Payton's Mommy

My daughter used to take naps after lunch everyday for about an hour or two and I rarely ever had a problem with her fussing. For about the past month or so nap time has become horrible. She stands in her crib and SCREAMS now and refuses to sleep. I have tried letting her cry then laying her back down and going in there every 10 or 15 minutes but she will cry for an hour. I know shes tired because she gets cranky and rubs her eyes but I'm out of ideas to get her to sleep. Is there anything I can do or should I just give up on nap time complete? If I do she will be a beast by dinner time! what should I do?

I have been having nothing but problems with this and the past few days I have had cramps and been in pain and my doctor refuses to see me for two weeks. I went to the ER yesterday and the stupid lady there said oh well we dont see the strings for the mirena and we won't take it out. So the ER won't see me the doctor won't help me I cant feel the strings the ER couldnt even find them and I am in pain. I dont know what else to do. What can I tell them in the ER to get it out?

I have heard a lot of women complain about the mirena and I am starting to wonder if its causing mine! I had a baby aug 29th... from then till about mid november when I got mirena inserted i lost majority of the weight and was doing pretty good. A few weeks after I got it I started gaining weight. I haven't changed my diet. I am pretty active you never really catch me sitting on the couch. Since I got the thing put in I have gained about 20 lbs. I have absolutely no idea of any way this could have happened because I exercise and eat healthy and like I said Im generally active. I have never gained weight like that before. I didn't even gain 20 lbs while I was pregnant. Its really upsetting me. I am also getting acne.. but not like regular pimples.. they feel like they start out that way but they never come to a head it just feels like a painful cyst and they usually dont go away for 2-3 weeks. I have never gotten those before. I don't ever want to have sex anymore. The moodiness has dropped off some but for a few months I was so miserable. I overlooked these things for a little while till one day it occured to me that maybe it could be the mirena. I asked my doctor when I was getting the mirena if it caused weight gain and he said no because it is localized but Ive heard a lot of other women gained weight. What are some thoughts?

I saw someone say that you are more likely for a divorce if you live together before you get married. Its not the first time I heard this but I can't understand why that is. It seems to make more sense to me that if you live with someone you find out annoying things they do before you ever get married and if you cant deal with living with them you would know better not to marry them. So why is it that people who live together after marriage have a better chance? Am I the only one who doesnt understand how that makes sense?

My baby just turned 4 months yesterday and I am trying to get an idea of where her development is in the scope of other babies and if she is doing everything she is supposed to be doing at this point. I know she was holding her head up a lil early.. She was turning it and holding it up first week. Now when I put her on her tummy she holds it up really high and pushed her arms up.. but she hasn't coordinated her back legs as to how to push herself to crawl. Is this normal or should she already have figured that out?? She rolls all around though. She rolls from back to belly to side back on her back so shes figured that out. My mother in law tried to tell me she would be bowlegged because we always let her stand but since the first few weeks she straightens herself out and we let her stand in our lap because she doesn't want to sit. Now I hold her hands and let her stand on the floor just helping her keep balanced and she likes it... is that harmful?

My baby is almost 9 weeks old. For the first 6 weeks or so she didn't cry too much. I could put her in her bouncer and do whatever i needed to do... clean, eat, watch tv.. She obviously didnt sit there by herself all the time but she would sit there for a while and eventually fall asleep. Well her father has been home during the day for the past three weeks and so he will sit and hold her. whenever she sees his parents they neeeever put her down. so now when i put her down in her swing, bouncer, crib..anything she screams and screams until i pick her up and hold her. I don't know what the heck to do to get her to start sitting by herself again because im home by myself 12 hours or more a day and i cant do or get anything done!

I feel like I shouldn't care about this but I had a baby 3 1/2 weeks ago so body image is not great right now.. Last night my fiancees friend text him.. I saw what two of the texts said.. I know they were screwing around with each other but it said something like "you are just mad I have a big d*ck and get all the skinny b*tches fat f*cker" Like I said.. they screw around with each other and his friends are always pickin on him about his weight.. hes about 6'5 260 lbs... and a lot of muscle.. hes really not fat.. hes got a lil belly but his friend weights about 110lbs. The part that bothered me was them sayin they could get skinny girls...I am not sure if they were really meaning for that to be kinda directed about me or not. I didnt see the other texts or what he replied to them.. he doesnt even know I saw what I did. My question is should I worry about it? His friends are single so I am a little bit worried I guess that if they are making him feel bad about being with me, that they will influence him to look elsewhere with them. Maybe I am taking this entirely the wrong way.. IDK.. they have never not been nice to me.

