Sam M

I ve been dating a girl for 3 months. Everything has been going great. I think she is the cutest sweetest girl on earth and really like her a lot. She has been married and was divorced a year ago. Today she began talking about dating people after her divorce. I didn t ask about it she just started talking about it. I said "what are you trying to tell me? You ve slept with a lot of people in the last year since your divorce?" She said yes. So then I asked a stupid question that I know better to ask. I said double digits? (Meaning slept with 10 or more in the last year and she said yes.) I m 33 years old and been with 8 people my entire life counting her. So 10 or more in a year seems like a lot to me. My concern is why would I be different from all these other rebounds? Why does she all the sudden want to have relationship with me? How do I know I m not just another rebound and she s keeping me around till the next guy she wants to sleep with comes along? Should I trust her? She s going on a cruise in a week for 10 days. If she can sleep with that many so quickly I d think that sex is not meaningful to her so why wouldn t she cheat on me while away on the cruise? I don t want to get to attached to this girl only to find out she s just keeping me around for fun. I want a real relationship, and now I m scared to do it with her. What can I do to help myself with this, it s making me crazy in my head!