Laura

My daughter has this as a project, and has been gathering information since last Friday and will be due this coming Friday. Which is the "court day". She is part of the Harry S. Tuman's defense team and her witness is Harry Gold. Can you give her some pointers on how to make a good case? She is worried she isnt asking the right questions to direct her defense...

I have a male friend that, like me, has rekindled a relationship with a lost love. The only difference is that he has no children.

The situation is: They separated the first time bc he caught her cheating on him and suddenly other affairs began to spring out of the woodwork.

After years, they reconciled and thought about giving their relationship another try. My only advice till then, since our situations were so similar, was to just think well about what he felt was right for him and forget everyone else, but if he decided to that it would be a must to keep not just an open heart and open mind, but to be cautious and take time to regain the trust lost.

All was well for so long, I even moved away but we have kept in touch. Being kindred spirits in a way, we find solace in knowing that we share history similarities in our relationship.

I now have a second child from my second marriage to the love of my life and we are happy, daily struggles aside.

He, however, called me and confessed that still felt some animosity a few months ago but did something to get over it and now, it seems to be not making him feel so...'over it'. In fact, he feels quite guilty about it. As if you haven't guessed it by now, he confessed to me that, yes...he cheated.

He told me that the actual event was not even that satisfying, just the fact that he was able to get back at her. Now though, she is pregnant with their first child...and its eating him alive.

Morally, I know he should be honest. He, like myself, spoke to out spouses about trust and honesty, also about loyalty as a general basis for relationship along with good communication. As none of us are able to read another's mind to find solutions for whatever bothers our significant others.

But as a friend, I know well that telling her will only be detrimental for the relationship they have, specially since the foundations its based on is loyalty, communication and honesty...and this disastrous even happened months ago...I cant even tell my husband, feels like I have to let this be my friend's choice...

I mean, what if he decides not to say anything! How can I ask my husband to feel uncomfortable at the few times we chat over the phone or get together bc he is also keeping this secret form her!?

What do I tell him? How do I justify that he was right or wrong?

You see my conundrum? HELP!

I am writing a short story and I was just looking for the term, which I cant seem to find by merely searching the net.