Lancer

What would you say if a guy asked you out, that you really liked, even if you had a bf? And I'll add that your current relationship was so fantastic as hoped.

Curious observation: in the last couple of movies I've watched the guy that wins the girl usually has black hair, while the antagonist has blonde hair. Is there a preference?

Are girls attracted more to blondes, black, brown, or even red head guys?

I am five seven. I have a lot of friends that are girls and we get along fine. Most of my friends that are girls are shorter than me but there is one who'd I'd like her to be my girlfriend. We're the same height but she loves wearing fricken 3 inch high heel 24/7. It looks really awkward when we're together.

1. Do you think she would be discouraged to go out with me?

2. Would you go out with a guy who you were taller than? Does it change anything for you?

I’m sorry for the long reading.

So, I've known this girl for a little while. Typically, as most people would say, I find her different and the most attractive than any girl I've been with or met. I really love her.(I used the L word)

On her side deal I have no idea how she feels towards me. I do constantly get quick glances from her, where I'll find her looking at me and then looking away when I return her gaze. I think her pupils do dilate when we talk up close (either that or mine. probably the later.) I can sense a little awkward and shy in her tone when talking in person. In a six month long weekly meet/activity, I was one of her instructors. (When I say instructor I don’t mean I'm some hairy old 55yr dude hitting on a 16yr old chick. She is a yr. younger than me.) I was not her main leader but did have a little indirect contact. At the end the students wrote to the leaders that influenced them the most and I was one of the ones she wrote to. The contents of her letter included me being one of the funniest she's ever met and like messing around with me.

As far as conversations go its mainly through txt. A couple times I have complimented her (obviously not drastically) and then she won’t respond. (I did not ask for her number, I was required to remind and others of current activities. Lucky I didn’t have to ask)

I have no problem talking with girls, but she freaks me out for some reason. I have a really hard time talking to her but it is safe to say we're friends.

Yesterday, I found out through a friend that she already has a boyfriend...for how long I don't know. I'll admit I Googled the a**hole and as far as who's better, I think he is in terms of looks by two points. He’s all friken big and pretty (poster boy type)...but honest to god I could beat his a**. I'm really pissed off right now...it’s not like I can save her from dating ugly sh*t now.

First Question: Does she like me or is she just being nice, flirting, etc..?

Second Question: I am hesitant to intrude on their relationship, namely cause I don't want to be a jerk, and I wouldn't want any guy to do that to me. Besides she might really like the guy and I don't want to take that away from her.

On the other hand if she likes me and maybe does want to break up with her current boyfriend, I don't want to walk away in the meantime give the impression that I'm not into her.

Third Question: In a couple of days she will be graduating from the class I am instructing. As leaders we are obliged to give gifts to the trainees. Most people give books, bracelets, etc.As a gift I wanted to give her a necklace…too personal?

Fourth Question: Should I just quit the whole thing?

Specificity would be really awesome when answering:) Except if your just answering 4. You can say I'm an a** if you want to, I understand.