Moonbeam

"I know everything I am, my life's not complete.......without you - I live a dreamer's dream. You are so pretty."

I'd choose Hayden Panettiere - or Amanda Seyfried; I melt anytime I see either one of them. Who does it for you? Maybe its not a celebrity - best answer = 10 points =).

I'd choose Hayden Panettiere - or Amanda Seyfried; I melt anytime I see either one of them. Who does it for you? Maybe its not a celebrity - best answer = 10 points =).

what DO YOU THINK they would want to change about YOU?

Last week my girlfriend of 11 months broke up with me quite suddenly. This was not easy, we've known each other since 9th grade (I'm 26 now), and we have quite a few mutual friends. We broke up because I had come home from a 12 hour day of work (4 hours in a car), had a migraine - and she became insanely upset that I didn't want to talk about some of the hardships and challenges going on in her life. I'm not an *** - I talk to her all the time about those same hardships - this one particular day I just was so worn down - and so stressed - I simply wasn't in the mood to talk that night. We went to bed angry and she broke up with me the next day - claiming I didn't care about her, and I have no long-term potential. She asked to be friends - and I said I'll always consider you a friend - but I cannot be around you or see you for a very long time because my feelings are so strong for you. She didn't take it very well - and there were days of silence. Occasionally I'd send a text and ask her if she wanted to talk - she'd say "sure but I'm not changing my mind about anything." Ok so then and there I took it on the chin like a man - I told myself I was going to surround myself with friends, focus on my career, start DJ'ing at nightclubs again - basically focus on myself and finding someone who wanted to be with me - start online dating in the near future - I mentally prepared myself to move on even though I was crushed inside. One week after the break-up she invites me over to talk - not once did I mention getting back together because she told me it wasn't an option - and I'll NEVER beg for anyone - its pathetic and degrading. She admitted that the week we broke up she was furious because I was getting facebook messages from friends supporting me, people were confirming the nights I was DJ'ing, and there were some flirty text messages from girls I have no interest in telling me that I deserve better (I didnt agree - the girl I'm with is amazing - but she still saw the facebook messages). Then one week later - out of no where she invited me over to talk and said - she was wrong - she over-reacted - she wants me back - and now things are great. My question is - how can women possibly let someone they love know there is no chance of getting back together when it is not true or when you don't mean it? Don't tell me its because you want to see if they actually care or not - because that doesn't make sense - because a huge percentage of men will care but will not pursue something he was told to be impossible or futile. Men have a hard enough time understanding the basics of women - when you throw a curve-ball and say its over forever - but you don't mean it - you risk losing the love of your life in some cases. How can you allow yourself that kind of risk when you can simply tell your partner "hey you really messed up and hurt me, don't do it again." We are back together - and everything is great - but I ask this question so that other men don't make the same mistake I did. If I had known there was even a slight chance for forgiveness, I would have tried really hard even if there was a chance of failure, but a definite "No its over for good" could cause a man you love to move on for good. I'm not looking for an answer - whoever provides the best insight and/or similar example gets the 10 points. thanks for reading this long one.

Girls - What do you wish more men understood about you, relationships, the female-mind in general?

Guys - What do you wish more women understood about us, relationship, and our mind-set?

Just looking for some honest opinions about my looks. I don't have any confidence issues or anything - I'm just curious and looking for some feedback. Thanks =)

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I've been dating a very nice girl for about a month - we met online. She is sweet, dependable, ambitious, seems honest from what I can tell so far, etc. Now here is the catch - I've usually only dated people I'm extremely physically and mentally attracted to - the girl I'm dating is pretty - but her weight is a turn-off. Now before I get called a jerk - I already told you all chemistry is a must for me - physical and mental attraction is a prerequisite for chemistry and long-term potential in my relationships. I'm not looking for a super-model - just someone I'm attracted to physically and mentally - both dimensions have to be there for me to stay interested. And I don't mind when I've been rejected because of my body type - I've been told I'm attractive - but too skinny for some girls. Since I can be superficial in my dating ventures - I don't mind when girls are superficial towards me.

I guess my question is what I should do - I feel guilty because I'm not totally attracted to her as she is - in fact, I feel horrible about it. She has started working out (before we met), she has a personal trainer, and the weight is going to come off - probably before this summer. She is going to be stunningly attractive when the weight comes off - and I feel guilty staying with her because I know I'll be physically attracted to her in the near future. Please share your thoughts without saying I'm shallow or that only personality that matters - I cannot control my desire to date people I'm physically attracted to - if I could change - I would - but it is part of who I am. (I should also mention I only saw pictures of her face on her online dating profile).