Kate

ok i this has been bothering me and i was wondering if this would bother someone else.

So my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 2 yrs now and from the start he has always said he wanted this to be different then his other relationships. This is what is bothering me. We broke up we bother started dating other people he went bought her flowers and sent her a song that reminded him of her posted all over fb about how good she is. Well then he came back to me saying he has grown up he is ready for the commitment and i am who he wants not her. (no it wasn't a booty call thing) Well with me he doesn't buy me flowers he doesn't do those cute little things. He does like to take me on family vacas, buy me random little candles (i like candles) He takes me out to dinner and will buy like cupcakes or one time he did do a cute lay out of chocolates saying i love u on the bed. But for xmas he always bought those girls jewelry and for me he went around to my favorite stores and buy things (yes it was more personal that way) But is it weird to feel like he cared more about them....Or is he just not doing that because he knows we are together and doesn't have to try that hard...? Would you feel weird about that? He does cooke dinner for me and do smoothies because he knows i like them, he also asked me if i wanted to live with him. So i know he is serious or should i bring it up or let it go? your opinions please! PLEASE BE MATURE! Thanks!

Ok i know every guy is different and every guy does things different. But try to answer as best as you can.... K a guy dates two different people, at different times. dates one then breaks up with her and dates another person. When he dates girl A he gives her flowers, writes all over facebook how awesome she is. When he never was a fb kind of person. But talks about how they fight all the time and is embarrassing to the family. Then Girl B He says he really cares about but then on vaca buys her a candle and talks about how he pictures her beining beside her while he is on vaca. He doesn't write on fb ever while with her, He tells people he acts more his self when he is around his family, they never fight.

Ok now why does he seem to care more about Girl A when he hates their relationship..? And don't say its because of sex because thats dumb and lame and he hasn't had sex with A just B.... Does it sound like he likes A or B more?

My friend and I were talking and was wondering what others thought.

Would you be mad if you BF went back to his ex who he dated for 1yr or so.

You might not be mad but how would that make you feel?

Don't be dumb answering it either. Thanks!

4-5 months ago my ex and i broke up we are in our mid 20's and were very serious we were talking about moving in. then he wanted out so we broke up. It wasn't ugly or anything like that. I let him go, i did fight for him a little bit but just let it go. Well we are both seeing someone now and he started seeing an 18yr old. Well this last month he asked if i would move in with him becus he knew i was looking for a place, then a day ago he called me wanting to talk to me about his gf and wanted my opinion. She is 18 so i told him you get want you get for the age. I guess theres drama people are saying she is doing things with others or what not. So high school drama, and he wanted me to give my advice. He then kept comparing out relationship with what he has. Saying how don't talk like him and i did and how things were different. Then last night he texted me alllllllll night while he was at work and his gf was at his place waiting for him. We kept bring up different things in our relationship that went wrong and how he should have fixed them and said sorry for not giving an effort for what we had. He still brought up how it was different with her and that he still thinks of me plenty. Now when he told me all this i just didn't really care. I have moved on, i have a bf, and i care about a lot. I am a lot better off with him, i definitely bettered my self, (my ex even said that lol) So my question is why is he doing this? Why has he kept contacting me..... His gf has no idea he talks to me, my bf does know. What are your thoughts? Because this is not how he acts he doesn't say sorry and reflects on things like he did on this conversation..... Help?

Ok explain this as short as i can. My ex and i broke up 4-5months ago. He decided to end it i was crushed but what could i do. We still saw each other a few times after that but i stopped contacting him because i was the one doing it all and he never did it back so i stop. Well in the last month he has started contacting me. I have been dating someone else for almost a month and he has too. He is 24 and now is dating a 18. (i am 25) He first msg he asked me if i would move in with him (if i could handle it) since i was looking for a place and he trusted me. I said no because ew i don't want to be around 18yr girl drama. Then he texts me last week looking if i had his winter coat or knew were it was. Then just to day he asked to call me because he needed advice on his gf, she is causing a lot of drama, and he said sorry for no putting in effort for our relationship and asked me what he should do with her and all that. Which i wasn't mean at all i helped him out and told him dump her who wants 18yr old girl drama. But he kept comparing our relationship with theirs. He also mentioned how they don't talk all that well unlike we use to do and gave examples. I didn't say much because it was his choice to leave not mine. But i want to know why would he think about texting me and asking me. (it does feel good to know he lowered his self to this after he broke up with me and i bettered my self. mean i know...) to me its weird for a guy to come to his ex who you almost moved in with before you broke up and we dated for a year and half. What is he possibly thinking...

