Lady Tabitha

I heard the body likes to be on a schedule, but if you forget is it better to take it the next day or wait til night?

I think I want to block a friend who's being really negative, but I don't think there's a way to do it without them knowing, is there?

Let's say someone you were dating lied to you, betrayed your trust, but you understand the reasons behind the lies even if it was enough to break up with them. and still care about them. Would you meet them somewhere to talk one last time? I know it's ultimately my decision but I'm not sure.

I'm just wondering for personal reasons. I have an appointment scheduled with my doctor to talk about it.

I'm trying a diet that resembles the paleo diet to help get my autoimmune issues under control. I have hashimoto's thyroid and would like my antibody count to go down as well as decrease my symptoms.

So I'm reading paleo/similar blogs and although some of it is inspiring...I tend to feel myself getting depressed when I compare myself to the bloggers. It can be overwhelming because I'm just starting, and some of these bloggers have already basically cured themselves. I also get down on myself because a lot of them seem to do better on a day to day basis than I do- even before they got better this seems to have been the case. Afterall, they manage to keep up with a blog (and often make a little money off it), sometimes have a day job, and sometimes have children...

Although I know they have health issues, they seem so productive and like it doesn't affect them the way it's affecting me. A lot of my hashimoto's symptoms are mental (brain fog, anxiety, etc.), and it's sometimes a struggle to get through day to day life (sorry to be so melodramatic), which for me right now only consists of college courses.

I'm getting discouraged because I'm still fighting myself mentally to get used to this diet. I'm scared that I'll only be able to do this if I'm a specific type of person- you know, the type that can do anything and everything. I know it's a cop out, an excuse, but it's how I've been feeling. Any ADVICE on how to control my negativity and comparing myself to the bloggers I'm reading?

I was subclinically deficient, and took 100 mg pills for 3 months that my doctor gave me. After I finished the bottle I went to the store & picked up 25 mg tablets.

Is this too much? I am a woman of child-bearing age so I'd assume I'd be ok with this dose. However, I think I'll still have my dr. check my levels again to see where they are as I don't want to have too much iron in my body.

Do you think that sounds good?

My college Spanish class seems pointless to me. All we do is translate things and are drilled on grammar. I feel like it's inefficient because I know if a spanish speaker came up and tried to talk to me, I'd be completely lost. We don't really practice speaking in Spanish very much, and I feel that this method of learning grammar first is completely counter-intuitive.

I'm thinking of taking learning spanish into my own hands. I know there are websites where you can speak with people who speak other languages on places like Skype. Right now I don't look forward to going to class because I don't feel like I'm actually learning to speak spanish.

Do you think learning a language is something that's best to put your own time into? That's what I'm starting to think. Perhaps when I get to a higher level class it won't be as frustrating since it'll be more serious students and we'll be forced to speak in spanish during class. Right now I try to talk to my classmates in spanish & they just answer me in english.

I honestly don't get all the controversy over the new robin Thicke song...I don't think the video was actually supposed to have anything to do with the song. It was just supposed to be fun & sexy. I'm a woman and I don't find the song insulting...the lyrics are similar to many other popular songs nowadays. Justin Timberlake (not hating I like JT as well) released an explicit video to his single Tunnel Vision and there are a bunch of naked women in it as well, but he isn't getting any hate for it.

I feel like people (mostly women and the online feminist community) overreacted on this one.

They promote the most unhealthy ingredients. It's no wonder we have an obesity epidemic.

I saw a story online about a woman named Marielle. It's pronounced "Mary-Elle". Not like Ariel which in real life is pronounced with more of an emphasis on the "Ari" part. I love it and just wanted to share it with you guys.

There obviously are names that are considered masculine or feminine. But take a name like Agnes, Bronwyn, Winifred, Mavis, Hildegard, Gretchen, Margaret, Esther- I personally think these sound more masculine than feminine.

I generally find names with more flowing vowel combinations to sound more feminine. Also if a name ends with an A or a Y, I, IE sound. It doesn't have to end in an A or Y sound necessarily, though. For instance the name Miriam sounds very feminine to me. I think it has something to do with the vowels.

Do you think that we're programmed for a name to sound masculine or feminine to us, or is it completely a cultural thing?

Has anyone else who's aware of asexuality noticed this trend & if so do you think it's hypocriticial?-----This is the main question but below this I wrote why I thought it was hypocritical, so if you have the time to read my opinion that'd be awesome. :)

If you haven't noticed it, i'd like to make you aware of it because it's personally upsetting to me and others who happen to find sites/forums about asexuality (I'm mostly referring to AVEN).

I know not all asexuals do this, but I have seen it frequently happening. I don't think they always have bad intentions, i think the problem might lie in dysphoric asexuals saying they would like to be "cured" if possible. Seeing as society now a days is biased towards sexuality & can be very unaccepting of asexuals, this is understandable. (btw if you haven't guessed i'm a dysphoric asexual, just wanted to make that clear). Asexuality isn't a disease.

