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I never want to have sex or even any form of it. I don't ever even thing about it. The times we do, it feels like a chore. I feel bad for him, but I just have absolutely NO sex drive. I just had our 2nd baby 4 months ago, so I know that may be some part of the reason. Anyone got any suggestions?

Back story...When I was pregnant with my first child, a boy, I had a dream that I wreaked my car with 3 boys, who in the dream were my sons. In the dream I crashed in water and I had to pulled them all to safety, but we all about drown. Fast forward about 6 months ago, when I was pregnant with my second child, a girl. I dreamed that I had a baby with curly red hair. I don't recall any details other then that. My oldest had a head full of straight blond hair. My youngest, who is now 4 months, has straight brown hair, which is starting to lighten up to blond. About 2 months ago, my friend gave birth to a baby. He had curly red hair, just like my dream. Tragically, he passed away a 2 days of age. The cause of death was suffocation. He was in the birth canal too long, and lost to much oxygen. Do you think it is possible that my dreams somewhat told me of what came in the future? I dream of children almost drowning and dream of a red-haired baby, and then in real-life, my friend loses her baby to lack of oxygen. It really seems like a weird coincidence. Any thoughts?

I tore having my baby, who is now 4 months. Now when my husband and I try to have sex in certain positions, the area when I had the stitches is still just too sore. Is there anything I can do for that?

He was her first child and was only 2 days old. He died 2-28-09. I want to give her something on Mother's Day, because after all, she is a mother. Any suggestions would be very helpful.