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okay so it may sound like im a nasty horrible person... but its not right.

basically my dad and step mum let my sister move into their over crowded house and they charge my sister rent to live there. but havn't declaired it to the council. so they are getting all these benefits, and the council doesnt no my sister is living there, or paying rent.

so i reported them today, as its not fair. yes i no its my own dad, but sorry, i work hard for my money and so does my sister. yet she has to pay them money that they get to keep for themselves (there rent is paid for by benefits)

what happens now? i reported them anonimosly today on the internet. will they investigate?

just curious as to what people class as cheating. like is a kiss cheating? or sending/receiving pics cheating if your in a relationship? or receiving oral when in a relationship cheating?

does it all depend on the person? help!

girls do you get embarrased when you fanny fart?? it happened to me the other day for the first time ever and i was MORTIFIED! to the point where i dont think i wanna have sex again :/

guys what do you think about them?

So i've loved this guy for 3 years (my work collegaue) and in the past we have had flings and slept together multiple times etc, but never actually gotten into a relationship. He has been dating a girl for 20 months yet will still see me, flirt, text, sleep with me. i dont need people telling me its wrong, because i know it is... like so wrong. i feel awful for his girlfriend, but if any of you have ever been in love, you know what it is like and how you cannot control it. not that its an excuse, coz its not. if i could stop my feelings i would.

anyway the past week he has been acting rather strange. we hooked up a week ago and had sex again and he told me he loved me too and he wants to be with me some day. now for the past few days ive been getting ignored... yet he has accused me in the past of being the one who does the ignoring and 'using'. i know what my heart is telling me, i just need people to tell me their opinions on why he is doing this...

my friends have told me he is only using me and i need to move on, i think he is using me too. guys am i right? i have no idea how the male brain works. i just don;t get why he would keep coming back time after time if i meant nothing to him? and surely if he was happy and loved his girlfriend he wouldnt cheat? all advice and answers much appreciated.

my daughter is 4 months old and things are difficult between me and her father. my mother takes my daughter to see her dad and its a supervised visit by my mum die to the fact he threatened to take my daughter away and not bring her back.

her dad is now demanding to see my daughter on his own, without my mother present, to which i refused and he is now getting all arsey. im panicking as i dont want it to go to court as i cant deal with the messy legal stuff.

im NOT refusing my babys dad access, he can see her when he likes, for however long he likes, on the condition my mother is present at ALL times.

can he take me to court over this?

well the guy I love has a girlfriend. But he cheated on his ex with me in the past, and did the same last week to his current girlfriend, with me again. He said he doesnt love his girlfriend, so I asked why are you with her and he wouldnt answer.

I text him last night and asked him why he has put 2 relationships at risk just for me and all I got back was 'I dont know' so i told him that maybe we shouldnt see each other again until he is single as it isnt fair on his current girlfriend (it killed me saying it as i love him so much, and am kinda regretting it now) He never replied to my text and has been ignoring me since.

im not proud of being part of this, but its not my problem at the end of the day, i'm single and i cant help who I love. guys please help, whats going on in his head?!

i really need help! i have an 8 week old daughter who wont sleep in her cot :( i put her in there and she just crys, ive tried everything. ive brought her a mobile to look at, i wrap her up so shes all snuggly and secure, ive tried putting her down awake, tried putting her in it when shes asleep (to which she wakes up in an instant) and ive even tried putting one of my t-shirts in there so she has my smell.

as much as i hate to admit it, ive been a soft touch these past 8 weeks and have given in, and let her sleep in my bed. please dont give me the 'youve only got yourself to blame' because i know its my own fault! any mother will know what its like when your so tired and will do anything for sleep. im also a single parent so dont have anyone else to help me, hence why i need all the sleep i can get... but ive had enough of it now, and i want to get her out my bed now, rather than 2 years down the line.

does anyone have anything else i could try? i really do need serious answers as im so stuck. any ideas (no matter how crazy) will be appreciated! i just want my bed back.

I'm a single mummy to a 6 week old baby girl. it's been the best 6 weeks of my life, but at the same time the worst. i feel so low, like at the lowest ive ever been. not because of my daughter, i love her to bits, but because of my body and confidence. i have stretch marks, wobbly bits, saggy boobs, i dread to think what its like in the downstairs department. i dont mean to sound ungrateful for having my baby, i know i should be proud of my body as it has carried my daughter for 9 months, but i feel replulsed everytime i look at it. i feel that if i cant love it, then noone will, and no one is going to want me. before i was pregnant i was always very confident (without sounding big headed) and felt comfortable with the way i looked, but now i hide away in baggy jeans and hoodies. im not posting this for attention or anything, i just really need some advice on how to deal with this. just the thought of getting naked infront of a man in the future makes me crindge, ive not even had any sexual desires and am petrified now of sex as ive heard it really hurts once you have given birth. im only 18, so still very young, does anyone else feel the same? or did you when you gave birth? :(

i gave birth vaginally 3 weeks ago and i tore right to my bum and had to be sewn up. now every time i poo it hurts and my bum bleeds, so im guessing ive been sewn up too tight? has anyone ever had this? if yes do they cut you and re sew you up? im too embarrased to see my doctor.

