Silly G

My bf, age 61, who has had 4 strokes so far continues to enable his 23 year old daughter who has two kids, ages 3 and 5. It's been 5 months and I'm beginning to feel that I need to move on. He's always tied up being stressed out and lately financially stressed out. I found myself enabling him with helping with the grandkids and getting close and realized I was helping him to enable her. He is now wondering why I don't want to visit him lately, but I told him when he wasn't so busy I would drop by. He has caring qualities and I am attracted to him, but I am afraid this isn't going to last too much longer. I don't want to hurt him, yet when I think about it.. he didn't think much about me when he decided to rescue his daughter and brought her to live closer to him.

My new boyfriend of 7 days, had me come over for dinner. He had his ex-wife there having dinner with him. He said she just stopped in and invited her to eat with him.. He is raising his ex-wife's daughter of age, 19 years old. She doesn't live with him, but he is very attached to her. She wasn't there at the time. I got upset.. after a day wondering why he would have his ex-wife hanging out with him at his house... He didn't introduce me as his girlfriend.. just mentioned my name.. and didn't even kiss me or hug me hello. He is trying to convince me that nothing is going on. Okay, fine nothing is going on.. But this man is raising a child not even his... On top of that.. this ex-wife.. had cheated with him.. and had a child with another man, his former employee, who is no longer married to her.. .. and he seems okay with all this betrayal.. and still chummy with this woman.. I felt very disrespected that he did not treat me like a girlfriend.. and also I think he is a fool and still has feelings for this woman. He denies it.. lol! Before I left.. he brought her up in a conversation and spoke about his ex-wife's boyfriend who is a doctor, and rolled his eyes.. and said that if he is all that then why hasn't he married her.. almost like saying she's full of it... I told him I felt uncomfortable.. but he doesn't understand.. he says nothing is going on.. and that there is no one who is going to come in between he and his daughter who is not even his.. lol! My point is I feel that he still loves and cares for her.. and he's in denial. He's trying to convince me that I am overly jealous and tries to reassure me that there is nothing to worry about.. But I do... I see right through this ex wife .. who is a user, a manipulator and cheater worse yet.. he's still asking for more.. I lost all respect for him.. She's running all over him... using him for money to raise her daughter.. I think his daughter would probably want her mom and dad to get back together.. so I don't see a good future for me in this situation.. I have exes that he has to deal with.. and I stressed that point.. I also said.. if someone did that to me.. cheated on me.. I would not allow that person to come into my house and act like it was all good. He says they are raising their daughter together.. Well... I'm saying well.. there is certainly no future for me here.. In this whole time .. he was working really hard to razzle dazzle me with his career, his vacations.. his previous wealth.. As far as I am concerned.. he can just shove it up his ***. I don't need to be treated like a mistress and this is exactly what it feels like.

I have a guy friend who I seem to want more than just a friend. I am needing to reframe my perspective on him to see him just that as a friend. When he asks me out for a date lately, I've been putting him off. I don't want to be rude, but it's difficult to feel him as a friend when I feel much more. We've talked about it before, but he has someone else on his heart but it's not going well.

This guy I have a crush on... has someone he loves but it's going nowhere... I often wonder why he hangs on to me.. I know he is attracted to me and visa versa but we are christians and do not believe in messin around. But I get this feeling.. I'm there to lift up his ego... Is that right or wrong? I feel used in someways..

He doesn't have a crush on me.

His heart is on someone else. He says he is not in a relationship with her because they don't see each other, yet they are in close contact. We have had lunches and dinners but we don't get physical. We just share our faith and other topics. It sort of helps me pass the time and its enjoyable, yet at the same time it leaves me feeling undesirable. Should I create distance between us and talk to him every once in a while so that I don't feel this way? or should I stop talking to him altogether?

I have known this guy for 4 months. He is sort of working out a relationship with a girl he really loves he says. For one reason or another they are not together. He says they need to work out their issues separately. He says this girl is needing to focus on finding employment. I think that is a silly excuse for being separate, but that is none of my business. Anyways, he calls me and we meet for lunch and dinner. We seem to hit it off pretty good. He knows I don't want to be in a relationship right now. I really don't of course not with him because he is with this girl and has feelings for her. He did mention that he is lonely and would want to have a relationship. He says he is tired of being single. I on the other hand don't feel that lonely I guess because I am always around people. Sometimes I wonder if he sees me as a potential girlfriend or not.

I have been giving advice to a friend who is trying to win his girlfriend's heart. In the meantime we have found ourselves getting physical. I need to stop it. Plus, he constantly talks about his dilemma and I have given him lots and lots of time... I need a break.. It's beginning to feel as though it's bringing me down hearing all of the bad news. He complains alot and does have issues about unemployment. I see that he looks at the glass that is half empty rather than what he does have. I told him that he needed to go to a man for advice rather than from me because it's getting to be too much.. He is upset at me for backing off. I can't take care of his feelings. I also question his love for this woman if he keeps coming on to me...

