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So my best friend has this thing where if I ask her to hang out and she already has plans she will only say “I already have plans tonight.” She gets very offended if I ask what she’s doing bc she thinks it’s because I don’t trust her or I’m calculating in my head if she’s spending more time with other people than me(which I’m not!). 

She’s not lying about plans bc she doesn’t want to hang out with me, she just won’t tell me what they are. She says she doesn’t feel the need to tell me what she’s up to and doesn’t expect the same from me. And I know she’s not lying to me currently. She’s always with her boyfriend, which I guess has been a problem in our friendship before too.

On my end, a few years ago she was friends with benefits with my best guy friend and didn’t tell me for weeks. She lied about hanging out with him for a few weeks until I asked her directly. I lost my friendship with him over their drama and that really hurt. I am still bitter about that.

She says that bc we already talked it over and I forgave her that she doesn’t think it should affect our friendship anymore, but for me it does.

I still have problems trusting her. And whenever she tells me she has plans I instantly jump to the thought that she’s lying to me about something or hiding something from me, although I know she’s being honest now.

This hurts and offends her that I can’t trust her completely.

How do we talk through this so we can remain friends and understand where each other are coming from? 

Ok guys, I’m lost, so confused. I’ve asked multiple friends about this and they’re also so confused, but maybe you guys can help.

There’s this guy I have a class with (college) who I’ve talked to quite a bit and I would consider us friends. I’ve liked him for months but didn’t think he would like me back. He would respond to some of my insta stories and message me to compliment me on some things I did in the class. We would have fun joking conversations where I could sense some chemistry(maybe even a little flirting??) and also serious convos.

A few days ago after I DMed him about something and he asked to text instead. I thought this was huge progress! But he would take 4-12 hours to respond to my texts. But he would always send me long considerate responses, and apologized for taking so long. 

I’m just confused and feel like I’m getting mixed signals. He asked for my number, but then takes AGES to respond. But he always puts thought into his messages and continues the convo.

Idk what do you guys think?

Ok guys, I’m lost, so confused. I’ve asked multiple friends about this and they’re also so confused, but maybe you guys can help.

There’s this guy I have a class with (college) who I’ve talked to quite a bit and I would consider us friends. I’ve liked him for months but didn’t think he would like me back. He would respond to some of my insta stories and message me to compliment me on some things I did in the class. We would have fun joking conversations where I could sense some chemistry(maybe even a little flirting??) and also serious convos.

A few days ago after I DMed him about something and he asked to text instead. I thought this was huge progress! But he would take 4-12 hours to respond to my texts. But he would always send me long considerate responses, and apologized for taking so long. 

I’m just confused and feel like I’m getting mixed signals. He asked for my number, but then takes AGES to respond. But he always puts thought into his messages and continues the convo.

Idk what do you guys think?

Ok guys, I’m lost, so confused. I’ve asked multiple friends about this and they’re also so confused, but maybe you guys can help.

There’s this guy I have a class with (college) who I’ve talked to quite a bit and I would consider us friends. I’ve liked him for months but didn’t think he would like me back. He would respond to some of my insta stories and message me to compliment me on some things I did in the class. We would have fun joking conversations where I could sense some chemistry(maybe even a little flirting??) and also serious convos.

A few days ago after I DMed him about something and he asked to text instead. I thought this was huge progress! But he would take 4-12 hours to respond to my texts. But he would always send me long considerate responses, and apologized for taking so long. 

I’m just confused and feel like I’m getting mixed signals. He asked for my number, but then takes AGES to respond. But he always puts thought into his messages and continues the convo.

Idk what do you guys think?