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I am a white guy, married to a Mexican woman. We'rehappy and have 2 girls. My parents are great, But, I have a half brother and a bro-inlaw who are the most racist people I know. They do the passive agressive white thing ofcourse, never say a thing to me or my fam but it's the comments they make behind my back that really piss me off. 2 examples:

1. tonight we had a birthday party for my kids and when we were done singin happy b-day my brother leans over to my dad and says; "hey, aren't we supposed to sing 'feliz cumpleanos'? 2. A couple of years ago I was watchin a football game on thxgiving at my bro-inlaws house with him and my brother and two of his young boys. One of the black players had dreadlocks hangin out of his helmet and my bro in law goes: I dont know what's up with these (N-words) and their hair. It was his house so I couldn't really say anything but I had to leave I was so mad. How do I deal with this without making it a huge FAMILY DRAMA incident.