R.P. Benton

Hi. I understand that women and ladies like to act in clever ways, but my intuition is just not strong enough for this one. So, maybe you're more skilled with the feminine mind, and in which case, yours is;

I've had a very sweet, very desirable female friend for a long time, who happens to be quite amateur at relationships. (She isn't able to hold on to one.)

We've traveled much of the world together, and spent enough time together on solo-adventures and recreational activities for anyone to think there is something more between us. Although she's almost always the organizer of these plans, know that she has no inclination to me, the way that I do have to her.

I also admire a foreign friend of hers, as she well knows by me kissing her foreign friend while we were all in Poland together.

My question is, why does my 'travel' friend - on very rare occasions - wish to magnetize to me so greatly that she would completely trust expressing to me anything intimate and anything personal about her? Though she would always make time for me to come visit her, why doesn't she always treat me with the general apathy and slight disregard I know to be more common from her...? Why at times does she always want me around to speak to, and why (during these times) does she always bring up that girl from Poland to me...? The first time she displayed this inclination, she was not happy in her current relationship. She displayed so much desire towards me, I was sure she was making a pass. Currently, she denies this, saying it was all confusion back then. (During such confusion, she admittedly surrendered to asking me, "Who would I rather date, herself or her Polish friend?")

The second time she behaved this way was on a trip together. She flew to me (in Europe at the time) then we went on a road trip, also to see her Polish friend (who was well over me by then). She spent the nights in my place, and was very sensitive to the slightest possibility of any disinclination I may have expressed for her.

Currently, she is doing the same things: quickly and repeatedly staying in touch with me, showing great concern for me, and involving me with talks she has decidedly reignited with her Polish friend again...

I don't boast to be a mind-reader when it comes to women, but flawed or approximate, I can usually manifest some notion of what the thoughts of the time might resemble in each their minds... enough to at least feel comforted that it is a possibility. But with my travel-friend, I can't even pretend to dissolve the curiosity. What is she thinking...? Can anyone explain the reasoning behind her actions...? Thanks