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He is a really great guy, and he is getting his own place at the end of this month. He has asked me to move in with him. I am a Christian, but have made mistakes in the past (having a child and getting divorced). My boyfriend has been a strong rock for the past year, and has respected my wishes to back off of the relationship and develop a friendship when I have asked this of him. I believe it will work out if we have God in our lives, but it would look bad to others. He is really great with my daughter, and would do anything for me or her. A day feels empty if I don't talk to him or see him. He wants to marry me, but I'm not sure if he is the one for me. Am I just wanting to get out of my parents' house? I don't want to make any more mistakes like my past.

Would you continue to date somebody if you knew that if you got married you would struggle financially all your life? How valuable is security to you? Some experts (including eHarmony's creator) say to not settle for less than what your ideal dating (and eventual marriage) partner is. How long/how much sacrifice are you willing to make for the perfect man/woman? What if the person you are seeing had all but one quality (like not a lot of money)? Could you still be happy?

I was with my ex for 6 months and we were living together, and he never helped with the bills or anything. He started to be very controlling, possesive and even accusing me of cheating on him. He has mental problems, and would "change" personalities, and I would be fearful of him. I realized this was emotional abuse and got out. Unfortunately, not soon enough, as I am 8 months pregnant with his baby. I want nothing to do with him. I want to protect my child from ever knowing her real father. I have my parents' support, but it is a little daunting to know that I will be supporting this child on my own. Most people I talk to say to get him for child support, but I am worried that will entitle him to be apart of her life. I know he has legal rights as a father, and I have consulted a lawyer, but I'm still in a pickle as to what to do. Does anybody else have a similar experience?

I work in a small family run company as their office manager. I keep track of most of the in-house accounting. Well, my boss next to me wants to know about a statement to be paid that has a note from me on it why it is different than the supplier's statement. Instead of going to me, she talks to her husband and another coworker about the matter (because he was involved in the disputed 4 invoices). The coworker has to come to me to review what we talked about last week about the statement before going to the boss. I overhear everything, but choose not to get involved because the boss did not ask me about it. Would it be rude to jump in and solve the problem before getting 2 other ppl and countless time involved in the matter?

This is just an example of what happens several times throughout the week. Not just with the boss, but overlapping of duties, getting 4 people involved what 1 or 2 could do. It is a very inefficient way of business, and I don't know what I should do.

My sister in Florida has asked me to move down there to watch her 2 yr. old (because she has been kicked out of daycare.) She is really in a bind. I have told her in the past that if she needed anything just ask. I could be down there for as little as 2 months, or maybe up to 8. My boyfriend has said if I go down there, it's over between us. I hardly see him (once every 3-4 weeks) and barely speak to him (once a week.) He says he's busy earning money, creating a future for us. I say what's the point if I don't get to see him that often and build on something that we have now. I truly love him and don't want to give him up. What should I do? Move to Florida, hope he waits? Say goodbye, nice knowing you? Ideally, he would move there to be with me if it lasted longer than 8 months. But I don't think he will wait. So do I tell my sister no? I live in the midwest now.

"When I see you smile, I can take on the world."

Or "You left me, just when I needed you the most."

They are old 80's songs, but I was struck at how they could relate to a lot of relationships. Do you have a favorite song that describes your current love life or your past relationships? What is it?

I was on the river this weekend and got burnt even though I applied a SPF 30 sunscreen on before I went out and reapplied during the trip. We were out for 7 hours, and I got a burn on my thighs and shoulders. The only thing I had with me at the time was my sunscreen and I was wondering if it did any good to put it on after I was red. Does it stop the burn or just prevent sunburns? What's the best thing you can do immediately after a burn if you are camping or still on the road? Now I have aloe vera with lidocane so it's not a big deal now.

I broke up with my ex shortly before I knew I was pregnant with his baby. I really don't want to tell him that he is the father because he is out of my life and I don't want to go back. He is full of drama, has violent tendancies, and a temper. And plus if he knew he would want to get married, etc... and I don't love him. What should I do? Should even his name go on the birth certificate if I haven't told him? I don't want his support, and I would like to protect my child from him. I am in a beautiful serious relationship now who would accept the baby as his. What are my legal ramifications? Could he sue me down the road for custody?

I have been divorced for 3 years, and have heard that my ex has been gambling and just a loser. He was my best friend, and I really miss him. Considering he lives 1/2 way across the country, I am seriously considering going to a conference that's 6 hours away from him. If I'm that close, why not drive the extra miles? I have some time off from work, and really miss his family and old friends. I wouldn't go to beg him to get back together, just a "hi, how are you, I'm in town." Do you think this is a good idea? Why or why not? I would like to take him out on the town, and say that I'm really fine even though he gave up on me. He left me because he wasn't really financially or emotionally ready to be married. Maybe I wasn't either

My biggest pet peeve is treating waiters like they're insufficant and not tipping for their time and service. My in-laws used to stay at a buffet restuarant for 3-4 hours just talking and eating more and more, then they would leave a $3 tip for a party of 8. How wude!!

I think I am in love with the second guy. He is so cute and adorable, and has all the qualities I want in a guy. He has liked me for the past 2 months, but I have made him hold off because of my live-in boyfriend. I don't even like the guy that I live with now, because he has serious mental and jealousy issues. I just lived with him because I needed a roommate. I broke up with him for a day, and told the second guy, but then got back together with him, and didn't tell him that. Help!! I guess I am going out with both of them, and afaird I'm going to lose them both, if they find out. How do I break up with my live-in boyfriend without causing myself undue financial stress? How do I tell the new guy that it wasn't completely over with the first guy and I was still sleeping with guy no. 1 when he kissed me?