My baby is almost a month old and it seems like I feel crappier and more withdrawn by the day. My fiancee works 6 days a week 12 or more hours of the day he is gone and I end up feeling so lonely and hate having no one to talk to, but at the same time then when someone calls me I just don't even want to talk to them..my mom, my friends and I even don't want to talk to him when he gets home. Its so frustrating. He thinks I don't want to be with him. I don't really feel like I have much of a bond with the baby.. I am so exhausted I just always cant wait for her to go to sleep sometimes because I am really the only one who takes care of her, he only helps a little bit. I have a headache everyday. I am so tired but sometimes I just can't sleep. I get so mad sometimes over the littlest things. My mom constantly wants me to drive to her house 25 min away but she rarely comes to my house and doesn't seem to understand I am exhausted and it can be a pain in the a s s to try to get myself ready and the baby and all her crap ready to drag her over there and then home.. but she really just doesn't get it. It really bothers me that my mom constantly tells me what I am doing wrong but not once have my parents or my fiancees parents said I am a good mom, instead my mom tells me about her friend's daughter and how her parents always say shes a good mom, and my fiancees parents always tell him he is a good dad... mind you in a month hes gotten up for one night time feeding and sat with me, changed maybe 5 diapers since we came home from the hospital and when he holds her I am always around so he hands her back to me after a little while. I spend 18-20 hours a day taking care of the baby, the house and him... making his lunches and dinners, keeping the laundry done and keeping the house clean... and the only thing I get is advice I dont need about what our parents think Im doing wrong. Normally I wouldn't care but it feels like when I need the support I can count on getting just the opposite. I don't know if I am just overtired or if I am getting postpartum depression? If I am how do I explain that to my fiancee so he might be more supportive and helpful instead of just calling me a b*tch because I am unhappy?

I had my baby about two weeks ago and I don't really feel like a real mom yet. I kind of feel like I am just going through motions to care for her.. feed her, change her, rock her.. I love her but I don't really feel like I have a connection with her yet. I feel bad because some days I just can't wait for her to go to sleep and I my parents keep telling me I need to talk to her and stuff but most the time I find that I don't because I am just so exhausted I zone out feeding her and stuff but I am really the only one she sees because her dad works so much. I just feel like I am doing something wrong... did anyone else feel like this?

my baby is almost two weeks old and i breastfeed and give her a bottle... for some reason one boob leaks CONSTANTLY. It soaks the nursing pad, but the other side doesn't leak at all. Is that normal?? I try to nurse her equal time on both sides.

Also, since a few days after I had her the boob that doesn't leak feels kinda lumpy in one spot.. I don't know if maybe the duct is clogged. I haven't had any pain or anything.

I am having my baby in a few days and plan to breastfeed but the idea of doing it in front of my family and stuff kinda bothers me, even my mom and my boyfriend. I also heard its one of those things you need to get the hang of at first so I don't know how discreet you can be trying to figure out how to get the baby to latch right. Everyone is so anxious to see the baby that I am afraid I won't really get the privacy I need. I know it won't be so bad at home because we can always go to her room, I don't plan to have to take her visiting to everyone elses house, if they want to see her they can come to mine.

After breastfeeding for a little while does this feeling go away any? Are you not as nervous around other people? Part of me feels bad that when people are around to visit the baby that I would have to go to another room or ask them to step out so I can feed her but I don't know what else to do at this point..

I am not one of those people who ever minded women breastfeeding in public places.. honestly it doesn't offend me. Its ridiculous that half naked women can be all over the place, people will get all huffy about a woman breastfeeding in public but the girls gone wild commercial on public television is no big deal... I don't know why people would think its so hard to explain to a child either if they saw it... its a mommy feeding her baby... no different than if they saw any other mammal doing it... So why does everyone else have such a problem if the mother is comfortable enough to do it in public?

I am 39 weeks and 5 days... as of wednesday I wasn't dilated at all and 50% effaced. I haven't had any signs of impending labor at all... but when I went to the bathroom earlier there was a very dark brown mucus when I wiped.. not a lot of it and it was very thick.. not sure if thats mucus plug or not?