So pretty much 4 months ago my ex and i broke up. It was tough to say bye to him since we had a really serious relationship. We dated for over a year and we are in mid 20's so it meant something. But we didn't leave on bad terms it was his choice to leave, what could i do right? So I just started dating someone and same with him. He went back to his old dating habits after dating me, I would say i learned a lot and moved on. (Yes i am over it, but feelings still come up a little but im good, i am happy) So with that said, Before we broke it off we talked about living together, then after we broke up he wanted to live with two different friends so that didn't work out. So about a month a go he asked if i would live with him as friends if i could handle it, well i said no he was pushy about that, so it helped make me realize i was better with out him. Then just a week ago he asked me again, i didn't reply right away because i didn't know what to say, he jumped me for not replying right away, will i was working and thinking then we talked for a bit but only about him never about me. Well of course i said first off his very young gf wouldn't like that and if i was to move in with him it would be my current bf. He just said ok. Then today he texted me asking if i knew where he put his winter coat he bought last winter....... I know him well enough his place is a pig pin (glad i don't have to pick that place up anymore!!) i told him to look in different places i thought they would be. He was at work when he texted me this....He said he didn't know if i had it or not....... Ummm idk if i believe that. Why do you think he really text me. Idk i mean he every well could be wondering where it was... thats fine. But it is just weird to me. Now don't go saying i still love him and non sense. Be adults. I do tell my current bf everytime he texts me because it feel its right and he helps me deal with his craziness. I am not going to tell hims to screw off thats not me i am a very nice person. Would you text your ex to see if they had an idea where your winter coat was when you hadn't been dating for 4 months and moved on???? and no it wasn't a very expensive coat...he got it on sale for like $15.. plus its still summer...

So pretty much 4 months ago my ex and i broke up. It was tough to say bye to him since we had a really serious relationship. We dated for over a year and we are in mid 20's so it meant something. But we didn't leave on bad terms it was his choice to leave, what could i do right? So I just started dating someone and same with him. He went back to his old dating habits after dating me, I would say i learned a lot and moved on. (Yes i am over it, but feelings still come up a little but im good, i am happy) So with that said, Before we broke it off we talked about living together, then after we broke up he wanted to live with two different friends so that didn't work out. So about a month a go he asked if i would live with him as friends if i could handle it, well i said no he was pushy about that, so it helped make me realize i was better with out him. Then just a week ago he asked me again, i didn't reply right away because i didn't know what to say, he jumped me for not replying right away, will i was working and thinking then we talked for a bit but only about him never about me. Well of course i said first off his very young gf wouldn't like that and if i was to move in with him it would be my current bf. He just said ok. Then today he texted me asking if i knew where he put his winter coat he bought last winter....... I know him well enough his place is a pig pin (glad i don't have to pick that place up anymore!!) i told him to look in different places i thought they would be. He was at work when he texted me this....He said he didn't know if i had it or not....... Ummm idk if i believe that. Why do you think he really text me. Idk i mean he every well could be wondering where it was... thats fine. But it is just weird to me. Now don't go saying i still love him and non sense. Be adults. I do tell my current bf everytime he texts me because it feel its right and he helps me deal with his craziness. I am not going to tell hims to screw off thats not me i am a very nice person. Would you text your ex to see if they had an idea where your winter coat was when you hadn't been dating for 4 months and moved on????

Ok I have been dating casually two guys. I think its time to say bye to one and commit to the other. But i have an idea who i might pick but id like to see who you all say. PLEASE BE MATURE! No dumb comments! Thanks!

Ok so we are all in our mid 20's

#1 Very cute, sexy, and all. Plays video games a lot, messy...i mean messy! works a lot, can be negative, always looks at negative sides, can sweet talk, I always have to plan the dates, He will if i get on to him about it, He does always show an effort, very good kisser, Nows how to cuddle, dates a lot of girls but nothing serious, He says he has a temper. He puts a lot of product into his hair, doesn't have an education really just two year, complains a lot about how he hates his job. Doesn't carry a conversation on to long, usually playing his games instead or talking to his friends xbox.