I've known this guy friend for about 6 months now. It started off sort of me being really being attracted to this guy. He came on to me a bit strong but I went ahead and kissed him. After that he apologized and told me his g/f came back into his life. He sounded really sincere.. So I sort of backed off from him asking him that I needed some time to get over him... It worked.. but not 100% I am attracted to him and enjoy talking to him. We share a lot of details about our lives including people we have met, dates, etcetera. We also talk about spiritual matters. He has been off and on with his g/f for several months.. I feel he loves this girl but is waiting for her to get her life together (her getting a job)... and also to see if she will get more spiritual. He says that they are working out their lives separately and independently.. with the hopes of getting back together. In the meantime, I am open and enjoying my single life... As time passes when we talk on the phone I am getting to know him more and more. I see him as a friend and him working out his relationship with this other woman. Is it okay for me to continue to see him on occasion just as a friend or is it sort of setting me up for hurt or what? I am not sure what to do. I think perhaps I need to back off from him completely... and let him work out the details in his life.

I've been listening to a friend trying to help him solve problems with his g/f. I think she's cheating on him but if not she basically doesn't want to spend time with him. She never gives him an answer why she doesn't. In the meantime, he's attracted to me and seems to want to move forward. I don't want to move forward who is in the midst of a relationship with someone else. I don't do it that way. So I think I have been clear to him about that. He seems a bit tiffed, but oh well... He is attractive but I am not going to go there...

My friend has been dating this one girl for 8 years. In the past 5 months he has not had sex with her. She talks to him mostly during work hours and avoids seeing him during the evenings or weekends. She mainly texts him during the evenings and on weekends. She never invites him over to her house. She tells him she loves him and can never answer the question why is it that you say you love me but aren't able to see me?

When someone loves you don't they want to be with you?

This guy friend of mine has someone he calls his girlfriend. They talk to each other on the telephone at least 1 - 2 x per week. They have met for lunch 2 times in the past month, but previously had not seen each other in 5 months. During the weekend she promises to see him but always cancels and never invites him over to her house like in the past. Basically, she avoids him during the evenings and weekends and always has excuse why she cannot see him. But during work hours she talks to him and meets him every once in a while. They have been dating for 8 years. He has complained about it and has asked her to let her go.. yet I think he is the one who needs to let go if it bothers him so much. I think the reason why he doesn't leave her is because he is afraid that she won't come back. Or that she will hold it over his head. He says "She tells me that she loves me"... and why would she hang on if she doesn't love me? I tell him because you are the other man in her life.. or the plan B... and she is enjoying her freedom right now. When she gets tired of her playing around she wants to know you are there for her. So my question is... Does it sound like she really loves him? And one more thing. He asked her why she didn't want to see him and she couldn't answer him....

I have a friend who is waiting for his g/friend to forgive him. It's been 5 months. He keeps pushing her to get closer and go back to him. He never went out of her but she thought he did through a few misunderstandings. She told him to give her time to miss him. I think she needs to let go and enjoy the relationship. But he's waiting for her to come back. Hopefully, it will be soon. How long should he wait? Years?

I can hardly say he was my b/f, but we are no longer talking. He was very angry with me because I think he felt rejected. He was playing hard to get and I didn't play the game. Instead I walked away. He was very indirect with me. Well... it's been months. Today we had a carnival.. He avoided me.. however, I found him staring at me from afar; and after I sang and sat down, he walked right in front of me.. Then I saw him standing near me.. then later after I got off the dance floor with the other girls doing the electric slide.. Here he comes again... then he observes me sitting a few chairs from another guy. Bear in mind... we no longer talk to each other... So basically he's paying attention to me.. but refusing to talk to me... Can someone help pleeeeeese?????

I met someone and we "had strong chemistry"... He asked if I was dating and I said yes, because I felt being honest was best. Next thing I know he cancels our next date telling me that he really liked me alot.. and made sure I knew that but.. that he wanted to go back to a relationship that was 2 years old ago. She doesn't want to work out the relationship with him but out of it. I am also celebate. He told me he had a weakness in that area. Then he says I have alot going on. So if I am so wonderful why did he leave? Did he just want to get down to business with me? So confused..

I had a small dent on my vehicle through an accident by another person. The insurance carrier declared it as a total. I dont want to report it as salvage because its in good condition. They haven't reported it as salvage, but are giving me this option. They said they only reported the accident but not the total loss. I don't want to. But according to DMV i could face a penalty if it dont. What shall I do?

My exbeau of 6 months keeps sending me letters. I haven't responded and wont. He is a meth addict who is trying to convince me that he is clean and sober. He's been doing drugs since the 70s. I gave up because I saw no progress. He is known to be a liar. Anyways.. He has sent me 2 letters stating he has found the love of his life and seems to enjoy trying to make me feel regretful since I dropped him back in February. I don't feel regretful. He said goodbye, yet he sent me a follow up letter stating how beautiful life is for him now that he found the love of his life and that he is planning to get married. He's just a bitter man trying to make me feel bad right? By the way he was very abusive and I see this as just a continuation of trying to hurt or get a reaction from me. But he will get nothing!

I am confused. I am broke up with my ex boyfriend. He was rather abusive but never really acknowledged it.

We used to fight at times about his ex gf. He would never admit that he seemed to never get over her because he would sure talk about her alot.

Recently, I went to his webpage and saw pictures of his ex gf.. on a video he made.. as it relates to a song his son created.

It is obvious that it's over.. We have tried way too many times to make it work but its never going to.. We haven't spoken in over a month.

So in essence he has pictures of his ex and some of me as I am his ex too.. with him and along with music.

Can anyone relate to that?

Are we just like reminders to him that he is desirable?

Or is it designed to make me upset about seeing him and his ex?? and yet having the nerve to keep my name up there.. like a mind game and a half!

What do you all think?

Please help..