yeller

You don't want to mess up their life with your health issues or the retirement they have worked years to enjoy. They have just been through a really tough divorce and have lost a whole bundle of that money they worked to retire on already.

Isn't it the kinder loving thing to tell them you love them and let them go make a life that is with someone who compliments their own wants than to hold them to staying with you knowing there will be a time when your nothing but a financial burden to them, and someone that can't go do the things with them that they always wanted to go do when they retired?

What is it they expect of us after time?

Everyone needs to understand that if you want out,, then get yourself together and get out without relying on another person to make that decision for you or "take care of you". It's just much more legitimate to do it the right way rather than create a bigger mess involving more people.