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I'm 25 and I went through a divorce about a year ago. Actually, we separated in August and the divorce was finalized in April. The whole situation was very unpleasant. We both made our share of mistakes (nothing major, just ordinary mistakes that people make every day - no cheating, abuse, etc). The thing is, she took no responsibility for her end of it, and she pushed really hard for the divorce even though I tried my best to correct the situation. Anyway, it's over now; on to my real question.

A month or so after the divorce was final, I was told by a friend that she was dating someone else. I don't know why they told me, but they did. Now, it's not that I'm still in love with her or anything, but I'm just having a really hard time letting go! I guess it has something to do with the fact that I was her first, and I'm having a hard time accepting the fact that I'm not her last, even though I thought I would be when we got married. Even after she slandered me on facebook (she posted status updates saying that I am an abusive porn addict, which is in no way true. Even now, with the resentment that I have for the situation, I would NEVER try to hurt her). She said that because her family doesn't agree with her chosen path and this was her last ditch effort. They don't believe that I'm an abusive porn addict, but still, it was out there for the world to see and her friends and boyfriend probably think that she was lucky to get out of the marriage alive.

As for me, I did rebound once shortly after the divorce, but that was short lived because I realized that I needed some time to be alone. I started going back to church regularly, meeting with my pastor on a semi-regular basis and I began going to a young adult bible study.

I'm ready to start dating again, but everyone keeps telling me to just do my normal thing. Not to try, because someone will come my way when the time is right. I am a little worried about my feelings towards my ex-wife's relationship, but I'm guessing that's normal? My feeling is that it will lessen when I have someone to devote my own life to, rather than being alone and thinking about the fact that she is not alone.

By the way, we were married for just over a year, but only living together as husband and wife for 9 months. This divorce really wasn't what I wanted, but I am able to see some of the things that were not perfect between us that I can improve on in my next relationship.

What's your take on this?

So back when I was 21 (2005), I was admitted to the hospital and racked up about a $1,000. bill. Being poor at the time, I couldn't quite pay it off and I was told by everyone I knew that medical bills would not hurt my credit. Well, they were wrong. It eventually went into collections and I eventually paid in full back in 2006. Since then I have been making all my car payments on time. I am a co-signer and I bought this car new in 2005. Admittedly, there are a few slip-ups where I was late, but I have no missed payments or anything like that. Still, my credit is bad. I can't get credit anywhere, and the only card I have is an Orchard Bank card with a $500. limit (which was recently raised from $300). I am inclined to request an increase to $1,000 as I don't think it would hurt my credit to ask. I make all my payments on time and I never pay the minimum fee. I usually pay half if not the entire balance.

So, I ask all of you, what is the best way to rebuild my credit? I am thinking of looking at other "mediocre" cards like Premier, etc, but I am afraid of applying because if I don't get approved it will hurt my credit score even more. I would like to have one or two more cards. My fiance and I went to Zales today to buy wedding bands and we had to open a card in her name because I wasn't approved... It was somewhat embarrassing, especially since we were only asking for about $400.00. Now I hate to take my own question off-topic, but what changes with our credit scores when we get married? Do I get better credit? Does hers get worse? Do we become 'equal', and as 'one'?

...And what about that car I've been making payments on for 3 years. Shouldn't my credit be getting better because of that too?

I'm sorry this is such a loaded question. I just need some answers because no one I know seems to have a clue, Thanks!!!

Does anyone know if this phone has a built in video recorder (camcorder) function? My girlfriend's cheaper Samsung has one, but I can't find a way to get to mine if it has it. The only user manual they gave me was in Spanish... No use there! lol.

Ok, I'm asking this for a second time because I think I have some new lyrics.

To recap, I work at Lowe's and I hear this on our satellite station all the time. It's a soothing song and it has a pretty cool synth riff throughout which I really like.

The song has sort of an acoustic guitar feel throughout and it's sang by mostly a male but with maybe a backup female singing the same lyrics in harmony. Another key feature is the piano sound which is a simple 4-note riff.

Here's the lyrics I believe are mostly accurate:

You gave something away

That you didn’t want to

That you didn’t mean to

Is there something you could say

With a second chance

That you should’ve...

There is no turning back

Giving love away

Burning bridges down

And there’s nothing left to say

-Synth Riff-

Nowhere left to go

Nowhere left to go

Nowhere left to go

Nowhere left to go

There’s no turning back

Giving love away

Burning bridges down

And there’s nothing left to say

Also, pretty sure it's not a "new" song.

Ok, so I am a Lighting Designer and Musician and a few years ago I did the musical Les Miserables. It was put on DVD (2 disc set) by a professional company but I've recently had the idea to add captions. The show sounds really good but it's hard to understand with all the singing so I think captions would make it easier to follow. The DVD's are not copyrighted but the show is (and we were given clearance to put it on video).I will not be editing the context of the show and it will be for private viewing.

Is there any free software (for PC) that I can use to add captions? They will not be a feature on the main menu, just an addition to the video that you can't turn off.

I obviously don't know what I'm talking about so any help would be appreciated!

I work at Lowe's and I hear it all the time, I'm guessing it's from the 80's. It has a really cool synth riff in it and the lyrics go something like:

Nowhere left to go (repeats 3 times)

There is no turning back

And there's nothing left to say

I know there's more to it, but with the crappy sound system and the background noise/constant PA interruption it's hard to tell what it is.

Also, the song has an acoustic guitar underscore and is sang by a male singer. Some piano in this as well...

So somehow I downloaded something with spyware so I downloaded SpyBot and AdAware, plus I have Norton Antivirus, and I think I got rid of most of it, but since the spyware attack I have continually had this Yellow triangle icon with an exclamation point in the middle blinking in my lower right hand toolbar. Every few minutes it pops a balloon on to my page telling me "System Alert: Malware threats", click the balloon, and it takes you to a paysite to download some "anti spyware" software. Every once in a while it also takes me to an Internet Explorer page automatically (I use FireFox normally). Plus it gives me popups that are supposed to look like genuine Windows messages. I don't think they are genuine because they say something to the effect of "There is spyware infecting you computer". Emphasising it says "you" rather than "your". Anyway it's annoying, how can I fix it?