i had a vaginal delivery 8 days ago and had to be stitched as i tore really badly (to my bum) even now after 8 days its agony. i can wee ok, but pooing is awful. my vagina feels so tight (sorry TMI) and its so uncomfortable, i cant keep still. even pooing is awful, i can poo, but i can't feel when ive finished and it just gets very messy and i end up having to get in the bath to clean myself up (sorry once again TMI) this is my first baby so not sure if this is normal or not. once again sorry for the to much info bits. just want to no is this normal? or have they stitched me up wrong??

i had my daughter 3 days ago and i just checked my bank balance as its payday today and my work hasnt paid me. before i went on maternity leave they assured me i would continue getting paid and we arranged for when i was going to go back. im now in tears as i have no money what so ever which means i cant even priovide for my daughter. i feel like such a failure, i have no idea what to do. i cant ask family for help as i would have no way of paying them back. im in the UK, what or who can help?

my waters broke at 3.30 this morning. im from the uk so they broke 15 hours ago. the hospital sent me home. im getting contractions about every 5-7 minutes lasting approx 30 seconds to a minute. the pain is getting realy bad im pratically crying (im a wimp i know) i dont know if im dialated at all as the midwife didnt exam me, she only checked the colour of my waters (which was clear) ive had a bath about an hour ago but it didnt really help at all. when is it time to go into hospital? i literally cant do all this pain, im in agony and will never be having aymore children at this rate!

im due in 5 days and ive been having braxton hicks now for ages, today they have been coming and going about every 10-20 minutes. they don't hurt, but are so uncomfortable as they squeeze so tight and its hard to breathe. how do i no when im having real contractions? also ive been having very painful sharp stabbing pains in my vagina and sticky white/yellowish discharge for days? first baby so dont have a clue!

my babys fully engaged and ive been having braxton hicks all the time now for about a week. today ive been having ALOT of pressure on my pelvic region and really sharp shooting pains in my vagina which make me gasp as it hurts really bad. could my baby be coming any time soon? this is my first baby so dont have a clue.

i saw my midwife yesterday for a routine check up and she confirmed my baby is engaged. she said she could be wrong but shes guessing it won't be much longer now (her words were 'a few days') i had quite high blood pressure, swollen feet and protein in my wee, so ive got to go back tomorrow just as a precaution. ive been having braxton hicks now for about a week and in the last couple of days ive been having yellowish discharge and haven't stopped pooing which has been quite loose (sorry TMI) i had abit of a rough night last night as i was in alot of pain with my back and lower tummy. from what i remember if felt like a period does, the feeling where all the lining is coming away, you know when you get those awful cramps. so far today ive not had any pain, just the usual aches and sore hips etc. are all these early labour symptoms? if yes how long does it normally take for labour to get going. this is my first baby so i dont really know much.

im so confused, scan date says im due 23rd this month and going from my period i got given 18th, which is next week!

im 100% sure on my last period and when i ovulated and had sex, and going from the midwives date which is the 18th it all fits. where as the scan is saying i had sex a week later than i actually did which is impossible as i only had sex once.

what did you ladies find was more right? did your baby come nearer your scan date or your LMP due date?

this is my first baby. i did alot of walking this afternoon and now ive got mild cramping in my lower tummy. the best way i can describe it is it feels like someone is sitting on my pelvis/lower tummy. it doesnt hurt but is a little uncomfortable. from what i remember it feels like premenstural cramps (not had a period in ages obviously so im only saying i think its what it feels like as i cant remember) i think ive had a few braxton hicks as my tummy was very hard but it could have been my baby pushing out as shes been moving ALOT tonight. i saw my midwife exactly a week ago and my baby was 3/5 (half engaged) is this normal or could i expect things to move along abit? ive not had a show.

im 38 weeks pregnant and im getting so fed up and impatient. i ache, can barely walk, have the worst swollen painful feet ever. i literally cant deal with the pain anymore :( going from my last period i would be 39 weeks but going from my scan they are saying im only 38 weeks, so ive been put back a week which is so fustrating. im not asking for ways to induce my labour as i know the best place for my baby is inside my tummy at the moment to finish off maturing, what im asking is how can i deal with all the pain etc? is there anything i can do to make things abit more comfy?