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I bought rare DVD from eBay for $30 + $10 shipping. Thought it was a great deal (I've been watching for a while now and rarely does it fall below $90). Seller had 100% positive feedback, over 300 people providing feedback so I figured it was pretty safe even though it was under-priced.

Well, turned out to be a clear copy. Can read "Memorex printable DVD-R" right on the DVD. Cover image and image on the DVD poor quality pixalated, etc.

Not wanting to screw around I immediately opened a dispute. One does not 'accidentally' sell pirated DVDs - this is, in my mind someone intentionally trying to screw someone over.

The seller has through the PayPal resolution center has admitted that it was a downloaded uk copy and they seemed at first baffled why I'd have anything wrong with it. Initially denied my request for a full refund, but within a few hours offered to refund and pay $4 for shipping if I'd removed the negative feedback I'd left. I'm not going to remove the feedback, so now they're asking me to ship at my expense with registered mail. I checked - that's going to cost me $19!

If it was an honest mistake or I changed my mind I'd be happy to pay for return shipping, but I'm at a loss - should I really be on the hook for nearly half of the price just to ship back an illegal item they may very well just turn around and try and sell again?

At this point I'm thinking I should just let her escalate if she disagrees. Doesn't look like I have much to lose by escalating - since I'd already be out half of my money if I pay for registered mail myself.

(Sorry about the category - there doesn't seem to be a good one for eBay questions anywhere)

Well, maybe not "mandatory" but highly recommended? I'm not sure I see the point since you can be dilated for weeks before you go into labor and honestly I find them quite painful (I know labor's going to be much worse of course - this will be my second child).

Is there any good reason to be checking every week after 37 weeks? I've had no concerns, and no change in vaginal discharge so I don't expect I'm going into labor any time soon. If there's a good medical reason to check I'm all for it, but if not - can you just ask they skip it? My regular OB is out of town this week so I'll be with a new doctor I've never met too, so just another reason I'd rather skip it if not necessary.

With my first born, I never produced enough breast milk for her to exclusively nurse. In fact, when she was being checked 2 days after I'd checked out of the hospital (so she was 3-4 days old already) she was already showing signs of dehydration so we had to start supplementing with formula. I worked with a lactation consultant to help her with some minor latching problems and did everything I could to increase my supply (bf'ing before supplementing, pumping after every feeding, fenugeek, blessed thistle and domperidone) and was never able to produce enough milk to satisfy even half of her needs.

I'm worried the same thing will happen again with my second. I know now that I'm going to keep very close track of wet diapers and we should be seeing 1 wet diaper in the first 24h, 2 wet diapers on day 2, 3 on day 3, 4 on day 4, then 6 or more daily from there on in, but at what point do you start supplementing if you don't get enough wet diapers? If you don't get a single wet diaper on the first day do you start supplementing right away? Or maybe on day 2? I felt like such a failure for not realizing that our daughter was dehydrated the first time that I don't want to let it get to that point again. Nor do I want to give up to easily.

My babysitter is driving me nuts, but since it's taken our daughter so long to get used to her and is just now accepting her I'm hesitating switching to a new one. But I want to know if maybe what I'm expecting is unreasonable.

When we come home we're stuck cleaning up after her. I'm not expecting her to tidy up everything, but simple things like putting away/throwing out left over food from dinner (both her own and whatever my daughter doesn't eat) and taking her dishes to the sink, empty pop cans (usually half-full pop cans are left out), food wrappers, etc. If our daughter doesn't drink her milk, it would be nice if it just got put back in the fridge - instead of being left out so it has to be thrown out because it's been sometimes sitting there for 4+ hours. Often right beside where we find her when we come home.

If our daughter was keeping her busy the whole time I'd forgive it, but our daughter goes to bed at 7pm and she often has 2+ hours to do these basic tasks.

Am I expecting too much, or is she just really lazy? When I was a babysitter I'd at least clear the dishes, rinse the plates if they were going to get dried on crud on them, and tidy up after myself.

This is my second pregnancy and thankfully I'm not nearly so weepy or emotional, but I'm wondering how others deal with the irrational hormone swings. I'm a project manager in software engineering at a male dominated work place (which is more than fine by me if I'm my sane normal self), so I don't really have the liberty to allow myself to fall apart at work and often come home wound up and falling apart.

What do you do to try to keep the hormonal roller coaster tolerable when you don't have the liberty to fall apart?

We're travelling, and unfortunately will require a passport for our 2 year old to re-enter Canada. Trouble is she will not sit still even for a split second for the photo. My husband has tried twice 15 minutes at two different stores and still no luck. We cannot physically restrain her because you're not allowed to have any one else (not even a hand) in the picture. We've tried putting her favourite stuffed animal on the chair she needs to sit on, had daddy take a turn, but she just keeps flailing any time we get near the chair.

Anyone have any tricks that might be worth trying next time we go? I'm stumped.

I finished 5 terms out of 6 on a 3-year Bachelors of Mathematics degree in Canada, however hated every minute of it and can't find the will to finish the last term. I have been working in the field of software testing for nearly 10 years, and have learnt a lot more than I ever would in school.

Are there any semi-reputable places to get my previous education and my life-experience recognized in the form of a bachelor's degree (preferably in Canada, but USA will do too)? I'm thinking of changing jobs and someone has reminded me that even with 10 years experience under my belt, some people will still care that I never finished my degree.

Thanks.

Our 21 month old daughter has been down to just one afternoon nap (3 hours) since 13 months old, and is a great sleeper at night (typically around 12-14 hours), but over the last week she's not doing so well with her afternoon naps. She's not unhappy, she's just not tired in the afternoon and has actually skipped 4 afternoon naps in the last week. She's not teething, and has no trouble falling asleep at night, but she's pretty darned grumpy for the last two hours before going to bed for the night if she's skipped her afternoon nap.

Is she really trying to drop her afternoon nap already? I didn't think this happened until 3 or 4 years old.

Thanks.