What I don't like is the insensitive way some asexuals treat these people. Making jokes and telling them they just need to "accept it". One analogy I've though of for people who are bothered by their lack of libido/sexual attraction (which I'm not sure is the same as asexuality), is that in a way they are like transsexuals. They want to change their lack of libido/sexual attraction to what they perceive to be a more acceptable level (i don't think the term changing their sexuality is good because it puts to mind people trying to force homosexuals to become hetero).

Even though I consider myself to be hetero(romantic), I do have a pretty solid knowledge about the lgbt community. It's interesting to me. Anyway, I know that some homosexuals will discriminate against transsexuals, and I see this as being similar to the way asexuals treat the asexuals who are unhappy and want to change. We're not necessarily asexuals that are in denial...some of us (like me) fit under the grey-A umbrella and can be things like demisexuals or pansexuals. Or some people may have defined themselves as asexual for most of their lives but have had very rare and brief periods where we have experienced sexual attraction. If someone enjoyed the periods when they've been sexual, doesn't it make sense that they might miss it? Or even if someone is classified as completely and utterly asexual, is it wrong for them to want to not be in order for their current or future relationships to go smoother? I don't think it is. We aren't trying to deny our asexuality, some of us are genuinely confused by our lack of sexuality.

And the name Asexual can be confusing in itself because i'd imagine many people are like myself and thought up the term asexuality in regards to themselves before knowing the official definition. So when you put asexuality into google and Aven pops up you are a little confused when everyone there is so anti-sexual. Asexual and antisexual don't mean the same thing, so i don't get why some asexuals are so hostile about sexuality. I think asexuals should at least try being accepting of those who understandably may come across their websites. Afterall, asexuals complain about the derision they experience from society, so it's hypocritical to treat asexuals who want to change the same way.

Again the question is: has anybody else noticed this trend?

Going to grad school for sociology, education, or anthropology?

Is there something I'm forgetting? I guess social psychology might also be applicable.

Oh, and the research would focus on fixing the US education system.

I'm trying to figure out a rough idea of what I should choose for a major as well as a career. I'm prone to feeling sadness and don't handle stress well so I don't think a job requiring lots of hours like being a lawyer or a high-powered businessperson would be a good job for me. I also get energy from working with people and enjoy helping others, so I feel teaching might be a good match. I was considering teaching science because it's interesting but my ability to do well in science classes has detiorated since early highschool so it's probably not a good idea for me.

I'd also really like to teach social studies because subjects like history, politics, and government interest me. I'm also good at English so I could teach that. My worry though is unlike science there is less demand for social studies and english teachers. If you can't find a job as a teacher in those subjects is there anything else you can do? For example, with a secondary english teaching degree could you copywrite (or write for a company as a contractor...not sure if they're the same thing)?

I'm more interested in teaching secondary school but could change my mind to teaching elementary.

I don't think I'm pretty, but I don't think I'm ugly. I'm just average but I've been worrying obsessively about my looks since my early teenage years. I really would like to stop. It's sort of hard though because I'm lazy about doing girly things like putting on makeup, dressing cute, and things like that. Most girls spend time on their appearance so i guess if i don't want to be at a disadvantage i should do those things, right?

I have an anxiety disorder though, and my obsessing over certain features is so bad sometimes I think I have body dysmorphic disorder. When I do try and spend more time on my appearance I sometimes start worrying more about my appearance. I'm one of those people who is always messing with their hair and overplucks their brows.

So what should I do? I've heard taking N-acetyl cysteine helps with trichotillomania, which I do mildly. Anything else I can do? I see a therapist and i've mentioned this to her but I don't think I was clear about how much mental energy I waste on this.

I'm considering being a bio/science teacher, but I'm squeamish. I wouldn't want to do a lot of dissections. Do you think it would be ok for me to teach middle school or freshman bio? The degree I'm looking at prepares you to teach several science subjects, so i'd have other options as far as what to teach. I'm just curious what people think.

I'm feeling so confused. I thought I could learn piano but the college class is so hard for me. I was so excited for it, but once I realized how tough it was the fun right out of learning it. I don't know what I should do. Should I drop the class because it's stressing me out that I'm doing poorly or should I stick it out? I enjoy music but I'm not sure piano is for me...beyond playing it for the fun of it. I love singing and can hold a tune, but my fine motor coordination isn't very good.

I feel like I'm just making excuses because it isn't turning out the way I'd planned, but it seems silly for me to stress out over a class that I'm not planning on continuing with. My parents are paying and they'll be disappointed if I drop even though it's only one credit.

Do you think I should stick it out and just be ok with getting a worse grade than I'd hoped? It's only one credit so it won't bring my GPA down too much.