Anthroissexy

I just don’t know what to do anymore. I have been with my boyfriend for over two and a half years and the majority of the time the relationship has been great, but we have had our share of problems.

We got together shortly after his relationship of over three years with his ex-girlfriend ended and about a month into the relationship we almost separated because he was not sure if he was feeling it anymore. He quickly got over that and we were back together within a couple of days.

Things were going great, aside from little disagreements and fights, until the eleventh month of our relationship when he started becoming extremely moody and withdrawn. He broke up with me one month later, four days after our one year anniversary stating that he thought I was entirely too emotional and that he wanted to look around to see what was out there and make sure that he wasn’t making a mistake by being with me. I was an emotional wreck and nearly landed myself in the hospital for dehydration and other complications due to not being able to eat or drink for an extended period of time. I waited for him for two months and he finally decided that he wanted me to come back to him.

So we got back together and we were both so happy. Every time I tried to bring up what happened, though, he would get really defensive and angry at me. I have since stopped trying to talk about it at all.

About six months later, we got in a bigger fight than is normal. Of course, I was the one to apologize because I’m the only one who ever does. He told me that it wasn’t good enough and that I continually screw up in the relationship and basically we were over. The next day, however, I went to his family’s house to celebrate Christmas. It took him the entire day, but by that evening he decided that he loved me again and started treating me better than garbage.

Lately I have been putting up with a lot of crap that I know not many other girls would put up with for one minute. He has a wandering eye and is very flirtatious with other girls and has openly admitted to having crushes on some of my friends. Now I know that he wouldn’t do anything; I trust him very much and they are only crushes. I have called him out on several occasions telling him that it hurts my feelings and makes me feel unimportant and he has apologized, one time he even cried because he didn’t realize that he was being to insensitive.

He has been extremely moody lately and will not tell me his feelings or what he’s thinking, in essence his is once again becoming withdrawn. He’s never excited to see me or to talk to me on the phone. The last time I went to his house he was so moody that he only said a total of ten things to me for the entire day I was there. It’s sort of a pattern with him, at one moment he says he’s so in love with me and whatnot and that I’m the most beautiful girl he knows and the next moment he’s not talking to me and is publicly flirting with girls on facebook. Recently he went out with one of our mutual friends for dinner and she asked him why he flirts with girls so openly and treats me the way he does and what he would do if I treated him like that by going out and flirting with a whole bunch of guys. He hesitated before answering and then said, “Well she’ll never do that so I don’t have to worry.”

I really do not know what to do anymore. I love him more than anything, but this relationship can be extremely emotionally exhausting. One moment we’re up and the next we’re down. When I go to his house I worry the entire way there about what kind of mood he’ll be in. Am I doing something wrong?

What should I do?