show me your dirty face ;)

I usually like how I look better in 'real life' than in photos, I'm not very photogenic. So most photos of me are alright or not good, it takes loads to get a nice one. But if I'm not having a bad hair or skin day, I usually like how I look in the mirror :)

What about you guys?

i'm 19. i have a boyfriend who i met at uni, who lives about 7 hours away by train. because we are both busy (i have a job, he is revising for resit exams, as well as seeing our friends), we haven't seen each other in 2 months :(

he is coming to visit me for a few days soon, and we really want him to be able to stay in my room...when we live on our own, he stays at mine all the time and i stay at his a lot too. his parents are fine with me sleeping in his room if/when i go visit him. but mine are totally against it :( my mum says it is 'disrespectful' and 'her house, her rules' as i have only known him '5 minutes' (we have only been together a few months but have known each other a lot longer).

I don't see what the problem is, it's not like we're kids. and here's the big part - we're not even having sex. he knows i want to wait and is fine with that. but my mum won't even give me that as a reason why he's not allowed. i feel like she's being immature about it and just trying to ignore the fact that i'm growing up :/ she won't even tell me straight out that that is why, i feel like if i don't bring it up she definitely won't.

ii've never had a 'proper' boyfriend before (no one i've mentioned to my parents or invited over) so now i think they are freaking out :(

we could sneak around but i don't want to do that - and my boyfriend won't.

what should i do? should i tell them we're not having sex, like MAKE them talk about it?! it could be really awkward :S i don't know what to do!

i have 'dear maria, count me in' (all time low) stuck in my head.....yesterday in my social anthropology lecture my lecturer mentioned finding answers at the bottom of a bottle.....that reminded me of the line 'there's a story at the bottom of this bottle'. and here i am, a good 24 hours later with it still in my head :)

you?

i just found out the guy ive been sort of seeing is getting back together with his ex. and last night i drunkenly kissed someone else and have been feeling so bad about hurting him telling him, stressing about it loads . . .. and now i didnt have to. the thing is kissing the other guy made me realise i really wanted the guy i was seeing.

now im on the verge of tears. and im NOT the girl who cries because that guy doesnt like her :( i just feel he lead me on and now i know im gonna miss him.

just wondering if anyone else had a similar situation? if you've ever cried about a guy, even though you think its not you at all to do that?

just needed to vent really.

thanks :)

i've been 'seeing' this guy for a little while now, around a month. met at a party, he seemed cool, we danced, the next time we met, at another party, we made out. then i went away, got his number when i came back and he asked to meet up. we went on a few dates, didnt kiss untill the second one, and then he invited me to a theme park with his dad and stepsister - we acted like a couple the whole day. he always held my hand or had his arm around me and we kissed several times.

made plans to see him twice this week as he goes away for 2 weeks on saturday . . . made more complicated by the fact that i leave for uni in september, about 2 weeks after he comes back. so. we're not official, hes not my boyfriend, but it seems to be getting that way. we haven't spoken about what to do at uni, if we should try and make it work or just break it off cos the distance and me being away will be hard.

also, his ex comments on his fb with ♥'s and stuff, and he gives her loads of xxxxx's, and shes just tagged him in an album of when they were together and made it her dp. so i thought that was a little weird.

then last night, im in town, one of my friends who im not as close with as some but nearly had a little something with months ago asks if i want to go outside. i say yeh, we sat chatting about this guy im seeing and how hes (second guy) been hooking up with this girl he used to like - he said 'we're not going out, but if she asked me out i might say yes' and theyre off to the same city for uni so she said they could wait till then - shes using him as a backup basically.

then he asked me to walk around the block with him, we went down this quiet street - he stopped and said 'so do you think this ____ guy would mind if i kissed you now?' i was pretty shocked and just said 'yeh i think he would!' so he said 'what about you?' and kissed me. and i kissed him back! i was really caught off guard and the thing is i've always had a soft spot for him and he reminded me of that!

i told him i dont know what to do, and we both said if we want to forget it then we're cool with that, but neither of us really wants that, but we dont know what we actually do want. what with uni being like a month away.

the thing is, he said 'i just think you can't have been that into him if you kissed me back' and i think he might be right. what if i wasnt as into the first guy as i thought i was? what if the second guy texts me now hes sober (as he said he would) and says he wants to forget it - do i keep seeing the first guy? i thought i liked him, but then do i tell him about this? we're not bf/gf but the thing is i dont know if we would be. especially with uni coming up!

and im seeing the first guy in a few hours! do i tell him but keep seeing him if he will, do i not say anything? do i break it off? ahhhhh :(

sorry this is an essay. any help??? can't ask my friends as i dont want them to know in case he wants to forget it.