#2 cute, in his own way, knows how to make me laugh all the time, easy to talk to, very nice, and well mannered. Always thinking about me and wanting to keep me happy. Complements me, always pays, comes up with his own ideas, Very clean well cared guy, Has a hopeless romantic side, Hasn't really dates many girls, just little flings, very shy at touching he doesn't want to disrespect me or isn't sure how to touch as like cute little touches, Has had more one night stands. He is well educated, Is going on to further his education past a bachelors. Is willing to learn to be better at touching no being shy and to become a better kisser too. He is very positive and so easy to communicate with!

Ok so who would you pick? My thought is 2 because you can teach a person actions and things like that but you can't teach a person to have a better attitude and to communicate same with personality.

Ok I have been dating casually two guys. I think its time to say bye to one and commit to the other. But i have an idea who i might pick but id like to see who you all say. PLEASE BE MATURE! No dumb comments! Thanks!

Ok so we are all in our mid 20's

#1 Very cute, sexy, and all. Plays video games a lot, messy...i mean messy! works a lot, can be negative, always looks at negative sides, can sweet talk, I always have to plan the dates, He will if i get on to him about it, He does always show an effort, very good kisser, Nows how to cuddle, dates a lot of girls but nothing serious, He says he has a temper. He puts a lot of product into his hair, doesn't have an education really just two year, complains a lot about how he hates his job. Doesn't carry a conversation on to long, usually playing his games instead or talking to his friends xbox.

#2 cute, in his own way, knows how to make me laugh all the time, easy to talk to, very nice, and well mannered. Always thinking about me and wanting to keep me happy. Complements me, always pays, comes up with his own ideas, Very clean well cared guy, Has a hopeless romantic side, Hasn't really dates many girls, just little flings, very shy at touching he doesn't want to disrespect me or isn't sure how to touch as like cute little touches, Has had more one night stands. He is well educated, Is going on to further his education past a bachelors. Is willing to learn to be better at touching no being shy and to become a better kisser too. He is very positive and so easy to communicate with!

Ok so who would you pick? My thought is 2 because you can teach a person actions and things like that but you can't teach a person to have a better attitude and to communicate same with personality.

Ok so i just want your all think. I am just curious and who better to ask right?

Ok so my ex finally started seeing someone after we broke up. We were super serious and all that. Like talking about moving and that jazz. He always wanted to treat me different then his ex's so he didn't get the flowers all the time, he did like get aways and fun little adventures. That was his big thing he wanted it to be different. ok fine w.e Im over that all now and kind have been seeing someone else but im one who doesnt need a relationship. But anywho.

He is 24 and he now is seeing this 18yr old. He is posting all over fb so is she how great each other are..... he got her flowers and is just saying oh how wonderful and all this is.

Ok so your take on why is he doing that? I understand why girls do it... he was never one to post anything on fb EVER! Only stupid random crap. I mean this is before me he wouldn't do it either. I know you all will say get over it and all that jazz i am....Im ok with what happened i was just kind of wonder why might he be doing it. Is it to through it in my face? he was the one who wanted to be friends he broke up with me, he was also the one to say he missed me, he knows i miss him. Or is he doing it to impress her cuz that is what impresses 18yr olds lol? What ya think?

Guy 1: sweet at first really caring, but first fight he drops the line saying he isn't going to say sorry for something he doesn't believe he did wrong even if it hurt your feelings. He wont even say sorry cus he hurt your feelings. He is really cute, good kisser, plays video games a lot,has anger issues, when he is mad he will punch things, wont touch a female, works a lot and makes him negative all the time, really messy person, has no education.

Guy 2: Very nice, just finished college, is going back for medicine, cute, very well mannered, always open for what i want to do, has so much in common, raised the same way, isn't messy, has a good internship, is a positive person, hates fighting would rather talk it out, Hasn't had that much experience with dating girls, He is open and willing to try new things, isn't the best kisser.......

Who would you pick.......don't be dumb when answering be mature.....

