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I'm 36 and my wife is 34.

I always wanted to have kids but wife never wanted to have kids. I really wanted to have kids. I thought, she would change her view someday and one fine day she agreed to have kids on condition that I will take his/her full responsibility.

From last month, she has been chronically ill. Hopefully she will be ok in few months. but doctors said, she won't be able to have kids. She is ok with it.

I don't know how to react now. I love her but same time, I feel broken inside.

We live in a decent high rise apartment in west London. We are Indian couple. In a busy life we hardly see neighbors and last week, I get a chance to see one of my neighbors. It was casual intro with guy named Paul. Then next morning I saw a garbage bag thrown on a flat door blocking our way. I moved it away and informed wife and left the flat. When she was about to leave the flat, she saw the garbage bag was back to our door blocking way. She got scared as someone watching us? and She moved it to empty space again and left to work. On return, the garbage was there with angry notes from other neighours for keeping it their, I knocked on each neighbor s door and finally Paul's wife agreed that garbage belongs to them and her husband must be in a hurry so Paul left it outside your door? Sure, he was in a hurry so he had time to throw the garbage on our door twice. We think it is racially motivated and think he will be doing some nasty things in the future. I felts it like racism. Is it ? Not sure how to deal with him in future.

I'm 34 years old and my wife is 32. We are happily married since last 4 years and we are well settled. Our marriage was arranged by parents(standard Indian thing).

After 2 years of marriage, her views changed towards having babies. For last two years she is saying no to have babies.

At this stage, I would like to have kids and my wife doesn't want kids. Now she is firm on her decision. I spoke with her on this topic and understood that she thinks having kids is responsibility and she don't want any. I told her that I'm happy to take all responsibility but not helping. According to her, she'll never want to have kids and if I want kids I should divorce her. She is happy the way life is. I love her.

Now this is a decision time as we are buying a half million pound house in our name. We will be taking big mortgage. We think, we should get things sorted before we make a big commitment.

Has anyone gone through similar situations? Please help. Thanks