Nicki

So I was basically 'dating' this guy over this past Summer and he went back to college this August. Our relationship was SO intense and when he left for college (which is in another state nearby) it was very emotional for both of us. He just came into town to come visit me, and we started talking about us. He said that his past relationship with his ex (that ended before Summer) made him realize that the idea of being in a relationship with one person makes no sense to him... he thinks it only creates jealousy and he doesn't see the point in 'labelling' things when both people clearly love/like/care about each other. He kept saying that he loves holding/cuddling with me and he Loves what we have so much, and would kiss my cheeks, neck and shoulders. Obviously I can tell he still cares about me too, but how do I go about this situation since he's still always on my mind? I feel alright about us not being in a relationship because I know it's not that he doesn't want to be with ME, it's just relationships in general... but how can I find safety in what's happening between us if there isn't any sort of a label? I don't hate the idea of what he's thinking, I just need another perspective on how to approach this situation coming from a person that is usually in relationships. Thanks!

I was somewhat casually seeing my 'ex' for about 5-6 months two summers ago, and we stopped seeing each other once I got into a serious relationship with someone else. My ex and I haven't been on good terms due to some stupid drama between him and my more recent boyfriend. I've been trying to solve it with him for about a year now since whenever we'd see each other out we'd ignore each other, but he always ignored my attempt to solve things. However, he reached out to my best friend (who used to hang out with us) and asked to hang with us. It's weird timing considering my boyfriend and I are on a break. We've hung out twice so far, and the first night he would barely look at me. I'm not sure if that's because he maybe felt bad/guilt or if he still has a crush on me and it's a bit weird for him. I hung out with him again at a party and he was much better, however he kept going around to other girls and talking with them. He does happen to get along better with girls, but I'm not sure if he was trying to show off to me or if it was just me being hyper-aware. What is he thinking and why did he reach out again in the first place? We were never really friends, we were always seeing each other in a romantic/sexual light so I don't really get why he would just want to be friends now.

I used to hook up with a cancer 18 y/o boy (James), we've known each other all our lives but only started becoming friends once we started seeing each other. That lasted around 5-6 months. I started dating my current boyfriend and he's obviously jealous of James because he's incredibly attractive, he literally looks like a supermodel and my current boyfriend is overweight and conventionally not nearly as attractive. My boyfriend has done some uncool things to James like talk behind his back to his friends and do some mean-spirited things over the internet... James always reaches out to me (we stayed friends for a bit) when these things happened asking why my bf is doing these things. James is now mad at me because he thinks that I am allowing my boyfriend to do this but he doesn't understand how we've almost broken up over it because it bothers me so much. Now James and I aren't friends and if we're out we don't acknowledge one another and it makes me really upset because I miss him a lot. I've texted him on multiple occasions but it clearly isn't enough. I don't know how to approach this situation because I don't want to seem like a CRAZY person for still being upset that James doesn't like me... I think I still care because I miss his friendship a lot but I also do kindof miss seeing him to be honest. Really needing some mature advice

my bf and I have been dating for two years now and I love him so much. I just feel like the relationship has gotten a little boring and I can't tell you the last time I genuinely wanted to have sex with him. I used to fantasize about other guys all of the time but it's not even really about that anymore for me... however sometimes I do think about how nice it would be to sleep with someone new that I was physically attracted to. I do really love him though and I can't imagine my life without him. he is my best friend and I don't think I'd necessarily be happier without him. I'm so genuinely confused, could someone give me a word of advice?

I need some unbiased advice. I've been with my bf for about a year and a half now, and I'm not sure what to do anymore. I still have feelings for him, if I didn't it would be obvious that we should break up. I've grown to not have any sort of sexual attraction to him, he has gained a lot of weight and it is difficult for me to get turned on. I dreamt of my ex-hookup last night because there has been some drama, and the whole time I was thinking of how badly I wanted him. I would miss my boyfriend so much if we broke up because I really do love him, but I am now thinking about sleeping with other guys. I know to a degree it's normal to do that, but I just feel bad. Do you think it's worth breaking up over? Does this subconsciously mean I want to be single?

