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I'm 33 and I have never did anything wrong in my life. Until the past year. I got hooked on meth. I am now on probation, have random drug tests and therapy. My problem.... I sold everything my husband worked for over the last 15 years. I lied to him about alot of things. He has recently left me. I have came clean and explained that i wasn't me then. Meth turned me into a horrible person. I understand that i hurt him, and broke his trust. But he will not speak to me. And when he does, he is very hateful. Im court ordered to attends substamce abuse counseling, regular counseling and also employment services to help me since my husband has left. He was the income.he told me if I wanted him back to get clean. I've been clean. My probation officer tests me everytjme and I've already had 2 surprise tests. He won't come back. He always has some excuse. And yes, he was and still is on drugs. Why tell me to get clean when you can't ddo the same for me? We have a 14 year old who chose to go with his dad. And I understand. But what can I do to prove I've changed and I'm clean and I want my family back? Please don'tjudge. I never thought my life would end up like this. I lost myself somewhere.

For the past 2 years, my husband has been secretly watching porn. I discovered it while looking at the Web history on our sons IPad. I knew it wasn't our son becuase he was 7 at the time. I confronted my husband. I just calmly asked, and obviously he said no. Lied straight to my face. I let it go, and did not bring it up again for a few months. The 2nd time, I actually caught him. He still denied it. Anyway.. I told him how hurt I was. Not by the porn persay, but by the lying. I did feel angry, hurt, and betrayed. He vowed to never do it again. A few more months went by, and I once again found evidence. Pissed at this point, I went to him and voiced my concerns. He then told me that if I could not deal with the porn use I could leave. We have married for 14 years. I tried my hardest to act like this wasn't slowly killing me. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, I was getting horrible headaches. Finally, after 2 years of trying to be someone I wasn't, I flipped out. I was holding so much hurt and resentment inside of me that one day we got into an argument and it got physical. He had lied to me again. I knocked his phone out of his hand and I punched him in his mouth. I still feel horrible about that to this day. I packed my things, and went to my parents. Told him I was done. He begged me to come home the next day. I told him I would on one condition. .. the porn has to stop. We have been working on our marriage. My question is, am I wrong to give him that ultimatum?

We recently was awarded custody of my husbands 16 year old son. The mother was ordered to pay, and get this.. a whopping $30.50 weekly in child support! Well, we received a letter from the Clerk of Court letting us know that the non custodial parent was behind in support payments and was being ruled in to show cause as to why no support payments have been made. She is 1 year being in payments. We haven't received a dime since the order was put into place. Yes, she works. And I know some are probably wondering why the court gave us custody of a 16 year old. Well, she was giving him drugs, and alcohol, and not sending him to school. We live in South Carolina. So, can she just throw away her rights just because she doesn't "FEEL LIKE SHE SHOULD HAVE TO SUPPORT HER CHILD?" I was under the impression that the father would have to agree to this also, not just the judge. Any ideas?

My husband and I have been married 11 years. He's always worked and went fishing every Saturday night. For the past year, anything I say to him he just flies into rage. 6 months ago, we got custody of his 16 year old son. Ever since then, he won't stay home. He works out of town, so he's gone a lot, but when he isn't working his regular job, he helps his best bud do odd jobs. He will often leave at 7am and sometimes comes home as late as 8pm. I don't think he's cheating on me by any means. I feel resentful that he gets to go off and go fishing, go four wheeling, and I'm stuck here taking care of the house and 2 kids. One of which isn't mine and cusses me all the time. Today, he made the comment that he was going to go fishing with this same friend that I wish would jump off a cliff. Well, I said no. He got pissed because he ASKED me what was wrong with me and I told him. "Sam is pissing me off.. Just because he isn't happy he don't need to cause problems with everyone else's marriages". Boy, was that the wrong thing to say! He told me he wanted a divorce, that I was stupid, and I lived in "Summerland". All because I expressed my feelings. See, I can't go off and do anything because thats "spending money" and its unexceptable for me to spend money. Because I have no job OUTSIDE OF MY HOME. He says that is why he doesn't stay home. HE can't be around me for long periods of time. I need help. Am I asking to much from him? Should I have said "OK hun.. You have fun!" when deep down I wanted to kick someone in the nuts? I can't talk to him. Everything I say is stupid or I have no argument. Take it easy on me. I'm at my whits end.

I'm not really sure whats going on with my husband. The smallest little thing tears his nerves up to the point that he screams, cusses and hits things. Over the weekend, he has stayed home with me. I had surgery Friday so he has been helping me. For example, Saturday, I took the trash out and he told me to lay it in the yard and he would put it away. 30 mins later, I went back outside and it was still laying where I left it. Well, I make a comment that went like this... " Really?! You couldn't move 5 feet to put the trash in the building?" HOLY COW! He let me have it! After that, he was in a foul mood the rest of the weekend. He's 35, so I'm not sure if its a mid life crisis issue or not. He makes me cry just looking at me the wrong way. I'm not sure if I'm just asking for too much or what. We've been married 11 years and he has never been this bad. Should I just not speak unless spoken too? He works ALL the time, and I wish he would spend more time with me, but he says this is why he can't be around me all the time... Idk what I do.. I don't think I'm asking for too much. Friday night, our dog kept us up all night. (He has CHF) My husband said if he knew for a fact that I have been messing up on his dogs meds he would kick me in my a$$, HARD. He was being serious. SO, at 3am, I'm sitting in the bathroom bawling my eyes out. He hasnt hit me, he's just emotionally and mentally scarred me. Bring this up, and it's WW3. I have been the perfect little house wife all these years, and I just can't take it anymore! I can't talk to him about anything without him getting angry and flipping out on me. Maybe I'm over reacting to this situation, idk anymore. But, what could cause these anger outbursts over everything I say or do? Please help!

