Erica

I am writing a paper on the "cost of addiction." I chose my topic to be on newborns who are born addicted. I am writing about the costs both financially and emotionally.

However, I am curious if anyone knows the proper protocol for CPS if a mother gives birth to a baby after she has been using during pregnancy? I know it varies to an open case with contracts and straight removal of the infant however, how does that get determined?

Any information anyone could share or recommended websites would be appreciated!

Thanks

The IRS sent my tax refund to my bank on Feb 10th. The notice said if I have not received it by Feb 15th to call my bank and ask if the have received the funds. I called my bank and they have not. What do I do next?

I tripled checked I made no typos. I have had this same bank acct since 2002 and have the routing and acct numbers memorized. I have had my last 5 returns deposited into this acct with no issues.

My main issue is I just moved last week so if a paper check is mailed that might be a problem as well.

I hope that makes sense. I will try and keep this as brief as possible.

My mother an addict had CPS take my sister when she was 4 weeks old, and after years in court lost her parental rights when she was 5. My sister is now 14 and my mom found her on Facebook and they speak regular. Now my mom is planning to go see my sister and this is all unknown to her parents, CPS, any courts, ect. All between her and my sister. I found out from my 16yr old brother who is also planning to see her (mom and her ex lost custody of my brother when he was 12 after a 1yr court battle to his brother on his dads side). I am blown away and feel my sister has gone through enough and my mom shouldn't be contacting her unless her adoptive parents are aware.

Is there legal consequences to this? I hate to see my mother get into trouble but as a mother and as an older sister I am concerned for my sisters metal health.

I don't know if it matters but I am the oldest (was raised by my father thankfully who isn't an addict) age 31, and live in WA

I am looking into buying my pre-teens their first laptops for Christmas. I am not wanting to invest a ton of money into them since they are still pretty young. This will be like a "training tool" in having your own computer and how to take care of it. That way when it is time to buy them a better computer for high school they have learned some responsibility.

Their needs are pretty much the same. They both are in Middle school and attend a Charter school. I want them to be able to start using these for homework. My 12yr old isn't really interested in computers and rarely tries using the family computer for anything besides homework. My 13yr old loves to play video games but he is very limited in the amount of time he is allowed on there so I would like something mainly for school work and maybe can flawlessly run his online games when allowed.

Any tips would be appreciated. Technology is generally dad's department but this year I am attempting it on my own.

My ex and I have an intense history. We met when we were 12 and he had a crush on me. Finally at 16 we became a couple. He instantly fell and love with me and I didn't feel at all the same. I was his first love. When I broke up with him it broke his heart with out a doubt. I got pregnant and married my next boyfriend and my ex attempted suicide and ended up getting help. When my marriage fell apart we got back together however he was into partying to much and again I left and he was hurt (not near like before). He has always been close with my brother and has made no secret of how he feels about me to anyone and everyone and that I broke his heart.

About 4yrs ago my brother reconnected us and we got back together. We ended up having 2 children and he was a good father to my son. I was the main bread winner but he always worked. He always made me feel loved and special. I trusted him and see it in his eyes he has intense feelings for me. When I got pregnant with our first he was so excited, super devoted, ect. Was a good boyfriend. Of course we discussed marriage. I got pregnant again right away (our kids are 12m apart) and right after our youngest was born I got ppd. We began argueing a lot and when he was 3 months old I left him.

He called crying and confiding his love. Until Feb we were working hard on our issues and I was about to come home when I discovered he relapsed (we have been in recovery since 98). I told him he needed to get help and I won't come back til he does. He literally cried and begged me not to reconsider coming home. Then he vanished til April on a bender and got a new girlfriend. He went to jail and she bailed him out. He called me and asked to see the kids and I and work towards "having his family back" he got kicked out of his house and he literally has burnt all his bridges cuz his addiction. He moved in with his gf but swears he is using her for a home. He blew up my phone texting and calling and wanting to see me. I saw him and it was great and although he held hands and we acted like a couple he didn't try having sex. I decided at that point he needs to move before I can continue and he bailed out again! Btw he was a great dad til Feb.