I am due tuesday. I am in pain.. its uncomfortable to sit, uncomfortable to lay down and hard to walk. I been pretty moody the past two days and it seems like everyone wants to call me 10x a day and ask me what I am doing, am I having cramps...saying its not going to be long now. Its driving me nuts. I just want to be left alone! Everyone takes it personally if I say I dont want to talk, and if I just don't answer the phone they just keep calling back! I am bouncing back and forth between just wanting to sleep and nesting and wanting to clean and get things done, and it seems like everyone else wants to tell me what I should be doing. Anyone else just want to be left alone around their due date?

I am due tuesday. I am in pain.. its uncomfortable to sit, uncomfortable to lay down and hard to walk. I been pretty moody the past two days and it seems like everyone wants to call me 10x a day and ask me what I am doing, am I having cramps...saying its not going to be long now. Its driving me nuts. I just want to be left alone! Everyone takes it personally if I say I dont want to talk, and if I just don't answer the phone they just keep calling back! I am bouncing back and forth between just wanting to sleep and nesting and wanting to clean and get things done, and it seems like everyone else wants to tell me what I should be doing. Anyone else just want to be left alone around their due date?

I have a lot of teething toys and pacifiers and I am not sure how to clean or sterilize them before the baby comes.. I have a Munchkin Microwave Bottle Sterilizer and I was wondering if its safe to sterilize pacifiers too? If not what are some suggestions on cleaning/sterilizing pacifiers, water filled teething toys, etc

I am kinda worried. I live in Florida and I'm 39 weeks. My due date is 25th/26th , so I know I could really go into labor at any time. My next doctors appt is wednesday but between tuesday and wednesday they are predicting that Fay will be hitting us. They don't know for sure where its going to go or how strong it will be but I am worried. I am afraid that I could go into labor and for some reason not be able to get to the hospital.I am about 45 min from the hospital I am supposed to be giving birth at, there are others closer if need be.. If anyone has been in a similar situation what did your doctor or anyone tell you to do since conditions could possibly make it difficult to get to the hospital?

Most people by this point are so anxious to get the baby out, I admit I am very uncomfortable, but I am not in a rush to get her out anything. I haven't tried any of the things they say cause labor. I am a little bit effaced but not dilated no contractions... The only thing I am scared of is that she won't come. The thought of being induced kinda scares me. It seems like everyone I know who was induced ended up needing a c section, which I don't want to happen, but I've come to terms with it... so if I have to have one it won't be the end of the world. If the doc wants to induce me can I say no?? I mean I know the baby can be up to a certain amount late, but at the same time I am worried because the placenta stops working as hard. Gah! I don't know I am worried about so many things its a mess! At what point do I just have to deal with being induced if she doesn't come?? If you are not contracting and dilating on your own at all,will inducing be as effective?

So I am about to be 39 weeks and there happens to be a full moon tomorrow night.. my grandmother SWEARS I am going to go into labor because she had my father almost a month early on a full moon. It would be reallllly bad timing because I am moving on Sunday so she needs to stay in there a few more days! Where did this "wives tale" come from? Is there anything factual about it?

I was sick for about 6 months and out of work so I got behind on two credit cards and had to cancel a cell phone early. I am trying to get these paid now that I am better but they are all with collection agencies. I have heard NEVER to trust one of these agencies, yet the original companies I have the debt with won't talk to me about them because they have been sent to collections? What the heck am I supposed to do. The cell phone particularly. They say I owe them $1800... That is insane! The collection agency won't give me any information so I called the cell phone company and they won't talk to me because it is in collections. I have never seen an itemized list of where $1800 came from and no one will provide me with one. I would also like the credit card companies to try to work with me on the late fees in some of the interest because in 6 months.. my debt went from about $1200 to almost $1900 with one of them. I'm just not sure who I talk to, the collection people can't be trusted and won't give me the info I need or anything and neither will the companies! Help!

I am 37 weeks and 5 days and last night I was in so much pain it woke me up. I was fine when I went to bed and about an hour or less after falling asleep I woke up with horrible pains in my stomach. It hurt from my crotch to my ribs! Some of it was contractions. TMI but I was throwing up and had diarrhea for about 30 min. Then it kinda just stopped. I went back to sleep but my belly is still a bit sore and this morning I had sharp pains on both side of my belly really low. What the heck is going on? If it was food poisoning I would still be sick.