Very long story short. My ex-hookup (18 y/o, our parents are best friends) told me that my current boyfriend has done some pretty shitty things to him (I'd assume talk very poorly of him), and he doesn't want to be friends with me until I understand what he has done. I have confronted my boyfriend about it, and he gets extremely defensive and says he hasn't done anything to him. I know for a fact he has talked badly of him and done some petty stuff, but nothing I would think should completely terminate a lifelong friendship. I can't tell if he is getting defensive because he knows he did something, or if he just dislikes my "ex" because he's extremely handsome and my current boyfriend isn't as.

I had lunch with my ex's mom (who is my moms best friend) today, and she wouldn't look at me when she talked about her son. I could tell she knew something was up.

I'm going to mention it to my boyfriend again to try and solve things, but if he continues to say he hasn't done anything what should I do? if he is lying, I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who can't be honest, but he keeps calling me out on the fact that I don't trust him and he thinks I'm taking my ex's word over his.

I'm probably a size 2-4, 5'3in and am quite petite as it is. I know I don't technically Need to lose weight but I would feel much more confident if I was a bit smaller. I have no intention of becoming anorexic so please don't think that I'm seeking for that sort of advice. However, It's hard for me to lose noticeable weight because I am already petite... So eating chicken&veggies just isn't enough for me to reach my goal weight. Any advice on what I be eating to make a skinny person lose weight?

I'm 19 and my boyfriend (Adam) is 17 -- we have been seeing each other exclusively since November, however we first kissed last May. it took me forever to decide to settle with him because I was also seeing this other guy (Jake) who I was completely entranced by. At the beginning of our relationship, I would fantasize about Jake constantly. I finally got over this phase thankfully, and was completely content with just being with Adam. However, I randomly lost all sexual attraction for my boyfriend and have had no interest in having sex or even making out with him for months now. I was talking to my friend the other night about how when Adam and I have sex it hurts so badly... and he made a good point about how my lack of attraction to him mentally is now translating physically. I love him so much and can't imagine my life without him-- however the other night I had a dream that I kissed this guy (Will). I remember saying to myself in my dream, "oh my god it feels SO good to kiss someone else." ever since that dream I have been constantly fantasizing about being with (both emotionally & physically) these other guys. Do you think my complete lack of physical attraction for him is enough to break up?

my boyfriend has always been slightly bigger but he has put on weight within the past year or so. it hasn't really affected me all that much because I still have strong feelings for him, however the past 4-5 months has been this subconscious aversion to doing anything romantic/sexual with him, and it's only been getting stronger. I don't dislike passionately kissing or having sex, however I have lost total interest in doing these things with him specifically. It has gotten to the point of where it hurts me to have sex with him because I cannot get turned on, no matter what we do. I don't really know what to do because I can't really imagine my life without him yet at the same time the past two days has been completely consumed with thoughts of being with other boys. I'm 19 years old, so obviously I know we aren't going to stay together forever -- however I don't want to make any irrational decisions (or do the opposite of completely leading him on when I'm not feeling it).

what do you think of open relationships? have any of you tried it… what are your thoughts?

also, if i did want to, how would you go about suggesting it to your partner?

i've been in a relationship with this guy for about 9 months (but have been seeing him for over a year). i used to fantasize about other guys but have stopped since i just found it a waste of time and on top of that, i love him very much. recently i've been picking back up on fantasizing about other guys. what triggered it was this dream that i kissed this guy i used to like and it felt so amazing and real. i am just not as attracted to my boyfriend as i used to be, and our relationship (although still great and we are happy) has become less interesting (both in our day-to-day activities but also romantically&sexually). how long should i wait to see if i still am fantasizing/feeling like maybe I should take the single route?

I've been seeing this guy, James, for over a year now, but we have officially been only seeing each other since November 2014. For a long time I would think about other guys that I had been seeing before James and I were exclusive but I finally got over that phase and I don't fantasize about anyone else. last night, I had a dream that I was throwing a party and James couldn't come until a few hours into the party. In my dream I saw this guy that I used to like (but never kissed), Aaron, and we had talked for a little bit... I was slightly drunk and leaned in and kissed him. I remember saying to myself, 'oh my god it feels SO good to kiss someone else'. I sometimes think about if I weren't to be in a relationship with James and it makes me sad because I love him so much and can't imagine my life without him. however, I recently have been fantasizing about other people and I honestly kindof miss just being a single 19 year old girl and being able to pursue anyone I want. Do you think this a normal thing to think about in relationships, or is this a sign that I should break up with him?

