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First of all I’m gay. I met this really cool guy two weeks ago. We kinda hit things off, there’s attraction. But he said he has been out of a six month long relationship for like seven months. He tells me he’s over his ex but I can tell he gets a bit sad when he’s talking about him. I have a huge fear of being his rebound and even told him this. He got upset and assured me I’m not. But I still can’t let myself loose. Am I making too much of this?

I just hooked up with someone although I took pleasure in it I felt like crying and that I shouldn’t be there. I’m taking 50g sertralin daily. May that cause this?

Hi folks. Turkish guy here looking to study television writing abroad. I’m asking to see what continent or city would be the better choice to study this particular field. US seems the ideal choice but its immigration policies hesitate me as I want to stay and work where I study. 

Hi folks. Turkish guy here looking to study television writing abroad. I’m asking to see what continent or city would be the better choice to study this particular field. US seems the ideal choice but its immigration policies hesitate me as I want to stay and work where I study. 

This past three months I’ve been going through literal hell. I’m a singer/songwriter and was working my way to do it professionally (been encouraged by everyone I know) But all of a sudden I’ve lost all my passion for music, even when I listen to it I just don’t feel excited. I sit on in front of my piano and I feel like crying. The thought of pursuing something else makes me feel devastated. I try and try but no it’s gone. Started seeing a therapist. Hasn’t been a major change. I’m sick of crying myself to sleep every night. I literally wanna die. Is it a painful fact that I have to accept? :(

Hello. The question sums it up. Very interested in learning the guitar. Not looking to break out solo performances but is it very hard for a very left handed guy (I’m left footed, left muscles work more) to learn the normal version of the instrument? 

This year I’ve decided to pursue what I’ve believed to be my passion, music. But this past two months I’ve been feeling so passionless and unmotivated about it. I don’t know what happened. Like in just one moment, my brain decided music isn’t for me.  I feel like crying all the time. I just want to want that passion back. The thought of pursuing something else makes me feel like I’m betraying music. There are flickering moments where I feel the desire Again and I feel incredibly happy, like everything is right again and like my old self but it goes away and I’m back in this limbo where I hesitate it. I don’t know if it makes any sense at all. But I just wanna be the me two months before.

This year I’ve decided to pursue my passion for music which I ignored or felt I wasn’t skilled enough for for years. But this past two months I’ve been feeling very demotivated about it. The thought of pursuing something else makes me anxious cos deep down I still feel I need to pursue music. I was super motivated for it and now it feels dreadful, I feel like crying all the time.

I’m a 27 year old guy and I’ve been trying to start a music career this past year. I’ve written songs for as far as I know. Finally decided to pursue music. I’m meeting and finally collabbing with other musicians. But last week I woke up passionless and not very hyper about making music. I have therapist friends who say this seem like preparing myself cos’ of fear of failure. But I hate this “no drive” state. 

So I had a week long holiday romance with a guy who lives in Toronto and I live in London UK. I like this guy a lot and can’t stop thinking about him. We’ve texted for months, and I finally said I was planning to go see him, he was very happy and excited about it but a few weeks later, I opened up the subject of a possible relationship and he said he didn’t want a LDR. My feelings were very hurt and I guess I understand where he is coming from. But I think if he liked me a lot he would make the effort like I was willing to. Why do you think? Was he just being logical or was he not that crazy about me?

Hi. I’ve been writing songs without using any instrumenta for a while, I think most of them are very good. A violin player friend of mine liked them a lot and said I should take up an instrument which would help me compose. I’ve been taking up piano for three months now and I quite enjoy it, my teacher says I’m a fast learner but when I play around nothing good comes up. How long would it take for me create good stuff. I mostly write pop and rock songs. But with just my singing voice, I find most of the songs sound very similar.

Ah I’m smitten with a very cute guy I once saw ion Tinder (he didn’t like me back :/) and now I keep stalking him on Instagram. He’s just my type, I think he isn’t seeing anyone. I liked a couple of his pics but got nothing in return. I haven’t felt this attracted to anyone for a long time. I just wanna DM him “LOVE ME” lol What would you guys do?

So there is this bisexual friend in my circle who flirts with me a lot. I’m a gay guy. He flirts very intensely with me a lot and he is open about his sexuality, talking about how sexy a guy or a girl is. But he also doesn’t like sounding “gay”. By “gay” he means feminine; so that’s homophobic. But I find it odd that someone so open about his bisexuality can say such things. I mean you are kissing a guy but you don’t like sounding gay? Lol what do you think his issue is?

I’m gonna visit one of these cities. I’ve searched online and lots people are saying Prague wins. What do you guys think? Which one deserves to be visited first?

Going on a trip soon can’t decide which one of these cities I should visit. I know they are very different but what do you think?

Last year I took a corporate job and immediately regretted it and thought I was kidding myself and should make music. In a couple of days I wrote several songs but thought I was too late to become a musician (I m 24). I played and sang these songs to my close friends and they totally loved it and said that this is what I must do. But still I m demoralising myself with doubt that I can never do it. I m not an instrumentalist but I trust in myself. There is a song writing workshop coming up in my town. I m thinking of applying. I know I will hate another job I ll take. Do you think I m too late or it can happen?

Some sites say it is after the 4th week some say it's after the 6th. Or is it best to wait the three month mark?

Tinder and Grindr are for hook ups obviously. Gay bars are too. So, what options do we have?

A 23 year old gay guy here. I never had a boyfriend. The only guy I was really attracted to was this guy from a year ago, who flirted with me at a party but didn't recognize me when I added him on Facebook a week later. We're both still single since. I guess I'm just not lucky. I don't really feel attracted to gay guys around me. I'm beginning to feel I will never feel that kind of attraction to anyone else or ever have a boyfriend. Do you think I should do something about that guy? I'm not really having hopes about it tho.

As someone who has never smoke, I find it odd that huge amount of people are smokers. Don t people know this is basically poison? With what state of mind people start smoking other than pier pressure? How do you decide to kill your lungs? I observe that my friends started to look pale and old, and we are the same age. And the smell! Ugh. I just don t get it.