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My wife has a co-worker friend (who's much younger than my wife). The co-worker's father bought rims for my wife's car...didn't charge her. He also wants to sand the rims down & paint them. He also stores the winter/summer tires., therefore my wife has to go to him to get the tires changed, then torqued. Again, no charge. I don't understand 'why' someone who hardly knows my wife  would do these things. Just last night, my wife did some baking..."tomorrow's Brian's birthday..& he bought rims, etc. & didn't charge me". I'm very uncomfortable

with all of this. Also, I don't understand why my wife would keep letting the guy

do things for her car when she hardly knows him unless it's just because it's all a 'freebie". I know the wife would be uncomfortable with a woman I hardly know bought things/did things for me.

What should I say about it?

I have a buddy who repeatedly says "my friend", or "a friend of mine". He doesn't see or have contact with these so-called "friends". He talks a lot about co-workers, a many of which are some 40yrs his junior. They do not see each other outside of the work environment. Sorry to say this, but it seems my buddy doesn't keep friends. It does make me wonder at times if my friendship with him is important or not. Do you think he's insecure about keeping friends?

A friend & I have talked about going to England in Sept. It will be rather expensive, although the cost of airfare/hotel will be included. Meals will be extra & they are costly in Britain. For quite a while now, I've had feelings of not wanting to go; not because of expense...I just don't want to go anymore. I'm hoping the travel agent tells us a price that we find too expensive. What do I do? Do I confess my feelings & risk a big blowout, or do I keep quiet?

My g/f & I were talking this morning. She's going on vacation with her best friend in January., & she was telling me about a list she's made of all the places she wants to eat. She says..."I" want to try this place..."I" want to eat here/there". Finally I said to her that what she was saying sounds very selfish. She couldn't understand it. She then said to me..."why is it selfish?". I'm just saying how I feel". I then suggested to her that why couldn't she say.."I'd like to try this/place., I'd like to try that".but she still wouldn't see how she was expressing things sounds very selfish.

I'm sure her best friend wouldn't appreciate how she spoke about this. Their vacation is the two of them making decisions, not my g/f being controlling.

My girlfriend is a lovely person, but her attitude at times really gets to me. She comes across as though things are "her way or the highway". It's not so much WHAT she says, but HOW. I don't want to get into a big fight with her, but I do need to figure out how to speak with her about this. She'll say things like.."I want to go at 12.30...4.30's too late". There's no reason that 4.30's too late..but it doesn't give me the opportunity to even suggest something different. By the way...the 4.30 is to do with a SATURDAY afternoon.