We recently received custody of my husbands 16 year old son. His mom was giving him drugs and things she had no busy allowing him to do. He's been here since April, and we were awarded custody in June. Well, I knew it was the right thing to do taking him into my home, and trying to be a good friend for him. Only problem is, he has very bad anger problems. I have been cussed, called every name in the book. I even had to call the law on him because he got in my face and threatened to stab me in the head while I was sleeping. My husband works out of town 90% of the time, so it's just me and my 10 year old with him.. (we have a child together) My 10 year old has recently started showing out in school, as far as to being suspended for bullying which is very unusual for him.. He's a very quiet child. My husband and I have been married for 11 years, and since his son has been here it has been nothing but turmoil. I cook, I clean, I do everything I possibly can do for this child. Even taking him to doctors to find out his problem. Come to find out, he doesn't have a "mental" problem. The only time he gets aggressive is when he's told NO. I have holes in my walls because of this child. I go to bed at night and lock my door because of this child. My husband will confront him of his actions when he comes home, but he lies his way out of it, until, the day i recorded it! Couldn't lie your way outta that one! I'm just lost. I don't want to leave my husband, but I can't live like this anymore. Any suggestions on what to do?

My husband just turned 35. He all of a sudden started working out, taking muscle gainer, and yesterday, when and bought a bottle of testosterone booster. He's been very irritable lately, anger has gotten worse. Yesterday, I had a whole knocked in my wall due to his anger outburst that "I Caused". He says he's tired of no one listening to him. i.e. cutting the lights off after you leave room.. stupid stuff like that. He was so angry at me yesterday because he found a pic on my phone about emotional and mental abuse that I had looked up online. He went CRAZY! As far as to tell me that he didnt care if I slept with other men! WTF... who says that? I was devastated. He left for a while, came back and said sorry. I feel like I have whiplash. His moods are so out and back. One min hes the sweetest person ever, then hes the devil... What could this be... He refuses to see a doctor. I feel like the Lortabs he takes is a big problem, but he will not have it. I can't talk to him about anything without getting yelled at. HELP!

For the past few months, my husband has been getting VERY angry with me. I can go to the grocery store and he flips. Yesterday, his truck broke down and he couldnt get me on the phone, (because my phone was updated and turned itself off) Anyway, the least little thing will set him off. He has called me ugly names from, MFer, B@t%$, retard, stupid, idiot. You name it, I have been called that. I cry all the time. I have tried to talk to him about this, but he blows me off and says I'm stupid and he just won't listen to me. I just don't know what else to do. He just turned 35 so I don't know if this is because he's middled aged now and it's bothering him or what. What can I do to make him see what hes doing to me?

Hi.. My husband and I have been married for 11 years. We have one child. Yesterday, I caught him looking at random women on Facebook and "subscribing" to their crap. I mean, these women aren't ashamed of putting it all out there. Well, I'm sick of it. I confronted him about it and he said "Yes.. I look.. I'm curious" wtf?! Really? What could he be curious about? You seen one set if **** you've seen me all? 90% of **** nowadays are fake! I know I'm not 18 anymore. I don't look like I used to. I just feel like when he has sex with me, he's imagining all those girls he's been looking at. My self esteem has hit rock bottom. He says guys do that and so women. I might say " Oh, he's good looking". I don't go so far as to randomly typing in names and looking at random people. I guess my question is... Is there something wrong with me?

For the past 3 days, my 9 year old is having trouble swallowing. He literally has been walking around with a glass of water to help swallowing.What could be this cause of this?

My husband is paying for his 16 year old son. My step son has not lived with his mother in 3 years. He lived with us for a year and then she got mad and removed him from my home. He is now living with his grand parents. (My in-laws) We do not mind paying the child support but feel we should'nt be obligated to pay her being that the child doesn't live with her. Can we not take her to court with the proof that we have showing he doesnt live with her? And if so, can she be made to pay back all the child support she has received? What we would like to do is have the CS switched to go to the grand parents but also make her pay CS to them also. I feel that is only fair. She doesnt do anything to help the grand parents out. No money, not nothing. She even recieves Food Stamps off of this child and doesnt offer to help feed him. My husband and I get him every weekend, she only keeps him overnight and sends him back. For Christmas, she didnt even call to wish him a Merry Christmas. She only wants to keep custody for all the free government help she gets. So, what can we do with a lawyer to help solve this problem? As I said, we have NO PROBLEM paying it. We just feel it should go to the people actually taking care of the child. And as far as the reason he doesnt live here... He did. Twice. Both times we had a lawyer and she would not coroperate with the custody papers and we just couldnt afford $3000 more. Plus, he wants to stay with the grand parents because he graduates in 2 years and he wants to walk with his friends. Any suggestions?