So my bf and I broke up a few months ago. It was a easy break up no fights nothing to that nature. He couldn't give me reason he just wasn't happy with his self is what he said. So we talked a while after that and he would tell me to still use his netflix account and that he thinks about me when he goes out with his married friends all it wont be easy to forget about me, and he misses me, misses my company and misses having someone to be there for him. We dated for a little over a year. He said he doesn't know what with happen in the future and all this other stuff. He knows how i felt about it but i am not one to beg and if that is what he wants then not much i can do. We talked back and forth for a while. We are both 25. Now for some reason he is blowing up my news feed on fb about how he is so excited to see this girl how wonderful she is and all this stuff. This girl is 18 and of course she is saying the same about him. He has never been the one to share that stuff over fb none of his relationships before me or me he never did. He didn't care about fb. yes i have already blocked it so he doesn't show up on my news feed because i see it as a childish high school thing you do. I want to know why you guys might think he is posting all this stuff?

Ok so 3 months ago my bf broke up with me. He talked about after we broke up saying he misses me and all this and it will be hard to get over me and all this stuff. We hung out a few times after we broke up and all that but it was just "friends" well he wanted to still talk so i would text him and it got to the point i was always texting him so of course i kind of stopped because why try if he isn't well now he is starting to see this girl who is 18 just out of high school (but w.e) He never did this before he wasn't one to post things on FB must just little things but now he is like writing alllllll over about how this girl is amazing and all this stuff. He knows i still care for him...he also would talk about how it was nice to date someone his age because it was better relationship and not so much drama. But now since we broke up he is dating someone young which is his business but main question is why does he feel he needs to show it off all over facebook and in the past he never did with anyone else? (Yes i have blocked his news feeds so they don't show up cuz i am one of those types that thinks its dumb to be poopylovey over fb its dumb lol) Please tell me your opinion! Thanks guys!!!

i just got out of a serious relationship. so i am starting to date again. I have been talking to this guy we were kind of set up by a friend. we have being talking for almost a month now and have finally saw each other a few times. Well we live an hr apart right now and I would drive there to because i had to shop and things so we would hang out. well its to the point now that i feel like if i want to hang out i have to go there. I also have to pick something to do. Now my old relationship went bad because he gave no effort to the relationship..... I feel like this is the same way. Yea when i say hey we should hang out he is like yes i would like to that would be awesome to see you....well i feel i shouldn't do all the driving and picking is that wrong? I mean i don't mind picking but all the time gets old, yet we just have started hanging out. Would it be a turn off to him if i said something, because it is making me rethink everything because of my past!

Ok, so my bf and i broke up a few months ago. We have kind of stayed close, he knows i like him still and really cares about me. He said he misses me and he thinks about me all the time still and all that. Well after we broke up he was going to move in with a friend well that didn't work out then he was going to move in with another friend that didn't work out....Then he comes to me one night and was like if you want to move in together we can, if you can handle it. What person would do that? What is your intake on why would he do that? I think he didn't have anyone else and he just came back. But he doesn't really talk to me that much now. What is going through his head to ask me that question and said if i could handle it? I know guys can hide what they feel...

So 3 months ago my bf and i were talking about moving in together.....but he decided to move in with his friends well he wanted to. We now broke up 2 months ago. The plans to move in with that friend fell through and now he it happened again with another friend. It was a shock when he wanted to break up, he said all the things of wanting to still talk and not fall away from each other. He knows i still like him and all that stuff when you love someone. Well just the other night i text him asking about something that had happened. just small talk. He then informed me his plans fell through with moving in with his friend, and said to me if you wanna live together we can....if you can handle it. I realize its a 2br place and all. But to me its kind of weird for him to ask that! When he knows how much i loved him and how bad it hurt. I have been doing good and kind of getting to the point of moving on. But why would he want to move in with me? I mean i don't like the fact im 3rd in line. Im not really thinking about moving in cuz its wrong?? What are your thoughts?

