Maxime Harlaar

I am currently seeing someone, at least I can safely say it is light, friendly dating, nothing official. We met through a family friend, and I greatly appreciate his generous character, even though he is unemployed, he always makes time for me where he can. He always spends the little he has with me...when he has, and he never complains........everytime I am in need of a favour or a family member of mine, he is the first person to be present. He is quite good looking.

However there are a few reservations I have, which make me feel guilty but make me feel like perhaps he is either not ready for this or not the guy for me. For instance, I never really feel like we have a conversation....I feel like its usually playback conversations....when I'm with him lately I don't feel happy or like I have something to look forward to , lately I've been feeling like he just sees me becasue he has to...We don't really understand each other, and he doesn't really make an effort to get to know me on a deeper level: my beliefs, goals etc....we do talk about the future at times, he seems quite open, when the time is right, to have a family with me, even though he has fixed and opposite ideas to mine in certain aspects...

He tells me he has depresssion issues and really now I'm beginning to feel and see it as that unhappiness is rubbing off me...but I think I have some developing feelings for him, so I can't even imagine myself flirting around because I feel I would be disrespecting him...What do you think about this? Appreciate your contributions

Hi, thanx for taking time to read this, I'd really appreciate your thoughts.

I am an intern at work, have been for three months under business development department. My supervisor was the business development assistant and recently resigned due to personal reasons, leaving me to literally take over the department in terms of work load with the help of my colleague who is in the trading department and has had ample experience in the company. However, she is relatively new to business development yet very capable. The business development officer position was vacant and we were advised it was being advertized as the company sought to find someone, leaving me with the assumption that I would take business dev assistant post.

Anyway my colleague and i have been working together for one month now since the bd assistants resignation and so far its been good. We have made progress and we really do our best to balance the trading department and the duties of bd department. This fact led us to imagine the possibility of merging the two departments, as this is a stock exchange and information is all inter connected, and we could run it whilst saving the company the cost of hiring new people when we are able and trainable.

So with much zeal we proposed this idea to the boss, and we left his office with a change of heart towards him, the organization and our futures there. In the meeting, he shot us down by stating that the company has HOUR consultants that handle all job application processes, even though the job post was not advertized internally. Also, he continued to say that the post advertised was for a business development assistant in the hope that they will be trained to take up position of bd officer. I swear our reactions were that of discontnt. Personally, I felt betrayed because the purpose of my internship was to beome bd assistant, esp considering how hard I've worked, an to hear the boss seek an outsider to groom whn he has us at his disposal? Any thoughts?