So 2 weeks ago I text and ask if he is ready to be a dad again. The first visit we were friendly and minor flirting when exchanging and I felt sparks but nothing serious. By the end of the weekend he was contacting me via text and email while workiing confiding his love and blah blah. Well his gf likes to snoop and saw the messages and flipped out. So we made a seperate email acct.

Things started getting sexualb right away and we were having very long serious talks and planning our future. Well girlfriend got wind and emailed me.

Apperantly he has been sleeping with this chick on and off since I was pregnant with our 2yr old. He told her he has feelings for me and always has. He tells her he has feelings for her but tells me he uses her for a place to live (he pays support and sends me half his income and after debts he created his income is basically like a welfare recipients). His brother tells me the same but come on its his brother.

So in anger at this girl I respond with proof. Then I get a call from him apperantky she is going off and breaking his stuff blah blah and he has the balls to be mad at me for telling her our plans knowing she is crazy. He denies cheating and when I say I don't believe him he tells me not to call him. That was Thurs. Fri he text some family guy vid and I responded (idiot I know) with a vid and he was making jokes. I told him unless about the kids lose my number. I haven't heard a peep since.

I am not hung up on him or wanting him back. I actually feel relief and closure.

I want to know why he wastes all the time and energy convincing me he is so in love with me if he is with the girl he apperantly worked so hard to sneak behind my back and see. We were intimate this time yes and 2 times at their house (filled with my furnature lol). Why would he risk being homeless to have sex with me. Its flattering to say I'm good but nobody is that good. But even when we don't have sex he is still reaching to me. I don't see how you cheat with someone you're so in love with and I won't take him back. He knows my thoughts on this.

Why did he go through the trouble all this time?

Sorry so long and thanks

So I'm probably being dramatic and don't want to be over reacting so I need opinions or advice.

Wed morning I had my last 2 impacted wisom tooth removed. These were much more difficult then the 1st 2 because how close they were to my molars roots. The bottom had to be broken and was hooked in the bone. I only had local for pain.

The first 2 days were fine. Other then being tired from meds I had basically no pain. Sat evening my jaw started throbbing slightly and I began getting that foul taste from the bottom tooth. Sun I felt more jaw and site pain and started considering dry socket. My mom and grams both said the site is normal. I kept with salt rinses, rest and managed to take most of my vicodin yesterday because of the pain. Btw I felt flu like since the procedure so didn't eat all weeked due to extreme nausea.

This morning I still felt rundown but hungry finally, my mouth pain was increased. I had to attend 2 classes due to tests but managed down some food and knew instantly when a peice got into my hole. I tried to wash it out with no luck. I can see it in there and yes its food not scab. I have no more odor and like to keep it that way. By this evening my pain is insane. Its from ear to chin. Intense stabbing/throbbing and nagging. I got 2 vicodin from a family member with only helping the edge. She says it looks fine. I'm still swollen btw no fever. I was temted to go to the er but afraid I will look silly cuz my family makes it out like I'm trippen. I gave birth natural 2 times and have a high pain tolerence. I get gull bladder attacks I can tough out but this pain I'm about to freak out. I also have been icing my jaw constantly.

Do I have a reason for concern?

My first 2 nothing like this, went to work 2 days later.

Thanks

I am a mother to 5 children ages 10, 9, 4, 16 months and my youngest is almost 3 months. I don't know if I have ppd or if its something else. I have never been told I had ppd with my previous children. Things are just not good with my husband and I.

Let me start off by saying he got laid off in Nov. Still has not found a job. I have never complained about it at all. Now our savings is drained and we just had a baby. I started a new job 3 weeks ago. It was not the most ideal job for a new mom but paid the bills. Only prob is it was working graveyards.