i've been 'seeing' this guy for a little while now, around a month. we met at a party and he seemed cool, we danced, the next time we met, at another party, we made out. then i went away, got his number when i came back and he asked to meet up. we went on a few dates, didnt kiss untill the second one, and then he invited me to a theme park with his dad and stepsister - we acted like a couple the whole day. he always held my hand or had his arm around me and we kissed several times.

made plans to see him twice this week as he goes away for 2 weeks on saturday . . . made more complicated by the fact that i leave for uni in september, about 2 weeks after he comes back. so. we're not official, hes not my boyfriend, but it seems to be getting that way. we haven't spoken about what to do at uni, if we should try and make it work or just break it off cos the distance and me being away will be hard.

also, his ex comments on his fb with ♥'s and stuff, and he gives her loads of xxxxx's, and shes just tagged him in an album of when they were together and made it her dp. so i thought that was a little weird.

then last night, im in town for a mates bday, one of my friends who im not as close with as some others but nearly had a little something with months ago asks me if i want to go outside after he bought me a drink. i say yeh sure, and we sat chatting for a while about this guy im seeing and how hes been hooking up with this girl he used to like - he said 'we're not going out, but if she asked me out i might say yes' and theyre off to the same city for uni so she said they could wait till then - shes using him as a backup basically.

so then he asked me to walk around the block with him, we went down this quiet street and he stopped and said 'so do you think this ____ guy would mind if i kissed you now?' i was pretty shocked and just kinda said 'yeh i think he would!' so he said 'what about you?' and kissed me. and i kissed him back! i was really caught off guard and the thing is i've always had a soft spot for him and he reminded me of that!

i told him i dont know what to do, and we both said if we want to forget it then we're cool with that, but neither of us really wants that, but we dont know what we actually do want. what with uni being like a month away.

the thing is, he said 'i just think you can't have been that into him if you kissed me back' and i think he might be right. what if i wasnt as into the first guy as i thought i was? what if the second guy texts me now hes sober (as he said he would) and says he wants to forget it - do i keep seeing the first guy? i tihnk i like him, but then do i tell him about this? we're not bf/gf but the thing is i dont know if we would be. especially with uni coming up!

and im seeing the first guy in a few hours! do i tell him but keep seeing him if he will, do i not say anything? do i break it off? ahhhhh :(

sorry this is an essay. any help??? can't ask my friends as i dont want them to know in case he wants to forget it.

sooo it was friday the 13th today, just wondering who believes in that superstitious stuff?

like is there anything you did or didnt do because of the date?

i went to alton towers today, forgot it was friday the 13th otherwise i would have been a bit nervous going on loads of rollercoasters haha.

so, there is a guy i sort of like. i have only met him two or three times but we got on well and i think i like him.

we met at a party, chatted, danced and ended up holding hands at the end of the night. we talked a bit on facebook, then i saw him on another night out about a week later. we chatted again, danced again, then ended up making out. a few times. we both stayed at my friends house with her and another friend, and it wasnt awkward in the morning (we were tipsy then drunk both nights so this was the first properly sober convo)

when i got a lift home, he hugged me and said 'have a good holiday' but didnt ask for my number - maybe because another friend was there. then he wrote on my facebook the same thing.

so im on holiday for a week, got back saturday, and havent spoken to him since i got back. hes NEVER on facebook chat, and i dont really want to write on his wall because its a bit public. i want his number but the friend who has it will be with our other friends who will make a big deal out of it, and i tihnk he might like me too so if he does i dont want to rub it in i dont like him like that.

i don't know what to do! i dont even know what i would say . . .something like 'hey im back from spain, did you miss me? :P been up to much?' but if i did have his number i have no idea what name to put on the end . . . like if i just put tasha i dont know if he would remember me, but it seems a bit formal to put my surname.

i'm not looking for anything serious but i tihnk we could have fun, i feel like i might as well see if anything could happen. help? :)

oh also, we are both 18. if that matters at all.

do you prefer asking or answering these questions?

i prefer answering, other people are more interesting. i rarely ask questions, usually only if i need advice. apart from this obviously :)

ok, so i was out in the sun today, came inside and thought oh dear, im a bit pink won't go out anymore. by the time i get in from work the bit pink has developed into burnage :(

i will be much more careful in future, and its not really bad, ive been burnt worse before (:S) and i dont think its bad enough to peel.

but my problem is, we have no aftersun in the house. so can i use moisturiser that ive put in the fridge instead? is the idea of aftersun to just moisturise your skin so you don't peel? or does aftersun have something else in it?

