Conejita

My husband loves me, I know he does. I've been dealing with his ex girlfriend calling his cell phone for well over a year now. At first, I was fine with it. Over time though, I've noticed that she keeps calling him, and lately he's been calling her back (like every day).

He calls her during his free time at work (which is often..), when he's driving home to me, and at lunchtime. He used to call me all the time, just to see how my day is going - to tell me he loved me. I hardly hear that at home lately!

I know I sound jealous and insecure and I really don't care. The fact is that he claims that she is his bast friend in the WHOLE world - and she knows him better than anyone. Just knowing this has put a lot of strain on me - and I tried to just deal with the calling, both his and hers. I find lately that I just can't take it anymore.

Do I have a right to feel upset, angry, hurt and confused? Or is my jealousy getting the best of me?

I just found out my husband gave his ex girlfriend 250.00 to "fix her car". He wasn't there to answer for it, so I called her up. At first she lied about him sending her money, but I had the western union reciept in the car. Then she called back and begged for me to not be angry at him, she just needed to fix her car.

When he finally called me, I'd stopped being upset about it, so I asked him calmly why he'd given her money - to which he replied: "I knew you wouldn't understand!!" What is there to understand? They don't have any kids together, and she claims to own a salon of her own. She's also surrounded by family! All I can see is that she's using my husband for money again (something similar has happened in the past,) and I doubt she's gotten over her feeling for him. To me it seems as if she's waiting for me to get out of the picture so she can sink her claws into him again.

I told him in no uncertain terms that I don't want him to talk to her anymore... What would you do?