Yesterday my husband and I got into a fight. He choked me and I went to call the police. He took my cell phone and phone jack to our home phone and left. He has not been back since but his mom just brought me my cell about an hour ago. I am heart broke. I can't believe he did this to me and I know what I have to do is leave. However since nobody would take the kids last night I had to call in my new job and today I have no sitter again and they are letting me go. Now I am really screwed. My grandma wants me to come stay with her. What am I suppose to do? I know I would tell anyone else to leave if there spouse choked them but I am so depressed. I don't even know what I said or did to make him so mad at me. Last week he actually head butted me in the nose and everyday I get bitched at for sleeping during the day. I get home about 8am and sleep from 11am to 3 or 4pm. I start work at 10pm (or started) just had my tubes tied and not suppose to be lifting but I started my job 2 days later and requires a lot of lifting because my family needed me to do what I had to do.

To top it off now my hot water tank is leaking and I have no clue what to do and he knows but its my problem. I turned off the hot water and the breaker but now I have no warm water for baths or dishes. My grams lives about an hour away so I would have to change schools in Sept for the kids and start job searching and be pretty much on welfare. I feel like such a loser.

Does anyone know anyone I can talk to?

I am not trying to be rude or critical but it just grosses me out when people talk about "yolk sac" when referring to pregnancy.

It makes me think of eggs and chickens not babies.

I just had my 5th baby 2/21 (3 weeks ago). I am still wearing maternity clothes and a little afraid to attempt my pre pregnancy clothes because I know I am bigger then I was.

My youngest 2 children are only a year apart so I never lost the weight from baby #4 when I got pregnant. With my first I never got back to my pre pregnancy size but I was a size 3 and went to a 7. I was perfectly happy at that size. After the birth of my 2nd, 3rd, and 4th I was able to get back into my pre pregnancy jeans right away.

Now I am 3 weeks after baby and I know I can't fit into my clothes yet. I do breastfeed. When should I give in and buy some larger clothes? Is it normal not to drop the weight soon? How long should I wait?

I know this prob sounds vain which I can't express to you how vain I am not. I am just looking for some advice because having 5 kids I am on a budget and not wanting to spend money on clothing if its normal to lose the weight later and I don't know if the past 3 pregnancies have just been luck to drop the weight right away.

I know diet and exercise will help me but that takes time.

Thanks

Hi everyone!

I am 39 weeks and yesterday had my weekly appt with my midwife. I have been having the worst sciatica this pregnancy and she offered to sweep my membranes to see if she can "stir up some trouble".

When she did the exam she told me I have progressed to 4cm dilated, 75% effaced and a -1 station. While doing my sweep she took her time and told me she was "easily able to sweep my membranes". She told me there would be some spotting and even some contractions. I was told to eat some lunch, take a nice walk, take some Tylenol Pm (I had only slept 2 hrs the night before due to my sciatica) and go to bed. I did just that.

My bleeding was more then what I would call spotting. I noticed red blood when I went to put my pants back on in the exam room. I had bled through 3 panty liners during my lunch and walk. When I got home I noticed the blood had turned brownish which I figured was going away. Well here I am at 4:30pm the next day and still spotting. The spotting is pink. I am not having any contractions that are beyond the normal ones I got prior to the sweep.

Is this bleeding about right or am I bleeding to much and need to call?

Thanks so much for your help.

Hi everyone!

I am 2 days shy of 39 weeks with my 5th baby. Every pregnancy I have had sciatic nerve pain. This pregnancy it has been manageable until the last few days. I have been trying to prevent it by not standing for long periods of time, stretches and pelvic tilts, I was taking a swimming class until 2 weeks ago (the session ended and I will have my baby by the time the next session is half way through so waste of $), avoiding heavy lifting, ect.

Does anyone have any suggestions on easing this pain? I do use hot and warm packs, warm baths, and massage. Massage seems to be most effective usually because it seems like when my husband massages my back the baby moves and gets off the nerve but he must not have any room because its not working. I would rate the pain at this point an 8. I literally slept 2hrs last night and have been up miserable since 1am.

I see my midwife today btw.

Thank you for your time!