Lovely_B

I recently met a girl (who have two kids) and we got along well, exchanged numbers and felt a bit chemistry. We messaged eachother during the week just a couple of times but when I met her again the next saturday, she seemed very off and not that intrested as she was before.

What happened during this time?

She told me when we first met that she found me to be a player, which I dismissed, but she might have reconsidered to see me as an appropriate date/partner.

I've got a friend who's intrested in NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) and I'm pretty sure he uses some techniques in his interaction with others, altough I haven't spoken with him about it or figured out what he does. He usually holds eye contact for a very long time but apart from that I haven't seen anything else remarkable.

Which techniques do you use in your everyday life and how do you practice them? In which environment? With who? When?

How can I easily see if a person is using some of these techniques and which is the way to best practice them myself?

My main goal is foremost to create good rapport with others, where I today may lack in skill. This is especially when meeting new people or interacting with people I don't know very well. To make other people feel good when being around me.

I've got a couple of friends and people around me who are very good at this. I easily spot when people can create rapport with someone as soon as they meet for the first time.

This occurs with various people, ex. the taxi-driver, meeting new people at a party, the waiter/waitress, or just being introduced to another friend.

The results shows in the other person as being friendly, smiles a lot, talks and ask questions immediately or being more alert and attentive to this person than others.

I've seen people with good confidence just walking into a room with no people they know at all, immediately to get everyones attention, to start a conversation, etc.

Which techniques have been successful to you?

How do you deal with people who can be dominating, sturdy and loud - so you don't appear shy or timid in comparsion?

This might happen me sometimes when I meet a new circle of friends, where one of my dominating friends know these people, which put me in an awkward position.

I've a couple of friends who are very alpha male-ish, altough they mostly get arrogant and sturdy.

How to you deal with this kind of people?