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There's a girl that attended school with me in a virtual class because of the pandemic. I thought she was cute but that's it.  

She added me on LinkedIn. I reached out just to say hi. Was a short convo, I left it there.

Months later when classes are over, I was listening to YouTube affirmations. One was for a soulmate. It's kind of something I care a lot about because a breakup years ago spurred me to really look at myself. I've had the intention of meeting a high quality person. I understand that good relationships are important for good quality of life.

When I listened to the soulmate video the same girl added me on Instagram. Weeks after she added me she DM'd me because I posted that I started a business (I did). She said "congrats! 🥳🥳" I told her "hey "Sarah" 😌 I appreciate you" and left it there.

I went on vacay but towards the end I was planning a trip to Cali where we both go to school (I've been in Texas with parents during quarantine). I reached out to her on IG letting her know I'm gonna be in that area. I suggested she join me because I wanted to go eat at my favorite pizza place and said we should meet.

She said she lives away from our campus town, she only sees family & close friends during pandemic. She also said "I'll catch you when in person learning starts!"

I told her "Yeah stay safe!" she said "you too!" 

What do y'all think? I know how to take a hint but I really don't know. And also I don't really believe in coincidences but maybe it was?

There's a girl that attended school with me in a virtual class because of the pandemic. I thought she was cute but that's it.  

She added me on LinkedIn. I reached out just to say hi. Was a short convo, I left it there.

Months later when classes are over, I was listening to YouTube affirmations. One was for a soulmate. It's kind of something I care a lot about because a breakup years ago spurred me to really look at myself. I've had the intention of meeting a high quality person. I understand that good relationships are important for good quality of life.

When I listened to the soulmate video the same girl added me on Instagram. Weeks after she added me she DM'd me because I posted that I started a business (I did). She said "congrats! 🥳🥳" I told her "hey "Sarah" 😌 I appreciate you" and left it there.

I went on vacay but towards the end I was planning a trip to Cali where we both go to school (I've been in Texas with parents during quarantine). I reached out to her on IG letting her know I'm gonna be in that area. I suggested she join me because I wanted to go eat at my favorite pizza place and said we should meet.

She said she lives away from our campus town, she only sees family & close friends during pandemic. She also said "I'll catch you when in person learning starts!"

I told her "Yeah stay safe!" she said "you too!" 

What do y'all think? I know how to take a hint but I really don't know. And also I don't really believe in coincidences but maybe it was?

I told my friends I made a little teaser trailer for a game I was making (a Fallout Mod specifically) and we all joke around and make fun of each other but they were making fun of it and putting me down and saying I don't know how to make anything and doubting I'm gonna get it done. That kinda ticked me off and is making me evaluate what's the use of having them as friends if they don't support my interests.

I'm weird I know I shouldn't be bothered by this but I am haha. So I use Airbnb a lot but still new. Some host rejected her Airbnb quickly before I was going to travel. I was angry and sent her: "Disgusting." And she got angry/sassy and I fired back with some sass too lmao. The next day or so I wanted to apologize so I did. She completely ignored it. (It's been a couple weeks) Sucks too her place looked nice.

Can't do anything now right?

I'm a senior in high school. If I go up and talk to a girl, how many days do I talk until I should get her number or ask to a date?

My sister is going to a camp 4 hours away and I've done 2-3 hours of driving before and I want to long distance drive. My step dad was going to drive her there with my mom and I offered but now we're about to go and I think that they're fighting because he's letting me drive them and that he isn't driving them.

Going to try my best to condense the story: There's a girl I approached in school. Got her number. School ends, number was deactivated. Got over her, she finds my number and texts me two weeks later. Wants sex really bad, begging, flirting, everything. My parents are kinda strict and I didn't know if I should sneak out or not. Flirted back though. She gives up says goodnight "I'll text you tomorrow, if I want you again". Also she said earlier in the convo: it's either tonight or I make you wait. My parents aren't home this is our chance.

Next morning I text her "Hey😘" she doesn't reply. It's been a whole day so it's morning again.

So either she completely gave up or I'm her male booty call now. I don't want to go by her schedule I want her to come when I tell her to. How do I make her the booty call?

Me and my friends went to the mall for me to talk to girls since I'm the only one that's never had a girlfriend or kiss. I talked to a girl and I'm a Junior in high school and she said she's in 8th grade so I kinda didn't want to keep talking to her and I felt like she was trying to go away since she was walking with her friends to the restroom. I tell my friends about it and we are standing in a hall talking and the girl and her friends kinda follow us and stare at me. My friends kept telling me to talk to her but I didn't because I thought it was awkward that I just left her and I felt like it wouldn't work because I've never had luck before. So my friend H said if I don't go up, he will bring her to me and I didn't care so he went after her, came back and said that she would have gave me her number and that they left. I got kinda mad.

So we go to a Hollister and there's a girl working there that I used to have a crush on in 5th grade and I had a class with her last year. I say I'm not really going to talk to her and they kept pressuring me and H said that he will have J talk to her if I don't and he counted down then J talked to her and got her number and I got super pissed. They were joking about it too so I kinda just ignored them and went home.

I know I overreacted but things like that get me really pissed. How do I get rid of the feeling that I have bad luck?

Ok so I met this girl I thought was super pretty at chick fila and my friends had me go up and talk to her. It was short but it went fine. Got her number and she added herself as a contact and put her first and last and everyone that watched thought she was interested. I texted her that night (I thought about this with my friends) and she didn't read it until morning and after reading the message (read receipt on iMessage) she didn't respond. It's been a day. I'm tired of the disrespect like this and I kinda want to say something. Either as a last chance kinda thing or just something. What should I say?

