason why they always end up turning their backs on me.

Is it normal that I've never had a boyfriend, went out on a date or got to experience any of those things regular 19 year olds have probably gone through?