=D!

After homecoming, I want to see if I can convince my parents to allow him to stay over night. My mom and I have an incredibly open relationship, and we both have agreed that if me and my boyfriend (of 8 months) were going to try to take the next step to having sex, I would tell her so she could help me get the right protection. My boyfriend and I have talked about this a lot though, and we both want to wait until we're married for sex. Definitely. No question. My mom and dad both really like him and they both trust me and believe he loves me, and all we want to do is be able to fall asleep on the couch together, in a bed so we can wake up with each others arms around us and so he can kiss me to wake me up in the morning.

do you think there is any way to make a rational, clear argument that has a chance of working to allow him to stay with me?

I'm 17, he's 18, I'm a senior and he's a freshman in college. I know things can change really fast, but if you've ever had a relationship in which you truly were best friends, not just intimate lovers, you'll understand the concept of waiting for something you want, and that we really do love each other. I know i'm young and I'm under my parents roof so I have to abide by their rules, and I won't argue with their verdict.

I'm just looking for a plausible argument?

i love everything about my boyfriend. there is literally one thing that bothers me about him. He dips/chews tobacco. I absolutely hate it. I think it's disgusting and he's putting himself in danger. I have tried so hard to change my feelings about it but I can't. He says he loves me more than anything, and that I'm the most important thing to him, but what i tell him about this doesnt seem to matter. We talk about it a lot, always me crying. I'm trying to not let it bother me, and try not to cry (he showed me all the stuff today and we just talked about it for an hour or two today, no crying, just conversation and honesty) because I don't want him to hide it from me like he did for the first month of our relationship. He says that he doesnt like seeing me upset, but he also doesnt like not dipping. I asked him what he didn't like more, and he said hurting me, but that hasn't been preventing him from continuing. He dips once a day. I told him for my birthday I would be happy if he just didnt dip for the day. I imagined him telling me this and it makes me cry i'm so happy. I have never done any drugs or smoked or anything, and I have no idea how to deal with addiction, which he clearly has. He said the only thing that would get through to him would be if I told him I would leave him if he didn't stop. I really don't want to say that, because I don't think i could hold up to it. I love him way too much for it.

Am I asking too much of him to stop? It kills me. He says he wants to be with me forever, and I want to be with him, but I don't want tobacco in the picture. I feel like if he won't stop for me now, he never will. And besides, he needs to want to stop to stop. I told him I'd do whatever it took to help him. anything. I told him this right when he told me, and four months later, there has been no change in the amount he dips. All that changes is that now he feels guilty about it when he does it. But not guilty enough to quit.

Why, if he really thinks i'm amazing and that he loves me and that he wants to be with me forever, is it so hard to even try to stop dipping??

thank you so much for reading

So, me and this guy got really close this year.

i really thought he liked me! he compliments me all the time (i'm intelligent, i'm amazing to talk to, i "could never bore him") he teases me, he texts me EVERY day, etc.

so i'm the only person he "never has idle conversation with" I'm pretty, I'm smart. (according to him). yet here i am, finding out he has a gf, and it's not me.

he literally texts me every day. and we are then somehow able to hold a conversation throughout the entire day (breaks when i'm at practice, with my friends, and more recently, when i tell him to quit texting me when he's with his gf.)

it's ridiculous.

how can he be texting me/ calling every single day, and not like me? how can he compliment me, hang out with me, befriend me (he's really anti-social, and he has a select group of friends, and only befriends the really amazing people, like me.. he told me "just talking to you generally makes me feel better"!) and not like me?

We're super tight, and we're not in the same circle of friends. socially, i'm a step up from him. I really liked him, and i really thought he liked me back. i was shocked to hear about the gf!

so am i just misreading signals? am i crazy?

what should i do?!?

so im playing basketball right now, its still winter so i mean duh. i really want to play in this tournament for my soccer team, and its over a weekend that i dont have a basketball game. my mom will probably say i can't but i will try to talk her in to it. my coach keeps saying he needs me on the soccer team but im a starter on my basketball team and i love that just as much. i really want to play, do you think i should?? like risk getting hurt we have our last district game the week before (like we pay friday and the soccer stuff is saturday.) any advice???

so a guy who i really really really like, asked me out. the problem is i think i really like him as just a friend. he's a really sweet nice shy guy and he texted it to me and i don't want to text him back or anything.

i feel like i am in no position to turn down a date (this is like the first one in a long time) but i don't want to say say yes just because i dont like being alone

i thought about it alot and i feel like im comfortable where we are just being friends

is that what i should say?

i just really think hes a great guy who is a really good friend

and also we were planning on seeing a movie like a week ago before he "asked me out" and i feel bad because i could see this coming.

should i not go to the movie? i dont know if he'll want to.

i feel like what im saying to him is all the stuff that has been said to me, and i think of how long it took me to get over it and be friends again.

what do i say?? i dont know what to do. i really think im going to be more upset than he is

so i was just curious what makes you decide to ask a girl out. what does she do that your just like, damn! I'm gonna ask her out.

what makes her sexy, attractive, all that.

what do you like in a girl?

and then i guess if your a girl what do you do to get guys

on the last couple episodes of this season she's had her hair layered with side bangs but i can't find a picture of it!!!

can anyone help me???

my friend and i are betting on the lakers and celtics, but don't know what the loser should have to do??? shes my friend on my bball team and we want something fun/funny not money(thats the last resort)

please give us some ideas!!!

do you think he'll get picked and actually get to play?

I really hope he does. He is a great tight end and doesn't get enough credit because of his low profile.

can be both acoustic and regular songs gone acoustic. =b

okay so i really like this guy, he's my neighbor and we kind of reunited over the summer. he's so cute and nice, but i might just like him and look over other things. he hasn't talked to me for around a month in a half or so, and im not the kind of person that gets all wrapped up about a guy that i haven't actually had or am in a relationship with, so i just kind of say fine whatever, but for some reason, i keep thinking about him. i feel like if he's not going to talk to me (i text him and he doesnt text back, that kind of stuff) then i should just move on, but here i find myself wanting to be with him and i think about him alot. why can't i just move on?

background:moved in down the street from me about 3 years ago.age11 n 12, we hung out tons. i liked hm thn bt at tht age i culd care less about hving a bf. whn i turnd 13 he and i drifted aprt. i hav no idea how it happend n for a while i didnt know y but i felt like i ws mssng(stupid yeah. i get it) so i hd my 14 birthday at my house. i hdnt seen hm for a year, and thn all of a suddn around 10 he cam and sum of my friends wer like omg theres sme1 on your driveway!i found out it was nick(him). i culdnt believe it! i ws so happy 2 c hm. i hdnt realized how lng itd been snce id seen him. aftr we(and frnds) sat on my drveway and tlkd til 12. it was what i n.evr since then i hav wantd 2 b with hm all the time. ths hasnt been able 2 happen though, since he goes 2 a diff school. im also incredibly shy and i feel like i cant show hm how much i like hm, and thus trn hm away. i txt hm sometimes, bt whnvr i c him he hs a thng for evry grl n the room but me, yet i know ther smthng there. advice?!