I finished my cycle more than a week ago but for some reason I keep getting excessive breakouts on my chin. I have 8 raised blemishes. Is there something I can put on my skin to stop the breakouts from coming?

I've been seeing my boyfriend since last May and we have had sex many many times. I am very much so in love with him, however I am not very sexually attracted to him. he is a bit chubby which is very cute, but I don't find him to be very sexy.

I am not self conscious of my body considering that I am extremely comfortable with him, so I know that my inability to have an orgasm is due to self-consciousness.

if I masturbate I can easily have orgasms, it's purely when I am with another person that I am not able to.

can someone please give me some advice as to what to do? I try imagining things that turn me on when we have sex but it isn't enough.

how can I get over my old crush? I am in a relationship with an amazing guy who I love very much and treats me so well. however, I can't seem to stop thinking about this other guy who I used to see right before my boyfriend... he is the most attractive boy I've ever met and he is so cool and we have great chemistry. I don't want this other guy to ruin my relationship because I doubt that he would even want to be in a relationship with me if I was single.

I know this is all so petty, but how can I be content with everything that I have?

This sounds very dumb, but my boyfriend often smells quite bad. He has really good hygiene (showers every day, always brushes his teeth, etc.), but he always carries around deodorant and I understand why now. He is sort of a bigger guy (by no means obese or actually fat), so therefore his body temperature is always really high so he sweats a lot, which is the obvious reason for the smell. I don't think it's always underarm sweat, it's just high body temperature. I don't really know what to do or say to him without him getting really offended. I know it's dumb, but it's kindof getting a little much and it's making me not as into the idea of sex with him. Any ideas?

do you think it's possible to fall in love with someone you've never really talked to? I met this guy about 10 months ago very briefly at a party. we introduced ourselves but there was this energy between the two of us that I have never experienced before. he definitely is attractive, but by no means the most attractive person I've ever met so I know it's not lust. he added me on Facebook the night we met and have been liking each others' posts. I don't know why or how, but I literally want to be with him more than anyone else I know. what do you think this is?

my boyfriend and I just became serious. there was another girl who liked him and he wasn't sure if he liked her back, but then realized that he didn't have serious feelings for her and decided to be with me because we have a really deep connection. the girl was a raging b**** to me when I showed up to a party with him and I told him about it and he was incredibly shocked. he told me last night that he was so sorry for putting me in such a weird position (of not knowing if he wanted to be with me or her), and that he wants to be with me and not her.

however, today i noticed that he still pretty much likes all of her posts on all social media outlets. I trust him when he says he wants to be with me, but it still puts me in a strange position/mood.

what can I say to him to let him know that it's sort of weird for me without it seeming like I was totally stalking (hahah)?

most of the time we spend together is purely in each other's company and having a nice dinner or hanging out doing nothing. not very often are we solely making out. we haven't gone further than oral sex, but the other night he mentioned that he wanted to have sex with me but couldn't because his parents were coming home. that's the first time he has ever mentioned sex. he always seems genuinely interested in what I have to say and creating a connection, but then the other night he said he won't go to prom because he "doesn't have a bae" (jokingly). this is an extremely vague description, but how can you tell if he wants a relationship or not?

he is 17 years old, and I am 18. we have been casually hooking up for about 4 months, but we haven't done anything more than oral sex twice. every other time we hang out, it's in a group and we spend some alone time to kiss. last night, we were making out and his parents came home. he said to me randomly, "I really wanted to have sex with you tonight but good thing we didn't." everything he says could either be implying that he wants me to have feelings for him, or he is signaling that he feels nothing more than anything casual for me. we were talking about how he isn't going to prom this year because he doesn't have anyone special to go with (he said in a joking tone). it's stuff like this that confuses me, because I can't tell if he's trying to imply that I don't mean much to him or that he wants me to have feelings for him. he kept bringing up other guys that I'm seeing and how he loves that one of them hates me, and feels bad that he stole me from this other guy who wanted to pursue me. however he never mentioned anything about other girls he may be seeing (if is even seeing anyone else casually,I'm not sure). what do you guys think/what can I do to make it clearer to me what he is implying.