i'm considering a tiny tattoo actually on my earlobe, like a little flower/flower chain or stars and swirls. or something similar right behind my ear, like right close behind. have you ever seen someone with a tattoo on her earlobe? what did/do you think of the idea? i would like something more individual and i have never seen anyone with it on their earlobe.

i only want something really little, and i might get my mum to design something as shes a good artist. would it hurt more behind my ear because there is not much to 'cushion' it? and would it hurt more/less in relation to on the earlobe? im thinking because its small and the earlobe is fleshy it wouldnt be too bad.

thanks :)

i do, there just seems no point in saying the same thing.

just wondered if anyone else does it too. or am i just lazy. ha.

why are there so many people asking if they are pregnant?! i mean a load of strangers on the internet are not gonna be able to tell you, thats what a doctor and/or a pregnancy test is for. and also why do they ask in this section? at least go to health where someone might actually be able to help you.

anyone agree? no offence intended, i just dont see why people cant be more careful and then take a pregnancy test instead of asking us.

i dont need it as birth control, im a virgin and not in a relationship so won't be doing it anytime soon.

but i have fairly irregular periods, theyre often up to a week early or late, and i've heard going on the pill can help regulate them? my friends have got something from the doctor before to stop their periods for a holiday (just like a week) and they think it was the pill but without the contraceptive part.

also my skin can be bad sometimes, so could it have any effect on that? like would it improve as the hormones would be more regular, or could it make my skin problems worse?

would it be any good to go to the doctor and ask to be put on it? (17 btw so old enough to be responsible about taking it regularly)

so i was at a party friday night and my ex was there. we only went out for about a month and when we broke up i said i wanted to be friends but he made no effort to contact me so i thought as i broke up with him i shouldn't push it if he would find it hard. so we havent spoken in about 5 months.

it was a little awkward at the party but we spoke a bit and hugged a few times when he left - and i comforted him when his new gf got off with this sleazy guy (not really her choice but w/e)

and he said something like 'we should talk more' and i was like yeh sure.

so ive realised i miss talking to him and id like to be friends, so would it be weird if i sent him something like this?

hey hope youre ok after friday. dont know if you remember but you said we should talk more and i do miss talking to you. i didnt want to say anything before in case i was pushing it and you didnt want to know. so if you dont its fine, but i'd like to be friends :) xxx

we're not at the same school (both 17 btw) so i dont see him anymore, except at any future parties of mutual friends. so really i just mean i want to be able to talk to him without it being awkward.

help appreciated :)

i am a very sarcastic person. can't help it, its not an insult its just the way i am.

and i like it. i find sarcasm funny most of the time. but some people find it annoying.

what do you think?

ok we're 17, friends, not good friends but in the same wider circle - we used to chat easily in a group, and i see him like everyday. something almost happened with us at a party and now he's kind of being weird with me and i'm not sure why.

at this party he put his arm around me, so i did the same and we were like that for a while. then we were stood sort of hugging and he kissed the top of my head a few times. he had his arm around me for quite a while, i thought it was just friendly but then with the head kissing thing i wasn't sure?

at the end of the night he had his arm around me, then said he didnt want to go but had to cos his friend needed him. goodbye hug and i kissed him on the cheek. we were both tipsy and i have a feeling if he hadnt gone we might have kissed . . .

in the morning i took this to probably be a drunken friendly thing as i've never had any signs he liked me. i found a text on my old phone from the night saying 'sorry i had to go, harry (the friend) needed me. see you tomoro yes? :)' when i replied just saying heres my new number, no problem see you tomoro i got no reply.

since then i feel like hes been avoiding me? we never used to speak all the time but now i feel like he doesnt want to talk to me ever. even within a group i feel like he doesnt notice im there or talk to me specifically. im not sure if i actually want anything to happen, but i at least want to have him as a friend again! i dont think i'm behaving any differently with him.

do you think he just feels awkward about it and doesnt want to lead me on if he doesnt like me like that? if i just give him some time to forget about it will things go back to normal in time?

i have 5 conditional offers, but im only considering liverpool or st andrews right now as they were my favourites when i looked around. Now i dont know which to go to!

my course at liverpool would be psychology and german, with sociology in the first year so theoretically i could switch if i wanted to. the offer is ABB.

at st andrews it would be psychology and german. the offer is AAB.

i can do a year/semester abroad with both courses. my a levels right now are psych, sociology, bio and german so i know i like the subjects.

i live in york so obviously liverpool is closer, but i cant decide if thats good or not. . .i kind of want my own space. and st andrews does have a better reputation, but i dont know how important that is.

accommodation is quite good at both, but there is less single non catered at st andrews (what i probably want)

i like the city part of liverpool, but i also like that st andrews is small but near a town. . . basically im struggling to decide! :S

any help would be appreciated! :)