Dee Dee

Long story short my forty something aunt has been dating a fifty something man over two years. He had a younger woman in her twenties around six years as well. He kicked the younger woman out for my aunt. But hes still seeing and doing favors for the younger woman. The girl picks on my aunt curses her out locks her out of the house threatens her etc And the man does nothing. What would you do

My little sister Diana just got played big time by this young man who lived in a half way house. My sister is 25, the man Dewayne is 29 and the other girl Toya is 23. To make a long story short, my sister was with this young man for over 5 months. She really cared for him and she bought him clothes, cigarettes, soap, razors, tooth paste, food and other things like these. She was really trying to help him out until he found a job (which he never did because he just got sent back to prison.) Anyway the other girl Toya never bought Dewayne anything yet she had her own house and car (my sister had neither of these things) so he bought her an engagement ring after knowing her for only 2 months with some money that he got from his mother. My sister found out all of this through facebook. She then contacted Toya and told her everything. Toya told my sister Diana that Dewayne told her that he never had sex with my sister, she only gave him blow jobs. That really hurt my sister Diana because she wondered why Dewayne would lie to this new girl to impress her when he knew her first and she did more things for him? It's been almost 3 months and my sister has lost 8 lbs, she hardly sleeps at night, she always has diarrhea and her hair is falling out. I'm really trying to help her to get herself together but nothing that I'm saying or doing to help her is working. How would you help her if she was your sister?

Long story short, my sister owes me $360 in US currency. I lent her this money over a period of 4 years. Some of the money was for bills, cigarettes, food, clothes and the like. She got a lump sum of money from the government in October 2007. She promised to give me my money back then but never did. I let it go because she was unemployed with 3 kids to feed at the time. Now it's more than 2 years later and I'm the one who needs some help. I want, in fact I need my money back! I have many bills to pay and my hours at work just got cut. Should I ask for 30 dollars a month until it's paid or should I ask for it all at once? And how should I go about asking for the money back?

I have a friend who is in a very unhealthy friendship with another person who's not me. My friend has told me many disturbing things that this other person says and does to her on a consistent basis. These things include the person calling her "slim" 10 times a day even though she is about 30 lbs overweight. "What's up, slim?" is an example of this. The person also reminds her of her painful past in a "joking" manner by saying things such as "I saw Mike today." Mike is my friend's ex-boyfriend who treated her like sh#t. The only thing that this person does for my friend is pay for her meals and movie tickets most of the time. But still. Is this worth tolerating such constant emotional abuse? Would you consider this person as a good friend to my friend? I sure as hell don't.

To make a long story short, I met this man in January 2009. I'm 21 and he's 37. He's 3 inches shorter than me, not at all attractive, cheap, manipulative and selfish. I stood him up 6 times, got my number changed and never gave it to him. I always call him from a blocked number. I also walked out on him 3 times. In short, we only had 5 real dates and none of them were the best. Only the sex made it worth my while. Well, we had a date planned for tomorrow. And he's not answering the phone. I have called him 4 times in the past 6 days. No answer any time. And I'm not leaving any messages. Is this his way of saying to hell with me? And why can't he just answer the phone and tell me that he doesn't wanna see me anymore?

My best friend is in a bad situation. No matter what I say to her, she will not leave this man alone. To make a long story short, she's only 22 yrs old. This man is 48. They have been living together for over 2 years. She left her abusive family to seek refuge in this man's home. Yet he has no respect at all for her. His ex-girl friends and wife still call the house "just to say hi." One ex even owes him $300 for a late cell phone bill, which has lowered his credit score. To add insult to injury, this same exact woman cheated on the man with every guy who looked her way and got pregnant on him. Yet she still calls him for favors from time to time. Anyway, I am so concerned for my friend. She looks like hell warmed over. Her once flawless skin is now full of pimples and blemishes, she has bags under her beautiful eyes, her hair is falling out in patches (alopecia), she hardly gets more than 4 hours of sleep per night, she's stressed the hell out and plain old miserable. She said she knows that she deserves better and can do better. Yet she's still with this guy. What can I do to help my friend out of this miserable situation?

If so, then please tell me this. Is it more accurate to get measured with a tape measure at home or on a doctor's scale? At home I'm "5'5 even. At the doctors office, I'm "5'6 and a half. And no, I don't wear sneaks at home or at the doctors office while getting my height taken. So why the one and a half inch difference?

I'm 21 and "5'6. Last year I was only "5'5. My mother is "5'5 and my father is "6'1. I also have a brother who is "6'3 and a sister who is "5'10. My sister is 28 and has grown an inch in the past year as well. I would never wanna be any taller than "5'7. Yet I have a feeling that I'm not done growing yet. I thought that women stopped growing at age 19. So what the f#ck am I still growing for? Are any of you ladies or men over the age of 20 and still growing as well? I would really like to know if I am the only one going through this sh#t.

I'm 21, "5'6, 165 lbs and very attractive. I also have big breasts and a well shaped rear end. I get so much attention from so many people. Even other women tell me how pretty I am and stare at me. Anyway, I went into Victoria's Secret today after work. And 3 attendants rushed over to greet me. They even offered to help me find what I needed and give me a dressing room. The funny thing is that 3 other women came in the store right before I did. And they weren't offered any help nor a dressing room. Was this a coincidence? I think not. Things like this happen all of the time when I'm around. And no, I'm not at all conceited, vain or arrogant. Do you other good looking people get treated better than average looking people?