So my bf and i broke up 2 months ago. We still talked hung out a few times and what not. He says he misses me, thinks about me when he is with his friends, he thinks about me when he is home on the weekends. He says he still cares and misses me. He even has our picture up in his place. Now this is what he tells me. He even texts me to see how my day is once and a while. No every day tho. He also knows i want him back. I have told him this! So i find out he is talking to this girl. (she is crazy from what people say who grew up with her) Well we got in a little tiff one night talking and i brought it up about her and he said omg i knew you were going to bring that up i was waiting.... (now why they heck would he set me up..jerk.) But he then said we are just friends i don't want to date her. I just don't want you getting up set for no reason...(I wasn't really up set just pissed he set me up) then little bit later she invades his fb wall with like 11 places she wants to live. Figured it out that they are thinking of moving in together,They are looking at 2 bedroom places so its cheaper for them to live. she also wrote a book about what she wants and all this and demanded him to look at these places take pictures and do all this the next day. then our convo turned into him saying that i need to just say what i want and i let it all out and his replay was i was wrong.... i am very sorry for doughting you. and he said idk what to say...your more then i thought and knew... i said sorry and he told me i have no reason to be sorry that he didn't show the effort and try... then i few other things about how i thought he was special was said and things about my passed he didn't know and i haven't heard from him since..... Is it wrong for me to do pissed he is thinking of moving in with this girl after only being friends for 2 months(he added her to fb about 4 months ago, but just started talking to her after we broke up and he says their friends its someone to talk to) and just to not talk to him anymore because of him doing that. He wouldn't move in with me when we were dating.

So my boyfriend broke up with me. We still talk, he still cares for me, still worries about me, still wants me to use his netflix, he still thinks about me, still has our picture up in his place, when he is out with his friends he thinks about me being with him and if i would have fun. He misses having me around to talk to, he misses me to keep him company while he sleeps. I found this all out when we hung out this weekend. But i did see him text another girl and she was like throwing her self at him saying how she was sick and naked in bed. He didn't really address that part when they talked he just told her take meds and all this stuff. I mean we are broke up he can do what he wants, but why tell me this stuff and still hand out if your talking to someone else. He did msg her that they were friends so thats a plus i think....? But he wont give me an answer why we can't get back together....He isn't liking his job right now either. I would say he still cares for me and loves me but what might he be confused about and worried? We were very serious....is he scared and doesn't want me to get close? ugh im confused and want to give up.... i probably should

So my boyfriend broke up with me. We still talk, he still cares for me, still worries about me, still wants me to use his netflix, he still thinks about me, still has our picture up in his place, when he is out with his friends he thinks about me being with him and if i would have fun. He misses having me around to talk to, he misses me to keep him company while he sleeps. I found this all out when we hung out this weekend. But i did see him text another girl and she was like throwing her self at him saying how she was sick and naked in bed. He didn't really address that part when they talked he just told her take meds and all this stuff. I mean we are broke up he can do what he wants, but why tell me this stuff and still hand out if your talking to someone else. He did msg her that they were friends so thats a plus i think....? But he wont give me an answer why we can't get back together....He isn't liking his job right now either. I would say he still cares for me and loves me but what might he be confused about and worried? We were very serious....is he scared and doesn't want me to get close? ugh im confused and want to give up.... i probably should

My ex now broke up with me about 2 months ago. He said he needed to do some things to make his self happy before he could make me happy. We sat down in talked weeks after we broke up and he said he missed me, still wanted to talk, still wanted me in his life. He still said i could use his Netflix account, He even had our picture still up in his place. He even lays the necklace i gave him by our picture each time he takes it off. Then when i left we hugged and he kissed my forehead and just kept saying you never know whats going to happen. He will text me random things, he will also answer any of my text right away no matter what he is doing. then out of no where i got a text saying hey next time you are in town ill get you your stuffed animal (that he bought me when we were together) and he will treat me to this restaurant we never got to go to. I said that i was coming up one weekend to see a show but didn't know if i wanted to go because i didn't have anyone to go with and he said he would go with me if i didn't find anyone. I then asked him if he wanted to go and he said sure. But it is a 2 drink min and he said i was staying the night cuz he didn't want me driving. He said he would take the couch and i could have his bed. Why would he want to go to eat and to the show with me and still have our picture up in his place? I don't know if he is trying to be nice and be friends or what? Does he still love me, did he just get cold feet and scared because we were pretty serious in the relationship? Now i am nervous for the date and staying at his place... Idk what to do? I still really like him but i don't think i should show him that or should i? Please help?