Jag

we had a fling many months ago and i thought he liked me a lot. we were talking again after a gap of few months..

just about 15 days ago, while chatting with him I said few unpleasant things-

- his ex wife has met someone from his large social circle only.

- does he get to see her in social group and would now find out who the guy is

he said to me that he doesn't like jokes about his ex wife.

i said sorry but then started joking with him--

I was upset that he chats with lot of his friends but purposefully ignore me due to our bad experience first time.

so , i said to him , would you be wearing

tuxedo on the next party? you would look good because everyone looks good in tuxedo...and that he should build muscle to get girlfriends,

he knows he's average in looks and quite skinny and that's why i ended our fling because i initially didn't feel any attraction for him. but i later liked him for his personality and was trying to get along better.

he was very receptive until this last messages i sent him.

he's now blocked me!!

what do you say? I apologised in a text msg but he didn't respond, and i later sent a nasty msg that he's fake and never liked me genuinely and wasted my time..and he should grow up than playing such games with others...

it has been 3 weeks, he's not bothered to unblock or contact me...

do you think it's over?

we had a fling many months ago and i thought he liked me a lot. we were talking again after a gap of few months..

I told him few nasty things such as he should build muscle to get girlfriends, his ex wife has found a new guy, that he will atleast look good in a tuxedo etc..

he knows he's average in looks and quite skinny and that's why i ended our fling because i initially didn't feel any attraction for him. but i later liked him for his personality and was trying to get along better.

he was very receptive until this last messages i sent him.

he's now blocked me!!

i am hurt,,feels very bad and also feel that he must have found be creepy to talk about his ex( his friends told me about her)!!

what do you say?

We met when I was going through a very bad phase. he was very kind and showed a lot of attraction for me. we had a short fling and I ended it quickly because i wasn't very attracted to him. We were still socialising since i was friends with his friends. He always showed lot of attraction and was genuinely disturbed with rejection.

I later stopped socialising with his friends as I had few issues with them. I lost contact with him for about 2 months.

Then I contacted him since I missed him. after lot of persistence and hints that I am now interested in dating, he agreed to be friends again. We have been talking on and off from 3 months without any meeting so far. He called few times and i could sense that attraction was still there.

Last night, I sent him some odd texts which he didn't like. I basically was telling him that his ex wife has moved on as I heard from someone in his group. which he told me he doesn't like talking about. Then I told him how he should build muscle to get many girls etc..

it was all my ways to chat with him a bit ...just casual chat nothing to offend ..

but this morning he's blocked me on whatsapp.

of course I am hurt..d also feel that he actually never liked me...he could call and shout or send more texts to show he's annoyed but blocking means he wants nothing to do with me and also doesn't care how i feel after this.

he also knows I am going through a bad phase and value his contact which also shows that he doesn't care at all.

He has everything apart from good looks. I have always been approached by good looking men since i have been a pretty girl with good career etc.But, I recently developed some skin issues i.e. dark patches on some parts of my face which has compromised my facial beauty and made me self conscious.

I decided to date a guy who had everything but looks wise is average or below average. I am meeting him but there is no spark.

I feel sad. What to do? with my skin issues, I may not find a more attractive man, but very hard for me to get close to this man. I know looks don't last forever, and it's important to find a good partner who cares about me.

Can you please advice how to deal with this please? I am genuine and please don't bash me or call me names. this is a genuine issue i am facing and want your opinion on how to deal with this. thanks

I was chatting with a man for 4 months and was planning to meet soon. I am 36 and he's 39. We met via matrimonial site and live in different countries.

We were planning to meet in Dec as we both are very compatible.

I had developed a skin issue after laser which led to dark patches on my upper lip skin. I didn't like my face and wanted to get treatment for this.

I told him about this and said I can reconnect after the treatment to which he responded sure get it fixed and get in touch later.

My skin issues improved in two months and I texted him in Dec that things are better for me if he likes to reconnect but he never responded to it.

He had told me that he's looking for a good looking partner since he's very attractive. I was also bit insecure during the last few texts I had shared with him since i was bit distressed with my skin issue. he must have sensed my insecurity.

Or he's met someone else. I knew he was casually dating someone.

what do you think? was i wrong in telling him the truth?

I am meeting men I have no chemistry with. I don't fancy them but they are intelligent and successful.

I want to get married and have a child.

But, without chemistry, I don't enjoy the intimate time I spent with these men.

what should I do? Maybe, tomorrow, I won't event find someone as good as what I am getting today. Shall I compromise or keep looking?

I know my heart is not with these men.Maybe over time I will build a bond with them, but I know if any day I met someone where there are sparks and strong chemistry, I will not let that pass by despite being married.

what to do?

No one can tell when little makeup is on but I have downgraded myself because of the pigmentation on the upper lip.

without makeup this area is darker and I don't look as nice as before.

it is affecting my dating confidence. please advise if I should still consider myself attractive and accept advances of attractive men when I know that without makeup my face won't look as attractive and many of them may not like me as much.

please advise.

I have been told that I am attractive, well spoken and intelligent. I am quite decent and a loving person.

I never had any issues attracting attractive men, however, I have some pigmentation issues on my cheeks and upper lip skin which I hide very nicely with makeup.

I want to ask how would you feel dating such a woman if she's confident, successful and charming? How would you feel seeing her without makeup when her dark patches are clearly visible?

Please comment if I need to inform men I meet about my pigmentation issues?