My step child is currently living with my in laws. His mother can't do anything with him and she has no job. She recently took my husband to court for child support. We are having to pay her and the child does not live with her. We can provide proof. We get him every weekend. The reason he doesn't live here is because my husband works out of town all the time and I work. We can't afford child care. He's too old for that anyway, but he can't be left unsupervised. Anyway, she has decided to take us back to court for more money. Keep in mind the child doesn't live with her. She has been texting me, threatening me with Child protective services... Etc. Is there a law in the state if SC where the age of a child can choose who he wants to live with? He's already said he won't go to court. His mom gives him the guilt trip. She hasn't had him for 2 years. All they do is fight with each other. Should we just let him choose or should we just hire a lawyer and just take him away wether he likes it or not? She has no job, she's been drawing food stamps off of him for 2 years. Her husband has no job, she lives with people who will let her stay.

The guy selling it says he can't find the title. Is there a website I can go to and run the Vin # to see if it's stolen?

I said something to this girl on FB and my husband said I was being rude. I don't like this girl but she is a friend of his. He actually deleted me off his FB! He says I'm jealous and I need to grow up. I am jealous. I do trust him. How can I stop getting jealous about stuff like that? I don't want it to ruin our marriage.

We have recently had to have a DNA test done on my husband and his son. Reasons being that the mother is going around telling everyone that she is getting money from a man who probably isn't the father of her son. She has full custody but my husband gets him every other weekend. My question is, do we have to have her consent? The lab that we went to told us no. But, she is very angry. And the reason being is because she knows what will happen if he does not belong to my husband. She is also saying that he had to have her consent. Is this true? Any answers will be of great help. Thank you.

My husband WAS court ordered to pay his his child support. Last November she went to the court house and signed a paper to drop it because the child came to live with us. Well, we had him from November to Feb. and she demanded that we give him back. Well, because she has full custody we had to let her have him. When she got him back, she wanted my husband to start paying her child support again. He has been paying her once a month. But recently, the child is saying that the money is going towards her beer, etc.... He has been coming over to our house wearing her clothes before. So, I decided that we should just start taking the money that we give her and go buy clothes, shoes, underwear, things for him. I haven't talked to her about this yet. I just fill like I don't have to explain anything to her. But I have been making her sign a paper stating that she has been getting it, with the date and the amount on it. If I started taking the money and buy things for him, should I keep the receipts so just in case she takes my husband back to court, I will have proof that the CHILD has been getting it? And if so, will all my documents hold up? Thank you.

Owes them anything? I don't owe her SH@#. My name isn't on SH(*. You got full custody which is what you wanted. It's been 9 years. We go through this EVERY summer when the child gets out of school, and every time I tell her no. Not because I'm trying to be mean, but because she doesn't work and she can stay at home with him. We give her child support even though my husband isn't court ordered to do so. I've said that the only way I would take him again, (we've done this before and she jerks him back out) is if she got a lawyer and signed over custody. Am I wrong? I had him for 4 months last year, had him in school everyday, took him to the doctor. Which by the way she won't do. And she just up and took him back. We've tried to get custody 2 times already and BOTH times, I'll pay for the lawyer and she backs out. I've lost 2 grand because of her stupid games. I've come to the point where I'm not going to let this whore tell me what to do. So, my question is, Am I wrong for feeling this way?

My husband has a 13 year old from a previous relationship...and the child's mother does not want to watch him for the summer, so she wants to leave him here. I really don't mind, but I personally can't do anything with him. My husband works 12 hours a day, which would live me here by myself with him. And when I say that I can't do anything with him, I mean that because he's disrespectful, and he's constantly up in my face yelling at me. I'm not trying to be mean, but I just don't want to have to deal with that ALL summer long. How can I put that to my husband without him getting upset with me? He knows how he is when he's not here. I'm not wanting to sound like a bit#$, but this child has serious issues.

He got in trouble at school last week, and he got arrested. They actually took him to the detention center and held him there. He has to go to court this week. He has a problem with authority figures, and when he's told what to do, he gets really smart and back talks everything. This is becoming a huge problem. His mother can't do anything with him, and when he's here, we can't do anything with him. He's out of control. He threatens Social Services on you when you try to correct him, it's just really bad. And the mother has full custody. What would probably happen when he goes in front of the judge?

He was at school last week and well, he has a problem with authority figures, and when they tell him to do something he smarts off and gets in trouble. Well, he was in home ec and cut the oven on and got in trouble. So he smarts off to his teacher. They've had alot of problems with him for about a month. He's been suspended once a week for the past month and they finally got tired of dealing with him. Now he has to go to court this week. His mother can't do anything with him, and when we get him (father and step-mom) we can't do anything with him. He's out of control. What can we except to happen when we go in front of the judge?