1. the sweat pants that say "Juicy" and "Pink" on the back

2. tight and flared jeans with designs on the back (not skinny jeans)

3. all black and printed spandex tights

4. the cotton tight shirts that come in all colors

5. lace up the leg sandals

6. the velvet sweat pants that come in all color

7. the shirts made with one shoulder to be bare

8. the dresses that are tight at the top and frilly at the bottom

I am 21, "5'6, 165 lbs, wear a size 12 in misses pants and 13 in juniors, a large in shirts and a size 10 in women's shoes and sneakers. Furthermore I live in Camden, New Jersey (USA) near many department and chain stores.

1. Do you beg him to take you back or do you leave him alone for good?

2. Do you cry your eyes out every day or get as angry as hell?

3. Do you sleep too much or not enough?

4. Do you eat too much or not enough?

5. Do you talk about it or keep it to yourself?

6. Do you beat yourself up for having played the fool or do you shrug it off and let it go?

7. Do you hate all men or realize that there is a good man out there for you?

8. Do you become promiscuous or not?

9. Do you listen to sad songs all day or upbeat ones?

10. Do you keep his pictures and gifts or burn them all?

The person whose answers are the most similar to mine gets the best answer.

I live in Camden, New Jersey. And my boyfriend lives in South Philly, P.A. We usually see each other every 3 days. Now that SEPTA is on strike, things are very difficult for us, especially him. My man has to walk an hour to get to work and luckily gets a ride home every single night. He also has to walk an hour to get to Temple University ever single day. Most of the time he gets a ride home as well. I would really like to know how all of you are getting around during the strike.

Please list the importance of each of these things to you in a friendship or relationship. The person with the best logic wins the best answer.

Ladies, please give me some good advice. I just turned 21 on July 31st and my daughter just turned 4 on August 28th. I had her at age 17. Anyway, I don't want or need anymore kids. Yet all hormonal birth control gives me too many side effects. The patch, the pill, the ring and Depo Provera all give me heavy and irregular bleeding, 2 week long periods, yeast infections, abnormal, smelly discharge and things like these. I was tired of going through all of these things. So I stopped taking all of these things a year and a half ago. I am now totally reliant upon condoms and spermicide. I'm scared to death of getting pregnant! I now have a good man in my life. He hates using condoms but only does it for me. I'm only 21! Most women in my family stop getting periods at age 55. That's another 34 years for me. What the f#ck should I do? I just have 3 questions: 1) How much does it cost to get your tubes tied? 2) Does medical insurance cover this procedure? 3) Am I too young to have this procedure?

I'm a 21 year old woman just trying to have a little fun. The guy that I am now dealing with is in his late 20's. He's a nice guy and all but there is no chemistry outside of the bedroom. This guy is not attractive at all, he's 3 inches shorter than me (I'm "5'6) and he's broke. We have only gone out on 2 dinner dates in the past 5 months. And I'm okay with that because the sex is good. I have no feelings for this man at all outside of sex. So why the hell does this guy tell me that he wants to take things to the next level if he doesn't have money to take me out on a date at least once a month? Is this game just to keep getting some sex once a month or what?

I'm going to make a long story short. I have been friends with my ex-boyfriend for the past 5 years. I broke up with him because he had entirely too many issues. He was suicidal, manipulative, immature, self-destructive, heavily involved in several unhealthy relationships, overly sensitive, unreasonable, demanding, moody as hell and the like. Yet he was very sensitive, caring, humorous, intelligent and thoughtful at times. Lately he has been playing mind games with me. He'll only tell me half a story. And when I ask more questions, he says: "I don't wanna talk about it." Yet he loves to mind other people's business. I simply don't understand this. He also goes through periods where he won't e-mail me for months then expect me to still be there for him. And I've already told him that I don't deal with fair weather friends. What the f#ck? I think that it's just best to stop dealing with this guy right now. He plays too many mind games. What would you do?

I live with a 55 year old woman who I met at church. She took me in a few years ago at 19 years old because I desperately needed to escape my abusive family members. Anyway, my room mate talks to herself all of the time. I hear her carrying on full conversations whenever she is taking a shower or just sitting in the kitchen eating. I don't know if she does this out of loneliness or to relieve stress. After all she doesn't have many friends or family members to talk to. However, she never answers herself. I really wonder if talking to yourself is a healthy thing. I only do it whenever I can't find something.

I don't want you to write something like: When you have to ask this question. That's not a detailed or acceptable answer. I would really like to know what you all feel are the signs that a relationship needs to end. And no, this question is not for me. I'm in a healthy relationship. It's for a good friend at work. I'm going to take all of your answers and figure out a good way to present them to her. Thank you all for your time and consideration.

Ladies, no matter how good we look, our man will always find another woman who has "more" than what we do. I'm 21, "5'6, 165 lbs with a nice round @ss and a 36 DD in bras. I have a good man in my life who treats me well yet he still stares at other women when we're out together. I don't mind him looking. Sh!t, we all have to look at each other from time to time. However, I do mind staring. I think that staring is disrespectful. And I would feel even worse about it if I wasn't that good looking myself. It's better to stare when your girl is not around. What do all of you ladies think?

Ladies, I feel like I am the only 21 year old woman in the world who has to wear yummy tummies, girdles, body shapers, spanx and the like underneath her tight dresses. Sh!t. I thought that those garments were for ladies over 30 or 40 years old with 3 and 4 children. Anyway, I have no children, do 100 stomach crunches a day, Pilate's for my @ss and lift weights yet guess what? I still have a relatively out of shape stomach, fat in my back aka bra bulge and things like these. Am I the only young lady under 30 suffering from these aggravating things?