I do need to apply creams every night, protect from sun, wear hats and on a hot sunny holiday I would have to be extra cautious. Does these things affect your decision to date and marry a woman?

we chatted for many months and were going to meet. then, i had laser hair removal and developed pigmentation on my upper lip. i stopped chatting since he's very attractive.

now, i have learnt to cover the discolouration with makeup.

i was planning to reconnect with this guy, but would it be wise? he's is looking for a pretty girl and without makeup my discolouration is quite obvious.

please give honest advice. he lives overseas and were planning to come down to meet me.

Update: i told this man that i have developed pigmentation after laser hair removal on upper lip and planning to hold off dating while I seek treatment. He responded saying, no problems, get it fixed and get in touch later. I know he wants a pretty girl because he's told me about it.

we chatted for many months and were going to meet. then, i had laser hair removal and developed pigmentation on my upper lip. i stopped chatting since he's very attractive.

now, i have learnt to cover the discolouration with makeup.

i was planning to reconnect with this guy, but would it be wise? he's is looking for a pretty girl and without makeup my discolouration is quite obvious.

please give honest advice. he lives overseas and were planning to come down to meet me.

I am 36, tall, fit, successful professional girl. I always got plenty of attention from men.

I recently had laser for hair removal on my upper lip that gave me discolouration.

I tried fixing it for several months but nothing worked.

I can cover with makeup. but it has affected my confidence. I feel the kind of nice looking guy I desire will be hard for me to get now because of this problem because when he will see me without makeup he may not like me.

it's not that discolouration is too bad but definitely noticeable.

what do you think? shall i still stay confident or lower my standards?

please no bad comments. it's a genuine question. if you are an attractive man yourself, i would appreciate your honest feedback.

thanks

I have always been a pretty girl. 4 years ago, I just tried some expensive product line without much research and got side-effects in form of pigmentation marks on upper cheeks.

It gave me a skin condition called melasma.

fast forward 4 years later, in Augus 2015, I started have laser hair removal treatments. I knew I already had pigmentation issues, but still had laser on my upper lip skin. That again gave me pigmentation on upper lip skin.

Today, I don't look good. Have been trying to treat these but no avail. It's likely to be permanent.

I am single and wanted to meet someone. But, now, my face looks not as pretty and i feel very self-conscious.

I ruined my future and chance to find a partner only due to my carelessness and lack of good judgement.

How do I forgive myself and move on from here?

I have been a fighter in life. In the last 10 years, I had numerous setbacks such as parent's death, sister's suicide, divorce, 2 painful breakups, continuous fight with depression, and struggling career.

Every year things would get really hard but i would fight back.

but, this year, I have lost all my hope. I landed a most lucrative job, were looking and feeling my best and have been chatting with a man i found both deserved and deserving. But, then suddenly, I developed dark patches on my face due to my pre-existing skin condition worsening due to my own faults.

I lost my jobs, went through one treatment after another but nothing improved, ended communication with that man of my dreams too.

Now, I sit at home whole day and do nothing. Friends don't want to know, and i am burden on relatives.

I have decided to make a will to ensure I donate my monies to a decent charity. And, I want to find a peaceful way to go. I am an intelligent girl not stupid. There is no dignity in the way I am living since my dreams have crashed. There is no quality in my life anymore. I want to go with my head held high before my depression gets really worst. I will be hitting 40 this year and I have lost all that I built in the last decade.

But, I need a dignified death. What to do? How to die just so peacefully at home without any mess? I need love of God the most today, nothing else will soothe my soul.

I am attractive and confident but have developed hyperpigmentation on my upper lip skin and cheeks.

if you are above average looking man, would you still date a woman like me?

I cant accept to live with this new face forever..my self confidence has been crushed.

I have always been admired for my looks, height and cuteness. I just can't accept how hideous I look today.

I have decided that I will just kill myself if i don't find right treatment.

I can't live half a life!!

I am an attractive girl with great career prospects. But, recently due to laser going wrong, I developed dark skin on upper lip area. I haven't been able to treat it successfully so far.

I am depressed since I feel now I won't find a man I truly like.

I am currently dating a guy below my standard in looks, career and personality. i am bored with him and hate that I had to consider him for dating. But i am sad and don't want to be in the company of someone I truly desire.

I am scared that I will have to date that kind of low standard men now.

My treatment is still going on, but my hopes are not too high as hyperpigmentation can be permanent.

what do you suggest?

please don't be nasty..it's a serious question..

I am a tall, fair and attractive girl with good career prospects. I always had lots of dating opportunities.

Recently, I developed melasma on upper cheeks and upper lip skin. It's darker than the rest of the face.

I am self conscious about it but few guys I met still liked me.

But, I don't know if an attractive and accomplished guy will like me.

I have been dating one guy who's below my league in looks and intelligence. I am bored with him.

do i need to lower my league or can I still pursue men i truly like?

I am a tall, fair and attractive girl with good career prospects. I always had lots of dating opportunities.

Recently, I developed melasma on upper cheeks and upper lip skin. It's darker than the rest of the face.

I am self conscious about it but few guys I met still liked me.

But, I don't know if an attractive and accomplished guy will like me.

I have been dating one guy who's below my league in looks and intelligence. I am bored with him.

do i need to lower my league or can I still pursue men i truly like?

I am an attractive and accomplished person but I have really ruined my life.

I had tried some product and went out in hot sun without sun protection which initiated hyperpigmentation disorder.

I was living with it for 4 years now. It's been limited to upper cheeks and was easily covered with makeup.

But, recently, I again went for laser on face to remove unwanted hairs which gave me more pigmentation on the upper lip area.

I am in depression due to this. I was aware my skin is prone to pigmentation still I went for laser.

I have lost my beauty and I am the only person to be blamed for that.

from 9/10 in looks, at the age of 35, I am probably 5/10 now.

Please comment how to find peace and move on?