Amanda

I'm an Aquarius women and I've been dating a January Capricorn man for 1year and a half.. We've had some ups and downs, and as an Aquarius I've learned to change things to suit his personality. I notice when I ask him to do important things with me, he always makes up excuses.

Example: I've asked if he wanted to have Christmas with me and my family this year (all of his immediate family have died, and he's only he's 21)... At first he said he doesn't know if he'll be working, (I asked his boss, & was told he'd be off). Around this time, I asked again & he told me he doesn't know because he doesn't have plans. The third time i asked, he told me he has to work, and he doesn't want to leave his roommate alone for the holiday?? But his roommate is going on a trip for the holiday & he doesn't have to work-__-.. What do I do? Why does he keep making excuses? If he doesn't want to be together, then why can't he just break up with me? I have the feeling he's going to see another girl (since I just made a big move and now we are in a long-distance relationship)

P.S. I'm EXTREMELY loyal to him, I feed his ambition, I'm supportive, I don't pick fights & I absolutely love him!! Help please

So as Brief as I can make this (YES THIS IS BRIEF):

I'm an Aquarius female who is in a relationship with a Capricorn male. Although horoscopes may not mean much to many people.... in This case they sum up our personalities to a Tee! So far we've been in a relationship for a year and a half now, but I still can't predict what our future has in store.Even though Caps tend to be very mysterious, goal oriented, & pretty much traditional... I am Head OVER HEELS for my Cap. As an Aquarius, I have the ability to mold my personality into whatever my lover desires. So in terms of getting along, we do just fine.

HERE'S THE PROBLEM: For about half of our relationship, my cap has been wanting/ asking to have anal sex. For a long time I have been back and forth with my decision.. Although I desperately want to please him, I have an extremely sensitive anal area.. & if too much trauma is applied I will begin to bleed. Secondly, I've always wanted to save my "first anal sex" for the man I marry- The Love of my life! But Recently I agreed to have anal sex with him , because I love him enough& want to prove it.

Immediately after saying "Yes babe, I want to," I noticed he was thrown off by enthusiasm! Next he began to kinda tip toe around my gesture, and several days later... he told me that it's ok, we can just have sex the traditional way.-_- At this point I questioned him about it, and he continued to tell me that it's fine for us to have sex the traditional way.

MY QUESTION IS: AS a Capricorn man, 1. Do you think he enjoys the process of having to "work" to be able to earn my "treasure" more than the treasure itself? Now that I'm finally giving in, he's no longer interested? OR

2. Do you think he's probably getting anal from someone else, and he would rather just keep it that way... (Me the girlfriend= pure traditional sex), & (behind closed doors with randoms, he'll enjoy anal penetration?)

I WOULD ALSO LIKE TO ADD: I am a VERY open-minded optimistic person. Even though it's not IMPOSSIBLE, 9 times out of 10 men (and women) step beyond the boundaries of their relationships. So YES, it is 100% possible another lady could be involved.

As for him & how he acts towards me: 1.I know he LOVES me, but he admits he isn't in love with me yet, but wants to be 2.He's spoken with me about a possible future a couple times (however not recently in the past 3 months or so) 3.In another 8months, he plans on being drafted out of the country to play sports professionally.. so he's told me he doesn't care if we stay together or not, because it wont make a difference to him either way...

Me: 1.I'm very attractive 2. I have A Great head on my shoulders, I know what I want in life & I'm on my way to get it 3. I don't have a large supportive family, but I'm Extra positive about life thus, I desire my own perfect family one day (but NOT SOON!) 4. The longer I stay with my BF, the more I continue to fall in LOVE with HIM, thus I'd do anything for him. I have no limits !

So please, give me some insight as to what you think !? Being with a Capricorn makes me feel like I'm on an up & down roller coaster .. some days he'll be the BEST BOYFRIEND, other days I'm left with mixed signals :/ Truthfully if I didn't love him like I do, I would have left him a long time ago. To finish, I've recently asked (100 times) what he NOW see's in our NEAR future, to avoid being hurt... He always tells me He Doesn't Know, & but if I want to break up with him, it's up to me... otherwise we'll stay together to see