Ok let's say I guy compliments you at some place and talks to you for a minute or so. Then asks for you number. If you were not interested would you have added your full name as a contact on the guys phone?

There was a girl that I thought was pretty and for a couple of days I wanted to talk to her. My friends have had me talk to a bunch of girls since I've never had a girlfriend, etc. So I'm looking for this girl and I don't find her until I'm in the car with my friends and they tell me to park and talk to her so I do. I'm walking behind them (not in a creepy way) and they walk into whataburger and I open the door for them; smiling (felt like an idiot). I tell my friends to run to whataburger and we eat. So I finally go up and talk to her and when I open my mouth my voice cracked so loud!!! So I acted like nothing happened and said hey and asked what her name was and told her mine then I said I seen her around and I think she's pretty. This ***** starts laughing and looking at her friend. Then I ask for her number and before I get my phone she opens a new contact on her phone and I STUPIDLY put my number in. Then I talked to her for like 45 seconds and she left and I heard her saying to her friend "why does this keep happening to me". And this ***** obviously didn't text me (it's been 2 days) but I knew that already.

I just mad I let myself get disrespected like that. Like I should have just said **** it when she pulled that ****. Right?

So I'm tired of having crushes on girls and talking to girls trying to have relationships or hang outs. It's gotten me nowhere and I'm 16 never had a girlfriend or kiss. A good thing is that I'm finally becoming less shy talking to girls.

So there's this girl with a really nice butt and she's a huge slut like a friend told me a guy slapped her butt at a party and they ******. Me and my friends are talking about me talking to her tomorrow. How should I do it without being too indirect but at the same time not get my *** arrested at school?

Don't judge me. XD

I went to a massage place with my mom last night and there's a girl at the desk and she's super pretty and she kept asking me stuff like what grade I'm in and sports and stuff and she would smile at me and stuff. Idk if she was just being nice but I want to talk to her. I bought a membership that night and now I want to drive over there and talk to her but I feel like it's really weird to just drive over there and talk to her. I was thinking about asking about the membership then asking about her but idk what to ask about.

What should I do?

So I'm trying to talk to more girls and there's a girl I see all the time working at a restaurant I eat at and after ordering, I asked for her name yesterday and she told me then I told her mine I think. Then I told her she's pretty and she smiled and kinda twirled her hair and said thank you and I went on my way. I'm thinking of going back on Saturday and asking for her number, asking if she's free anytime. How should I do it?

I have terribly bad luck and I've been afraid to admit it until now. Like I don't just get rejected, I get h/o/e/d. Ask a girl to homecoming, she cancels lies to me never talk again, get a girls number, she texts me saying she's talking to someone. **** like that. I'm 16 never had a girlfriend or kiss. This year I finally have a good group of friends but most of them have girlfriends and talk about it a lot. They tried to make me talk to girls (to be less shy) and I got some numbers the first time but every other time it was either rejection or there just wasn't any girls around (at the mall). I went to try it by myself one time, was too shy and every girl was with their parents. At school my friends make me talk to a girl and I tell her i think she's cute and half of the class were talking about her and me randomly and she was walking behind them and she was all awkwarded out and avoided me. Just bad luck like this and I can't stop thinking about ******* girls and past **** that happened and etc and it pisses me the **** off and I have days like this where I just rant online. I'm so ******* burnt out on girls. Don't tell me to lift weights or travel the world because a lot of these scrubs at school are not doing any of that and are dating girls.

My friend has been trying to "hook me up" for some weeks now. Because I told him I am not good with girls etc. he's been making me talk to some. So there's a girl in class he wanted me to talk to and I said no because if it doesn't work out it would be awkward and today him and another on of my friends made me talk to her. So friend 2 told me to talk to girl as he distracts her friend (in the hallway) so he distract her friend and I tried to get her attention but she was looking at friend 2 but I finally did and I told her my name and she told me hers and I told her I think she's cute and she said thank you and she kept walking ahead of me and we split to different hallways that meet up to our same class. So my friend and friend 2 said to continue the convo when I see her again in a couple of seconds so in the hallway my friend and half of the class was asking me what her name was and she was walking behind them and heard everything and they were talking about her and said to talk to her and someone said oh shits she's right there and I talked to her to make it less awkward. I asked if she's free anytime and she said idk and tried to avoid me because of that awkward moment. I got super pissed at my friend in class and I ignored him and after class he asked me if I was hanging out with him after school and I told him no.

What do I do now?

So I went to the mall to try and talk to girls so I can stop being shy. I usually go with my friends but when we go it's always a bad time. I went myself this time. All the girls were with their parents and It just wasnt good. I went to a shopping area right next to my hour and thought I would have better luck but nope. I'm so ******* pissed man I'm 16 and never had a gf or a kiss and I keep trying to talk to girls but bad things always happen. Not even rejection just straight up hoeing happens to me. Like life is out to get me. I'm so mad right now and I don't know what to do.

I'm 16 years old and I've never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl. I've been "rejected" and "hoed" by lots of girls over the years but whatever. My friends are helping me talk to girls and ive been slowly breaking out of my shyness in talking to random girls (not completely).

So my friend wants me to ask out a girl in our class. She's pretty but I seriously can't see myself being a boyfriend. I think of myself as quiet and boring a lot of times and I feel like a lot of these girls don't understand me, lol. I told me friend that and he said "Not gonna lie, you kind of come off that way. Once I got to know you though, you're completely the opposite. You're super cool, and funny af, just show her that. " Thing is that I can be cool around my friends / guys but when it comes to a girl I don't have anything to say. I seriously can't picture myself as a boyfriend that talks to her. Ivr never really even flirted much or played with a girl. It feels stupid and unnatural to me. What can I do?